I don’t know if you have any confinement nanny during your confinement period? How much are you willing to spend? I spent 18,000 to hire a confinement nanny from across the province, but I think it was really worth it.
Let’s listen to the story of Lilac Mother Planet ’s precious mother @ Xiao Jing and little Afu .
The reason for asking for a confinement nanny
is that my mother thinks it is really necessary
Many mothers who want to ask for a confinement nanny do so for their own reasons, and when I had not thought about this issue at all, my mother had already thought about it for me. Well, because she suffered from it! My mother didn't follow my grandma's request for confinement. Now when she has a health problem, my grandma says she didn't listen to her. She has been nagged about her for a lifetime. Think about how it feels. Because different regions have various customs, different opinions and concepts will lead to great differences during the confinement period.
For example, my mother knew that she was not allowed to drink alcohol while breastfeeding, but our custom was to drink a lot of rice wine (a local grain wine), which is said to dispel cold and dampness. My mother refused to drink until the end I had to drink it. After experiencing it personally, she said that after I gave birth, she would hire a professional to come and learn from her at the same time. The new method now is different from the old method before. In this way, nothing the elders of the two families say counts, so there is no need to blame her. She pays for the expenses. I am grateful to my good Chinese mother for showing her kindness.
Benefits of having a confinement nanny
In addition to my own personal experience, before I asked for a confinement nanny, I also consulted a group of moms and mom friends. In short, the advice given by people I know and don’t know who have been there are all true! Jimei guys, the public’s eyes are sharp, so it’s really necessary! In short, the feelings of myself and other mothers are: if you hire a confinement nanny, all you have to do during the confinement period is to feed and lie down, and just be a glorious producer of food for human cubs~ The benefits of
are summarized as follows:
➊ Avoiding family conflicts
This point should be tacitly understood by everyone. See the previous article for details and will not go into details.
➋ Ensure the mother's sleep and good mood
In addition to taking care of the child and the mother's food and drink, a good confinement nanny also needs to take care of the mother's mood. Preventing postpartum depression is one of their jobs. My confinement nanny is really good at this. All mothers who have experienced it know that after giving birth, it is easy to find the baby’s father uncomfortable. My confinement nanny is constantly chatting with her, and she is an experienced and professional The very existence of trained people alleviates our anxiety as new mothers to a great extent.
➌ Preventing excessive fatigue of the elderly at home
Nowadays, it is common to marry later and have children later. When our next generation is born, most of the parents are already old and struggling to take care of the baby, and they cannot afford to stay up late. During the confinement period, the baby's main caregiver is basically Can't sleep well. I don't think parents have the obligation to help us take care of our children. It's normal not to help, and it's our blessing to help.
➍ is convenient for new mothers and fathers to systematically learn parenting knowledge
No matter how many times you read parenting books, how many times you browse TikTok , it is better to practice it yourself. After confinement, little Afu’s bath is all about his father For washing, he learned a lot of parenting knowledge from his confinement nanny. And I still believe that my confinement nanny is my first teacher on the road to parenting. Is there the most efficient one-on-one teaching?
➎ Postpartum scientific diet restores body shape quickly
My weight after confinement is the same as before pregnancy. After developing a light diet, it will be good for my future health. I used to like heavy food, but now I Can't eat anymore. But after the confinement nanny left, I started to gain unlimited weight...
Of course, all the above benefits are based on hiring the right confinement nanny. If you hire the wrong confinement nanny, it may be a disaster. I have seen it in the mother group. Some people complained that the confinement sister-in-law was gossiping behind her back, sowing discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and staging a family war.
Please go to a good confinement nanny to share her experience
➊ There is a shortcut - find a
that has been used by reliable relatives and friends. Between an agency and an introduction from an acquaintance, I will definitely choose the latter, because there is a big information gap in the former.It is best to be a reliable relative or friend who has high standards and strict requirements, and is picky. Even if everyone's standards are different, if she thinks it is good, it will naturally not be too bad. It is also much simpler than going to an agency to screen and interview. I was introduced to the confinement nanny through a good friend in Beijing. I have been a drifter in Beijing for many years, and I decided to settle in Chengdu only after I became pregnant with little Ah Fu. So my circle of friends were basically all in Beijing, and I didn’t know many people in Chengdu. Although Chengdu was more cost-effective, there were no suitable recommendations at the time. After
considered it comprehensively, I decided to pay a high price across provinces and please confirm that it is from a reliable person. It is more expensive. I chatted with my confinement nanny at that time, and after reading the various qualification certificates she sent me, I made a deposit without even having a phone interview. Because I trust my friend who has high standards and strict requirements, so I The so-called "used by relatives and friends" must be trusted and reliable relatives and friends. Such effective recommendation is the shortcut.
finally proved that the 18,000 was well spent, but one thing is that if my mother hadn’t sponsored it, I wouldn’t have made this decision. Teammate Zhu thought that the confinement nanny at this price was beyond our financial capabilities, but later because this confinement nanny was so good, he also agreed that the confinement nanny would be extended to 42 days after the expiry of 26 days, and I would pay the subsequent expenses. I paid for it out of my own pocket. Thanks again to my good Chinese mother.
➋No shortcuts
There are no shortcuts. I have summarized the screening criteria for confinement nanny, which can be used as a reference during interviews and employment:
This person must be caring and really like the child.
You can do this in the process of raising children. You can see it and feel it. You have a high level of patience with your children. You don’t want to be lazy and you will even do more. When my confinement nanny sees the baby's interesting movements or expressions while I'm sleeping, she will take photos and send them to me. There are many details that allow you to feel the true love for the child. This interview was not easy to see, so I felt it was not good to change as soon as possible during the employment period.
Professional capabilities, complete with various certificates, including health certificate , maternal and infant care certificate, prolactinologist certificate
Some confinement sisters do not have prolactinologist certificates and say that they are experienced, but this kind of professional thing, even if they have the certificate, the hospital will not It may not be approved, let alone one that has not been verified. Breast clearance is still very important, otherwise mastitis may knock on the door at any time. My confinement period was fine, but not long after my confinement nanny left, I got mastitis. I had a fever and suspected that I would burp in the next second...
Experience is enough, it is best not to be too old The older
are too experienced and tend to be stubborn. Having more than 5 years of experience and raising twenty or thirty children is enough. The best age is around 40+, as there is no generation gap easily and the physical strength is sufficient.
Early Education
In addition to taking good care of children's physical needs, we still have a long way to go in educating children, so it is also important to learn how to play with children. In the early stages of raising children, many parents find it boring to take care of their children because they are not yet able to interact with each other, and do not know what to say or do to their children. This leads to situations where they will play with their children on their mobile phones after taking care of them for a while.
A good confinement nanny usually provides early education. My confinement nanny's Three Character Classic, Disciple Rules, Rhythm, Enlightenment are all catchy. She herself is good at learning and loves reading. I don’t necessarily want my children to learn traditional Chinese culture, but when I heard her reciting Rhythm Enlightenment, I thought how could it sound so good! It should be very helpful for children to experience the phonological beauty of Chinese in the future. I later bought a book for my children to listen to.
Two points to note after hiring a confinement nanny
First, regarding childcare knowledge, don’t be lazy after hiring a confinement nanny. They may also have wrong practices and concepts. Do more homework when encountering problems. , Chacha Dingxiang’s mother also has a better psychology. After all, we ourselves are the main ones in raising children.
Second, pay attention to the transition after the confinement nanny leaves, so that you and your children will not adapt. In the week before I left, I basically kept myself in sync with her. I would follow her and learn whatever she did. I went through everything about taking care of the baby. I would ask her immediately when I thought of something. By that time, my health had recovered. about there.After she left, I took over and started writing a parenting diary, observing and recording everything about the baby.
It will be much easier to have a professional guide the way. She has trained the baby to sleep and breastfeed regularly, and my milk volume has basically reached a balance between supply and demand. If you think what I wrote is a bit exaggerated and how can a confinement nanny be so good, then I would like to share a few things that touched me about my confinement nanny to prove that I am not exaggerating:
The picture below is a parenting diary written by an aunt. In addition to recording the child's feeding and excretion every day, she would also write a short paragraph to summarize the day. The words were full of encouragement and positive energy, which became a beautiful memory for me and the child in the future, so I have kept it until now, even after moving. I once heard her mention that an employer cried after reading the diary she wrote after she left.
After my relatives came to visit me, they left and returned to their hometown. The originally lively home suddenly became deserted. She was worried that my mood would be affected. After the employment period was up, she offered to stay with me for a few more days without asking. I pay for anything. Later it turned out that her worries were not unfounded. On the first day she left, I felt like crying alone for no reason... I can't explain why, but it felt like hormones were causing trouble ~
She knew that after she left, she would mainly It was my mother-in-law who took care of me. My mother-in-law was not very good at cooking. She was worried that I would be hungry after breastfeeding, so she packed 2 freezers full of wontons and dumplings before leaving so that I could eat them when I was too late. I knew she had packed some food supplies, but I didn’t expect so much. The moment I opened the refrigerator for the first time after she left, I burst into tears.
I am a person who loves messing around a lot. When little Afu was 100 days old, I wanted to DIY at home to take a full moon photo for him. This will easily wake up the baby, and the confinement nurse will have to coax the baby non-stop. Not only did she not feel disgusted, but she patiently coaxed the baby and also enthusiastically helped me set up the scene. This made my wish come true, so I created this circle of friends as shown below:
She doesn’t mind doing more work on her own, and the confinement nanny is only responsible for the postpartum women. Even though she has a lot of food, she often even cooks meals for her family and even helps pick up express delivery.
Maybe I was lucky and hired a very good confinement nanny. We still keep in touch and have become friends. I don’t know what the current standard of the entire industry is, but I believe that every industry has top talents and there are people working hard. After all, there are only a few who are very bad. At most, they are lazy and poor at doing things. Abuse of children and the like are extreme cases, so don't worry too much.
If you have sufficient financial resources and are considering a confinement center or a confinement nanny, the latter is recommended. My mother also considered this issue at the time. She said that it is not convenient for family members to watch together in the confinement center. It is better for two families to welcome the new life together. It is better to have a family atmosphere. I still agree with her on this. . If financial conditions do not allow it, it is recommended that you work hard enough, you and your family will feel much more relaxed, and just do a good job of screening.
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