Teacher Lei, my son is in fifth grade. He likes to catch dolls very much. He is quite addictive. He will catch dolls whenever he goes to the mall. He just made 80 yuan two days ago.
took him to the mall today and caught another ten dollars. He wanted to catch another ten dollars, but he was not allowed to catch them. He was a little unhappy. Every time he caught dolls, he used his pocket money. What should he do?
Teacher Lei replied:
In fact, it is normal for children to become addicted to catching dolls. This project has a gambling mechanism in it.
I just want to win back when I lose, and I want to win more when I win, so let’s talk about this with our children.
We might as well ask three questions to the child’s soul:
First question, what is the significance of this matter?
Ask the child how much each of the dolls he caught would sell for outside?
Is it worthwhile for him to spend 80 yuan to catch these dolls? Is there any point in catching the doll? Is it worth spending the money?
If you ask this question, the child will think that these dolls are only a few yuan each outside. It is really not cost-effective for him to spend 80 yuan to buy a doll that costs only a few yuan.
He will be more restrained next time.
The second question is, why does this business model exist?
Ask the children, why do businesses launch the game of catching dolls? What is the purpose of the business? Does the mechanism set up by
merchants want us to catch more dolls, or does it not want us to catch them? Why?
When you ask him like this, he will understand that the purpose of the business is to make money, so the more money he spends to catch dolls, the more the business will make.
He will understand that the settings are designed to make him addicted.
If you can't control yourself and keep throwing coins in to catch dolls, it means you have been fooled, and you are the leek in the eyes of the merchant.
No child wants to be a leek!
Third, where does it make sense to spend money?
guides children to think about where our money should be spent? Should I give it to others for free, or should I buy something meaningful?
lets children understand that we can play with things like catching dolls, but in moderation.
In addition, in response to such problems, we can also make two agreements with our children:
1. We can only use the children's pocket money to play.
Our baby spent 80 yuan to catch the doll, which is probably beyond the scope of pocket money. Parents should guide and supervise their children's pocket money and not overspend.
2. Set up rules for catching dolls with your children in the future.
For example, you can only spend up to 10 yuan each time you catch a doll, and you must stop whether you catch a doll or not.
Let’s summarize:
First, agree on the amount of money spent in advance to prevent children from being caught without restraint;
Second, remind children of the merchant’s mechanisms and routines during the incident to prevent children from becoming addicted;
Third, review the transaction afterwards. Does it make sense? Did it go well? How can we improve next time? Anything that happens in
is a kind of growth for the child. This is also an opportunity for the child to slowly regain self-control!
Everything that happens is good for me!
I am Mr. Lei, the academic coach. I have been in the education industry for many years. I have family education theories and score-raising methods to help children improve their academic performance and parents to solve educational problems.
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