If you chat with other mothers and find that everyone has enrolled their children in more than one interest class, such as painting, dancing, handicrafts, etc., will you be very anxious?
My friend's child just went to kindergarten. My friend said that he thought the child was only over three years old, so he didn't consider signing up for the child's interest class. He thought that as long as the child had fun and had fun, he found that many parents picked up their children from kindergarten in the afternoon and took their children straight to the interest class. Almost all the children in
class are attending various interest classes, which makes friends very anxious and think that they have to sign up for their children to several interest classes.
can understand my friends’ anxiety very well, after all, I also came from that stage.
In fact, my suggestion for whether to sign up for interest classes for your child is: it is still necessary to sign up for one or two according to your child's preferences.
As a experienced person, I want to give some advice to anxious mothers:
First of all, it is necessary to sign up for interest classes, but interest classes are mainly based on the children's wishes. Parents should not overfille, over-expect, blindly make choices, or compare with the trend.
Some parents will apply for their children when they see other children enroll. This is a taboo. Each child is good at different points and has different interests. Parents must take their children to experience more different courses before signing up for classes, so that their children can choose courses they like and are interested in.
Moreover, we parents should remember our original intention of enrolling children's interest classes, which is to cultivate their children's interests and hobbies. Don't learn to become a tool for grading exams. They have too high expectations for their children and want them to make breakthroughs one by one, which can easily erase their children's interests.
reminds parents not to report to their children which one they think is good; they should not submit to their children if they are around them, and they should also follow them. They do not report to their children if they do activities and feel they are cheap.
The parents enrolled in the class by themselves. If the children don’t like it and are unwilling to study, wouldn’t the money be wasted?
Secondly, you can try more when you are 3 to 6 years old, and you need to do screening after you are 6 years old.
To be honest, when children are in kindergarten and elementary school, they have sufficient time, the school courses are low and there is less homework. This period is very suitable for developing children's interests and hobbies.
So, I really agree that when children are young, let them try, explore different courses, and find their favorite hobbies.
Kindergarten stage, parents can try more different interest classes for their children. Only when the children experience it themselves can they know whether they like it or not. Maybe the child likes it very much at the beginning, but after learning for a while, or the child doesn't like it very much at the beginning, but he suddenly becomes interested as he learns. This is normal. Parents don't want their children to start but miss them, and give their children more opportunities to try.
When the children have tried it, after the age of 6, parents should help their children select one or two interest classes that they like very much and can persist in for a long time, and persist in learning. This is also a good opportunity to train their children's perseverance.
Today's children are all versatile. I don't think that when we born in the 1970s and 1980s, we didn't have the financial conditions at home at that time, and when we didn't have so many interest classes to choose from at that time.
With the financial conditions of the family, parents will choose more interest classes for their children so that their children can try a colorful life and study. This is also a good thing for their children, and it can also enhance their children's self-confidence.
If you want to sign up for your child’s interest classes, parents can follow three principles:
1. A small number of classes + family guidance
Children’s interest cultivation cannot be achieved by relying on external forces. It is not just about spending money to send the child to the interest class. More interest cultivation still requires the guidance of parents and the influence of the family atmosphere.
Take the painting as an example. The painting class one week is far from enough for the cultivation of children's interest.
Parents also need to encourage their children. When their children draw a painting that their parents cannot understand, parents can encourage and guide their children to say what they want to express. On weekends and holidays, if they can take their children to art galleries, museums, and art galleries to see more, buy some picture albums for their children, or go to a bookstore to read related picture books and books, these can inspire their children to love art and art.
2. Short-term skills class + long-term training class combined with
Short-term skills class mainly teaches children how to play, such as roller skating , swimming, balls, etc., which children can usually learn in the short term. Generally, this type of short-term classes can help children learn well during the winter and summer vacations. Children can learn it in ten days and half a month, and after learning it, the children can play by themselves.
long-term training class, such a coherent project that determines thinking and habits, requires long-term persistence of children and parents and strong inner motivation to support it. For example, piano, dance, Go, English, painting, etc.
Once these projects start, they have to be studied for at least several years. It is recommended that after the age of 6, parents should not let their children try back and forth. Choose one or two long-term persistence based on their children's hobbies and understanding, and find relatively professional teachers to help their children strive to achieve semi-professional level.
My child started learning Go in kindergarten. After 5 years of persistence, he finally reached the 5th stage of Go amateur. After 5 years of persistence and continuous participation in Go competitions, the child's concentration, resistance to setbacks, logical thinking ability, calculation ability, etc. have been well trained.
3. principle of proximity
Children go to interest classes, picking up and dropping off is a big problem. If it is too far away, it will consume a lot of time and energy.
So, when signing up for interest classes for your children, I suggest that parents can choose nearby. Moreover, if there are multiple interest classes, the distance between each interest class should not be too far. This will save a lot of time. If you want your child to go to class for two hours at a time, if you waste two hours back and forth on the road too far, the time cost will be too high and the children and parents will be very tired.
If you have a home near your home, you can’t take up all your rest time, entertainment time and weekend family time because of your interest class. It is advisable to have no more than two interest classes at the same time.
Every parent hopes that their children can have something they are interested in and find happiness in what they like, so it is still very necessary to let their children learn one or two interests or specialties in kindergarten and elementary school.
If you are lucky enough to discover your child’s interests, such as starting to learn several interest classes at the same time, but one of the courses is relatively outstanding, or the child is very interested, then you can focus on cultivating it.
If you haven’t found out where your child’s interests are, it doesn’t matter. Pay more attention, take your child closer to nature, and go to science and technology museums, museums, libraries and other places. If your child has more contact with you, you will have an answer gradually.
Do your child be in an interest class? What factors do you think should be considered when choosing an interest class? Let’s talk about it together.
