The happy summer vacation has begun, but mothers are even busier and more anxious. When I'm not accompanying my children to training classes, I'm competing with mythical beasts at my desk. On the way from chicken baby to , smart parents have more scientific education methods and positive communication language. The language of parents determines the life of their children. If smart parents know how to speak this way, their children will become better and better.
Be sure to say less :
1. I have said it 100 times, why are you so stupid
2. I don’t want you anymore, I don’t like you anymore
3. I have never seen a child like you
4. Hold it in, Don't cry, 1...2...3! Hold it back
5. Study hard and get into a good school. Let's worry less.
6. Don't be worse than others, be the best
7. Look at others, Look at you again
8. You want to be as successful as someone else
9. Make your parents proud of your success
10. If you are beaten by others, you must fight back. You must win.
A wise mother said this
1. Live life with heart , be a child who loves life and loves learning
2. Don’t compare with others, compare with yourself, and become the best version of yourself
3. Look at others, then look at you, what is worse than others
4. You must become your own ideal
5. Make your parents proud of your happiness.
6. If you are beaten by others, you can defend yourself. If you are beaten, you can run away.
7. You are so smart. You have thought of things that your mother did not expect.
8. You have made great progress. Keep working hard. Mom is optimistic about you
9. If you study hard now, you will be able to help more people when you grow up.
10. Mom and Dad will help you, but they can’t always stay with you.
11. Eat well and grow up quickly, etc. When you grow up, you can protect your mother.
When children conflict with others
Ordinary mothers: Don’t fight back when others hit you. If you fight back, it will be ignored.
Smart Mom:
1. If you feel aggrieved, you can hit him, but you must understand that you can only fight back on the spot!
2. Since you choose to tell the teacher, you leave the processing power to the teacher. You can only accept the money given by the teacher, but I believe that when you think about it in the future, you will feel aggrieved, as if you were punched.
3. My mother suggested that you should never give in to violence in the future. Telling the teacher is right, but you must also learn to fight back before telling the teacher. Fighting back represents your attitude. Telling him that you are not easy to bully, telling the teacher represents you. solution!
When a child has a conflict with a peer,
incorrect response: If others don’t play with you, just find someone else to play with!
1. If he doesn’t want to play, he won’t play. We won’t play with him. (Becoming arrogant)
2. Why do they play with others but not you? You must have done something wrong. (Self-doubt)
Wisdom Mom:
1. If others don’t play with you, it doesn’t mean you are not good. In my eyes, you are the best. You don’t need to beg others. (Protect uniqueness)
2. Not everyone can be friends. Making friends is for your own happiness. If you are not happy with each other, just leave. (Avoid the pleaser personality)
3. If you want to make more friends, then make yourself better. (Improve yourself)
4. No matter how well you do, there will always be people who don’t like you. It’s most important to like yourself. (Accept yourself)
Teach children the correct response: Baby, you must be very sad if your child doesn’t play with you, right? Mom tells you, next time someone doesn't play with you, if it's not your fault, you only need to say two words: "Okay", then turn around and go to play with other children. You play with other children. The happier you are, the more your good friends will come back to you. Remember, never ask others for reconciliation, as this will only make children look down on you and bully you, remember?
Respect children, recognize their emotions, and use positive language to guide them. Children will be happier and better.
