The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been very awkward.
Although the burden of raising children nowadays basically falls on grandma, if grandma wants to compete for the opportunity to raise a baby, grandma is helpless.
Unless they are grandmothers who really don’t like raising children and have extra arrangements in life, they will not mention anything about raising children. Even if their sons suggest it, their attitude will be very firm.
The son asked his mother to help take care of the baby, but the mother refused. Mother: I don’t need you to raise me when I am old.
Xiao Wang from Anhui was promoted to a new status soon after his marriage. The happy family of two became a family of three, although this is reasonable. It happened, but the family was still very happy, and they were all grateful for the arrival of this little life.
But grandma was the only one who was very unhappy. Xiao Wang saw his mother's emotional changes, so he secretly asked her what was going on. At first, her mother didn't say anything, but after Xiao Wang's hard work, her mother still started talking. Let’s face it, I don’t want to take care of your children.
When this reason was mentioned, Xiao Wang was actually not surprised. On the one hand, his mother’s lifestyle was different, and her emotional investment in herself since childhood was very limited. It was completely different from those traditional mothers. Xiao Wang’s mother was more Think about yourself.
On the other hand, the mother’s recognition of her daughter-in-law is not very high. From the time the two fell in love to the time they got married, my mother never looked satisfied. Maybe it's because the daughter-in-law's family background is not very good and she grew up in a single-parent family, or maybe she simply doesn't like this person.
But Xiao Wang didn't take this matter to heart at the time. He always felt that there was no grandma who didn't like her grandson. After the child was born, her attitude would change drastically. I just didn't expect that even after the child was born, the mother still maintained a very determined attitude.
This incident directly annoyed my wife. After all, no one in her family can help her take care of the children. Her only hope is her mother-in-law. It still ends like this. Just when she wants to fight back, her mother-in-law preemptively strikes: I don’t need you when I get old. keep. Xiao Wang and his wife were immediately overwhelmed.
Why have the attitudes of grandmothers changed so much?
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has left them with lingering fears.
When it comes to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, many juniors think it is a big deal and extremely troublesome. There is no perfect solution at all, even When the problem didn't arise, I backed down first.
In fact, in this difficult and embarrassing relationship, the mother-in-law is also very passive. She also wants to have a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it is a good story wherever she goes. And when her son was caught in the middle, she was in a very bad mood.
However, there seems to be no perfect solution to this problem. The best solution is to reduce the number of contacts, avoid interacting with and interfering with each other, and have a life of your own. Therefore, mothers-in-law will actively avoid opportunities for interaction. If you are not careful, it will become a situation where you will never interact with each other until death.
After all, neither person will sacrifice themselves to cater to the other. Even the harmony gained under such circumstances will not last long.
has a more cutting-edge lifestyle
According to the traditional lifestyle, the older generation must unconditionally contribute to the younger generation. They must not only sacrifice their own quality of life and living environment for their children, but also sacrifice for their children. If Four generations living under one roof want to squeeze out the last bit of value from themselves.
But most mothers-in-law nowadays will not tie themselves up like this. When you face your own children, giving is a matter of course, but if your children still ask you to give, wouldn't it be a bit of a moral kidnapping?
For them, simple material contributions are okay, giving money to their children every month, buying some things and gifts, but when it comes to more things, it is not that simple. Especially your own interests and time.
After all, it is a dilemma for the elderly to raise children. Even if the service is not in place, it will fall short due to a little oversight on your part, and become the material and source for your daughter-in-law to dislike you and make irresponsible remarks. This feeling of having neither merit nor hard work is really frustrating.
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How is the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? What would you do if your mother-in-law said this to you? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!
