I recently watched a movie called "Future Summer". The couple in the movie concealed their divorce so that their daughter could pass the college entrance examination. Due to the parents' lack of confession, the sensitive daughter blamed her parents' emotional alienation on her mo

recently watched the movie "Future Summer". In order for the daughter to pass the college entrance examination, the couple in the movie concealed their divorce. Due to the parents' lack of confession, the sensitive daughter blamed her parents' emotional alienation on her mother's cheating.

In the anger of betrayal, the daughter who was born with hatred because of love kept fighting against her mother. A life of suspicion destroyed the beautiful mother-daughter relationship and also affected her daughter's study. Even at the important moment of the college entrance examination, the daughter in the movie deliberately messed up to vent the hurt caused to her by learning that her parents were divorced.

Parents’ deliberate concealment caused misunderstandings with their children, leading to tragedy.

In some other cases where parents concealed their divorce and were discovered by their children, it is not difficult to find that most of the time children will blame their parents' unhappiness on themselves. In their hearts, they are a burden to their parents, and the result today is caused by their appearance. Once this kind of thought appears, the child will be very self-blame and even run away from home.

Families that stay together after divorce may seem to maintain peace on the surface, but in fact they have long been separated. The alienation, indifference, and even secret competition between husband and wife cannot be hidden from the eyes of children, but the paranoid decisions of parents may mislead the children's judgment and often cause great harm to the children's souls. In other words, a marriage that has existed in name only may cause more harm to the children than divorce.

Data shows that 32% of children have psychological problems due to family reasons. If parents often quarrel and have a bad relationship , the child's performance will also be greatly affected. It can be said to be the main reason for the child's poor performance. .

I have a classmate who is a particularly smart boy with a delicate mind, active thinking, and good academic performance. However, a sudden change completely changed him. He no longer paid attention to his studies, but began to have bad relationships with others. Teenagers who were accustomed to hanging out together learned to smoke, drink, and fight in groups. Later I learned that the reason for this change was that he suddenly learned that his parents were divorced! Now that I think about this matter, I still feel that it is a pity. If his parents had handled this matter properly, his future path might be smoother!

There is another classmate whose parents divorced when he was in elementary school. During that time, he obviously felt unhappy. However, he did not give up. Instead, he studied hard, was admitted to the military academy, and became an excellent soldier. I rarely saw him after he was in high school. I only knew that he would go back to the village to visit his grandparents every winter and summer vacation. I think his parents should have handled the divorce fairly well.

It can be seen that the impact of divorce on the growth of children is not decisive. What is important is how to explain this matter clearly to the children.

First of all, you must tell him that the two of you are separated not because of the children's problems, but because you just want to improve the current problems at home.

Secondly, you must maintain each other's dignity in front of the children, tell the children that the other party is a responsible parent, and the separation between the two of you is a matter between the two of you.

Finally, tell your children that even if your parents are separated, their love and care for you will not decrease, and will even be more than before.

I believe that you who care about your children will be able to accompany your children through the transition period calmly, cheer up, and become better people together with your children!