Stan, a classmate of the successful scholar Carnegie, provided a convincing example. One night when he came home from get off work, he found his youngest son Dimi lying on the living room floor crying and fussing. Dimi will start kindergarten tomorrow, but he refuses to go. Norma

Successful Scholar Stan, a classmate in Carnegie's class, provided a convincing example. One night when he came home from get off work, he found his youngest son Dimi lying on the floor of the living room crying and fussing.

Dimi will start kindergarten tomorrow, but he refuses to go. Normally, Stan's reaction would have been to rush Dimi into his room and tell him that it would be best for him to decide to go to kindergarten. He had no good choice at the time. But tonight, he realized that doing so would not help Dimi go to kindergarten in a good mood.

Stan sat down and thought, "If I were Dimmy, why would I be so happy to go to kindergarten?" He and his wife listed all the things Dimmy would love to do in kindergarten, such as finger painting, singing, Know new freind. Then they take action.

My wife, Lily, my other son Baobao, and I started finger painting on the kitchen table and really enjoyed it. After a while, Dimi peeked from the corner, and then he asked to participate.

Tomorrow, maybe you will persuade others to do something. Before you speak, stop and ask, "How can I make this person willing to do this?" This question can keep us from talking to others about our desires in a reckless, fruitless way.

That’s all for today’s book sharing. No matter what, when you talk to others, you must first think of the other person’s needs, so that your words will not be awkward.