When children reach a certain age, they will go through a rebellious period. No matter what they do, they always like to go against adults. When parents encounter such children, they really have no choice but to beat or scold them. Mothers are the main players in the development of our children, and we always want to do better when we start the day. In fact, many things did not go as planned. When our children start yelling and telling them to be quiet has no effect, in addition to getting angry, we often feel guilty about our parenting style and think it is our fault. Feeling guilty, wanting to do better, and constantly trying to change your ways is something a mother does throughout her life. Let’s find out what to do if this happens?
1. Diversion of attention
When children reach a certain age, they will go through a period of regressive psychology. They do not do what adults say. This is disobedience. When you encounter such a child, you need to be patient and persuade. If persuasion doesn't work for a long time, you might as well put things aside, do something else, and divert the child's attention. After a while, you can guide and persuade the child again, and the effect may be much better. The ability to shift attention is very important for children. Parents and friends, we must pay attention to the training of children's attention transfer ability in daily life, so that the child's attention transfer ability can be trained stronger, more flexibly, and more quickly, and give full play to the child's attention ability.
2. Find out the reasons and solve them
When children are disobedient, there are always some internal special reasons. At this time, parents should pay attention to observation and analysis to find the right reasons. For example, if a child has no grievances in his heart, feels unhappy, cannot express it, or let go, he will take the opportunity to vent to his parents and confront them in everything. At this time, we must find ways to let the children release their inner grievances. For another example, if a child is sick, feels uncomfortable, and feels uncomfortable, but the adults don't notice it and still treat the child as usual, the child will be particularly "stubborn".
In short, children must be carefully observed, patiently guided, and absolutely not confrontational. If this continues, either the adults will eventually be unable to resist the children, and finally listen to the children, which will encourage the children to have a bad temper if they are not satisfied with anything; Parents can't help but beat their children, which causes harm to their children's minds.
3. Change yourself
Parents always expect their children to grow up perfectly and healthily, but these wishes are not enough. They rarely lead to our thoughts turning into actual actions. Parents can "think" about trying to be a better parent, but at the same time make a real effort toward that goal. At the same time, children's minds are developing, and they are "absorbing" their parents' "abilities" every day. How can they wait so long for us to become role models and then imitate them? So instead of feeling guilty every day that you haven’t changed, it’s better to actually take action.
