Today, neighbors who are neither relatives nor friends rarely have the intimacy of " Ode to Joy 3" on the 22nd floor, and strangers from different classes are even more shunned.
The mutual help performed by the five girls is really enviable. They and their original families still maintain the Chinese local traditions of the previous generation. Some are poor, some favor boys over girls, some are rich, some are intellectual middle class, and some are mysterious.
plus their respective work units, a small society extending from the 22nd floor of Ode to Joy Community reflects many interesting social issues. This article takes three girls in 2022 as an example to talk about their path dependence in their growth, and discuss how it would feel to get along with each of them in reality.
Life has many limitations. Several girls in 2022 do not have the same conditions as Ye Zhenzhen. Even He Minhong has to gradually learn to "wean off" financially. Among the three of them, her original family has the best financial situation. However, her parents not only have no experience in mixed society, but also kept He Minhong in a " sterile room " and fed him a lot of "chicken soup", but He Minhong's In terms of self-esteem, it seems that I have never lived in a dormitory in college.
Among the few people, Zhu Zhe is the oldest, 32 years old and not yet married. She graduated from a vocational high school and through her own hard work was promoted to hotel manager. She sent her younger siblings to college, but not only did she receive nothing in return, but she continued to be missed by them. They had no choice but to cut off their kinship with and .
started from the grassroots level of the hotel, which is a very good choice for her. Not only can the hotel industry share the dividends of the country's rapid economic growth, but most of its competitors are grassroots people with low cultural literacy, making it relatively easy to get ahead. But the overall social status is not high, and Zhu Zhe's ex-boyfriend dumped her because he looked down on this job in the service industry.
We talk about the path dependence of growth. First, we mean that growth must face objective conditions. Second, we mean that subsequent growth depends on early accumulation. It is difficult for Zhu Zhe to have any chance in a white-collar position with his academic qualifications. Now that he has become a manager in the hotel industry, he may not be able to get around his academic qualifications if he goes forward.
Zhu Zhe has already realized that her cautiousness in her work clearly indicates a sense of crisis. At least I feel the pressure for promotion based on academic qualifications.
Zhu Zhe not only knows that growth in this industry depends on "details" (doing simple things well), but she also knows the way of the workplace. On the other hand, take advantage of competition and go with the flow. Treat everyone with both kindness and power, and try to do your "homework" (various records) in advance. As the saying goes: "The best plan for the known things, and be prepared for the unknown things." (Musk's mother's famous saying)
The growth of Yu Chuhui It can be summarized as: Children from poor families become masters early. The important thing is not to be poor, but to be rotten. My father is such a scumbag, cheating and violent. She, a girl, had to be "both civil and military" to become her mother's protector. Yu Chuhui had to solve problems independently since she was a child and take responsibility for any adverse consequences. This is the biggest difference between her and Stanley Ho.
Goal orientation, risk assessment, unexpected response, failure aftermath..., she has practical experience in the whole process. And He Minhong was used to a lot of "chicken soup". When he looked at others, he always said "they should do this, they should do that...", but when he burned himself, he realized that "chicken soup" could not extinguish the fire. I can only blame the blame, or call my mother for help.
He Minhong’s mother is a person who knows books and is polite, but the thinking logic of her generation can no longer open the lock of the next generation. The rhythms of the two generations are completely different, including the density of knowledge, the pace of life, and cognitive concepts... This is especially true for the intellectual middle class. The older generation is relatively well-behaved, while the intellectual middle class has more idealistic constraints.
He Minhong has a sense of superiority and is called a "happy child" by Yu Chuhui.But she found that none of her colleagues and friends around her could understand her. One didn't understand, two didn't understand... Neither of them understood her, and it didn't make her have self-doubt. Do you think she has to have more self-esteem to become so sick?
He Minhong’s growth has formed obvious path dependence. No matter in the company or in her circle of friends, she can no longer continue the “ideal picture” brought by her native family. Her ego (also a certain kind of selfishness) has been destroyed many times. Still feeling indifferent after being frustrated. I really don’t know what “reversal” her future growth will be based on?
It is said that frustration is the best teacher, but she seems to be "getting out of control" and I am really worried about when her chicken soup brain will "break up". Are you indifferent to the kindness of others and the mistakes you have made? It seems that it only restarts after crashing!
But in reality, no matter how unclear He Minhong is, he is at best a "shit stirrup" or a "pig teammate". She's full of chicken soup, so she shouldn't have any thoughts of "active aggression". But if the person around you is Yu Chuhui, even if she is full of justice, you may be accidentally injured.
People with high levels of motivation will be more aggressive in doing things. Utility may lead them to cross the line occasionally, do you agree? What about Zhu Zhe?
Zhu Zhe has the most "sense of propriety" in doing things. She was injured by Stanley Ho, but he still helped her, but he has become better at protecting himself.
In reality, if your colleague is Zhu Zhe, does that mean he must be better than He Minhong? The judgment of good or bad is a value judgment and often comes with its own stance. At that time, you will feel that Zhu Zhe is so thoughtful, isn't there any pressure around her?
Okay, even if Ye Zhenzhen, who is like the Queen Mother, is your colleague, won't you feel any pressure? Everyone has their own pursuits. If they understand each other, seek common ground while reserving differences, and try to form a reasonable " ecological niche " (division of labor), they will get along more comfortably.
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