The ancients said: There are three types of unfilial piety, the worst is not having an heir! Everyone who comes to this world needs to shoulder the responsibility of passing on the family lineage.
However, everyone has the right to choose and control their own life, and outsiders cannot interfere. Especially modern young people are facing huge economic pressure and mental pressure. Compared with the elderly, their ideological concepts have changed a lot.
When it comes to having children, some young couples choose to be DINK . Their choice is naturally negotiated by the young couple. However, the elderly cannot pass this test, so they The young man kept persuading him earnestly.
Located in Changchun, Jilin, a netizen shared a short family video. In the picture, a middle-aged woman and a young man were sitting at opposite ends of the sofa, arguing excitedly.
The relationship between them is that of mother-in-law and son-in-law. As the saying goes, the more mother-in-law looks at her son-in-law, the happier she becomes. Why did they quarrel?
The daughter sat silently in front of the window and did not participate in the quarrel between her mother and her husband. It could be seen that she was also very nervous, because the mother and her husband had a fierce quarrel because their young couple did not want children.
It turned out that the daughter and son-in-law had been married for more than a year. Both parents were looking forward to having a grandchild as soon as possible, but there was no movement from the daughter. The old people became anxious and asked them what the reason was.
Under repeated questioning by his mother-in-law, the son-in-law had no choice but to tell the truth. He and his wife had agreed to become a DINK family. Such a decision completely angered his mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law couldn’t help but asked her son-in-law angrily: Why don’t you want to have children? Why are you so different? Why can't we just follow the path of a normal person? I really don’t understand where your thoughts come from?
The more the old lady talked, the more angry she became. She said that we don’t expect you to give birth to a genius or a scientist, just a healthy and cute child. We don’t require the child to go to Harvard or Oxford in the future. In the future, he will become a normal child and just work and live step by step like ordinary people.
The man smiled helplessly and had to say: First of all, he said that he is a normal man. The reason why he does not want children is because he has too high requirements for children. In addition, he is worried that his financial strength cannot give his children a better life and that he is worried that his children will suffer. , and also worried that he could not educate his children well.
In the end, the conversation ended on bad terms. The woman said that since her mother learned that the two wanted DINK, she would come to her home every once in a while to persuade her son-in-law.
Netizens have been talking about this. They say that parents in the world are pitiful. Who doesn’t want to have more children and happiness, and enjoy the happiness of a family in the future? If the children choose DINK, the elderly will definitely not be able to accept it.
However, some netizens said that if I were the mother-in-law, I would not say anything. After all, it is my daughter who suffers the hardships of giving birth and raising children.
Some netizens also said that when they were young, they wanted to enjoy freedom and did not want to take responsibility. When they get older, they will know that there is no regret medicine in the world.
Some netizens even said bluntly that if it is a DINK, it is recommended that the woman should think clearly. After all, no matter how old a man is, he will have many opportunities in the future, but there is an age limit for a woman. After she is over 40, it will be difficult to have a child.
Author's opinion:
Although reproductive rights are personal rights and cannot be interfered with by outsiders, out of responsibilities to the family and filial piety to the elderly, couples still have a child while they are young. After all, Chinese society generally has traditional family concepts and accepts them. Can't understand the phenomenon of DINK.
When you have children, you will have hope. They will bring infinite joy to the family. Raising children is also a sweet responsibility, tiring and happy at the same time.
For families that choose DINK, there are many people who will regret it when they are old, so it is better to listen to the old man's advice. While you are young, the old man can help take care of the children, and you can feel more relaxed.
