We have always said that we should speak well. But what is the best way to speak well?
For example, it's summer vacation and the children have played for a day. In the evening, they should read a book and do some homework. You can say, "Baby, we had a lot of fun today. There is still some time before going to bed. How about we read a book together?" Your child will listen to you even if he is not happy.
But if you say, "Have fun, you will know how to play in one day. Do you still want to study hard? If you don't study hard now, no one will want you to be a cleaner when you grow up." If this sentence comes out, your child will either try his best Resist your demands or remain silent and ignore you.
Even if parents keep talking like this, the parent-child relationship will become increasingly tense. Even after adolescence, you find that your child is becoming more and more rebellious, but you still don't know where the problem is. Even if you now know the root of the problem, you find that no matter how hard you try to repair the parent-child relationship, it still doesn't help.
For another example, in the middle of summer, there was a sudden power outage at home. At this time, my wife muttered, "You play mobile phones and games every day, and you don't even know when the electricity bill is finished. What contribution can you make to this family in a day?" I thought that after these words were spoken, the relationship between husband and wife must have dropped to the freezing point. Well, the husband will probably slam the door and walk out, and the wife will have to pay for the charging herself.
But if the wife says, "Oh, why did the power suddenly go out? Why did I forget to pay the electricity bill [crying]. Husband, I have to work hard for you." Presumably her husband ran to charge the phone in a hurry.
As the old saying goes, there are three ways to say something, and it is best to say it skillfully. In fact, when you talk well, you will find that communication between parents and children, husband and wife, colleagues, neighbors, and all other people is no longer a problem. My anger is relieved and my face is smiling, so why not do it.
