When I wrote this article, I had just finished being angry with my child and sat down in front of the computer. I really couldn't find a place to vent. The reason was that my child put her feet on the door of the drum washing machine early in the morning and asked me to get her watercolor painting paper while the clothes were being dried. Her watercolor paper was placed on a cabinet on the balcony. There were some books and papers in the cabinet. I didn't know which handbag contained the watercolor paper, so I asked her repeatedly.
Before I could finish asking, I heard a "bang" and the door of the washing machine fell down. At that moment, I was both surprised and angry. I yelled directly at the child: "Go away! See how I deal with you!"
was so angry. It was something she could have done by herself. The conflict suddenly occurred, and the child realized that he was wrong. With tears in his eyes, he kept saying: "Mom, I'm sorry, I'm sorry!" Then he picked up the door of the washing machine and said that it could be repaired.
"Yes, it can be repaired. Do you know how much it will cost?" I continued to shout at her loudly.
Then I ran to get a badminton racket, and I wanted to hit her. After the child ducked, he stretched out his hands to me. Crying and saying: "Mom, hit here, hit here."
"I won't hit you today. Next time you do these things to me, I will never show mercy." My voice may be heard by nearby neighbors. Arrived, but I was so pissed off, especially thinking about the hassle of fixing the washer.
What surprised me even more was that because I was angry about worrying about my children, I forgot about the breakfast being cooked in the kitchen. I only smelled a burnt smell, so I ran to the kitchen and saw the pot on the gas stove steaming. There was white smoke, and the bottom of the pot had dried up. If I had been slower, it would have turned into a fire. I hurriedly turned off the gas stove, turned around and covered my eyes. It was only at that moment that I calmed down and realized that I had lost control.
After about ten minutes to calm down, the child started crying while sitting in my arms. I don’t know if she was wronged or because she was afraid that she had done something wrong, which almost caused a fire in the kitchen.
"From now on, you can do your own things and eat on time. You don't have to pester me to do everything for you. You are no longer a child." I wiped the child's tears while helping her analyze the cost of her mistakes.
The child nodded and said: "I will do it, mom."
After that, she took the garbage I left at the door downstairs and threw it away. This was the first time that she took the initiative to help me with some housework.
The washing machine door is broken. There is no way but to accept it. No matter how much you blame the child, it is useless. The only thing you can do is to tell the child not to make the same mistake again. Fortunately, the child learned the lesson and made corrections. If I indulge my children without principles and can break things at home without being criticized, then I am making a mistake.
Faced with the long vacation, every parent will encounter bottlenecks in managing children. How to resolve conflicts with children is an issue that deserves great attention. Living in the same family environment, everyone is free, and parents and children cannot interfere with each other at will. Parents will only stay on top when absolutely necessary. Just think about it, which child didn't push his parents to a dead end before the conflict intensified and was resolved by force?
Harmonious coexistence and communication with children are issues that parents need to study throughout their lives. We cannot cast a shadow on the parent-child relationship because of rude behavior, nor can we lack discipline for our children because of selfishness. Only if we discipline our children carefully, Only then can you accept the adult point of view.
If time permits, take advantage of the summer vacation to walk around with your children, take long trips, or participate in parent-child activities, and do the most meaningful things together. These can increase the intimacy between parents and children. If you don’t have enough time, you can also use the summer vacation to pay more attention to your children’s studies, provide more psychological counseling, and cultivate a common outlook on life with your children, so that your children can feel that family affection is tolerance, forgiveness, understanding and mutual support. Solve cold communication problems from trivial daily matters.
Children will definitely receive the best education from their parents’ classrooms during the summer vacation, which is very important for children.
