Speaking of confinement, many mothers have a lot of bitterness to talk about, not only because of the strict rules and various taboos during confinement, but also because the concept of confinement is different from that of the older generation. Conflicts arose, and people said t

Text/Xiaoxue’s mother

Speaking of confinement, many mothers have a lot of bitterness and want to talk about it, not only because of the strict rules and various taboos during confinement, but also because of the confinement concept , conflicts arise due to differences with the older generation. They say that confinement will last a lifetime, which is really not nonsense.

Of course, many mothers-in-law have good intentions and do not want their daughters-in-law to suffer from confinement syndrome, but some faulty traditional confinement methods are no longer suitable for today. , especially the following "three do's and one don't" principles can be understood by everyone.

First, the room should be ventilated after childbirth

I remember when I was pregnant, I calculated the due date and found that the baby would be born around the end of June or early July. At that time, I felt a tremor in my heart, because I have been afraid of heat the most since I was a child.

I learned about confinement confinement from my mother-in-law. During the confinement period, air conditioners and fans are not allowed to blow on. I was thinking about how to spend the summer. Wouldn’t it mean that I would be burned to death? Later, when I was pregnant, I read a lot about maternity and childcare knowledge, and learned that air conditioning can be used during pregnancy, but I was not sure about it.

I raised this question to the doctor later during my pregnancy check-up. I vaguely remember the doctor’s confused look at that time, and he said to me directly: “When you give birth, the whole ward will be air-conditioned and you are not very old. There are a lot of rules. "

When my daughter was born and I started confinement, as expected, my mother-in-law told me a lot of taboos during confinement. I persuaded her and asked the doctor to convince her that I could turn on the air conditioner appropriately during confinement.

Not only that, the temperature is relatively high in summer, and the room where the mother rests also needs more ventilation. Maybe the older generation thinks that the mother is weak just after giving birth, so the room must be locked tightly to avoid ventilation, otherwise she will wait. After the period of confinement, you may have joint pain and headaches.

This statement is actually not completely correct, because the temperature is relatively high in summer. If the air is not ventilated for a long time, the air will become very turbid and breed a lot of bacteria, which is not good for the mother's postpartum recovery and the baby's growth. When the room is ventilated, the family can ask the mother and child to move to another room to ventilate the room before coming back. This will not affect the situation.

Secondly, during the confinement period, you should pay attention to personal hygiene, wash your hair, take a bath, and wipe more

During the confinement period, the most unbearable thing for the mother is probably that she is not allowed to wash her hair or take a bath, to use the words of the older generation. It is said that it is not good for the body and can easily leave the root of disease, but you must pay attention to personal hygiene during the initial period of confinement.

The weather is hot now in summer. After giving birth, a mother’s metabolism will be faster and she will sweat more. In addition, if there are wounds on her body, she must pay attention to personal hygiene to avoid wound infection.

Furthermore, mothers also need to expel lochia. If they don’t pay attention to personal hygiene, not only will their bodies smell weird, but they will also be bad for wound healing. Therefore, it’s okay to wash your hair and bathe during pregnancy. At least you need to wipe your body more often.

Of course, it is not completely unreasonable for the elderly to worry that washing their hair and bathing will leave behind the root of the disease. After all, the experience of homework passed down from generation to generation still has merit.

In the days after giving birth, I tried to wipe my body mainly because of the wound. When washing your hair and bathing later, try to avoid wounds. Pay attention to the temperature and speed of bathing. Do not wash for a long time. Avoid catching a cold after washing. Dry your body and hair as soon as possible.

Third, after the confinement period, you need to go for a checkup in time.

Some elderly people feel that they have already spent a lot of money to have a baby. After the confinement period, they should live a normal life. So what postpartum examinations are needed?

In fact, it is necessary to have a health checkup after giving birth. The purpose of the checkup is to check the recovery of your body. If the recovery is better, it will have no impact on your future life. Doing such a checkup is also to protect your body and health. Peace of mind does not mean spending money indiscriminately.

Fourth, do not interfere with the relationship between the young couple.

Confinement is also a very hard thing. During the confinement period, the mother also has to take care of the child, especially at night. She is often so busy that she cannot sleep for half the night. My body is very weak, so I must have someone by my side.

During the day, the mother-in-law’s help is too much for her body. At night, the husband needs to accompany his wife to take care of the children. In this case, the mother-in-law should not interfere with the couple's life, especially by letting the son sleep in the guest bedroom and leaving the daughter-in-law to take care of the child alone. This will not only affect the relationship between the couple, but also create conflicts between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law.

Everyone has experienced the above things. How did you spend those confinement periods?

I am Xiaoxue’s mother, a mother born in the 1990s. Follow me and share scientific knowledge on pregnancy, childbirth and parenting every day!