Everyone knows that "naughty children" are those children who like to be naughty, unruly, and get into trouble. They make loud noises in public places, chase and fight, paint at will, play with other people's belongings at will, throw them at will... these "unintentional" "Hitting others casually, being noisy in class, procrastinating on homework, only caring about yourself... Teachers are annoying, and parents are also annoyed. So, how can we raise a well-behaved child?
I read a story online.
On the high-speed train, there was a five- or six-year-old boy who moved around in his seat and kept kicking the backrest of the passenger in front of him. His mother warned him many times, but after the little boy was quiet for a while, he started to be naughty again and shouted loudly. Yelled.
The little boy's behavior also aroused the disgust of the passengers in front.
The mother pulled the boy to the open space in the carriage and said sternly: "Stop being so naughty, you have already affected the people around you. "And asked to be punished here for ten minutes.
The little boy didn't want to cooperate, so he cried loudly and saw that his mother didn't respond. He started acting coquettishly again, but his mother was still unmoved. After the punishment was over, his mother gave him a hug and told him : The mother still likes the baby, but his behavior just now was wrong.
and asked him to apologize to the passenger in front of him, and then returned to his seat. After that, the boy became obedient in the seat and did not make any fuss. Parents. Children will be what they are taught.
Don’t enter the educational minefield
. If the method is inappropriate, it will not only fail to help the child establish rules, but may also hurt the child.
1. Education is too harsh
If parents do not consider the child's psychological condition and the specific circumstances of the matter, and adhere to dogma, this will lead to children's psychological depression, refusal to communicate, and fear of taking responsibility. Yao Jiaxin is an example. There is a passage like this: “Since I was little, my life has been almost all about practicing piano besides studying... My mother would beat me or whip me with a belt in order to practice piano. There was a time when my father saw that my grades were not good and I did not study hard, so he locked me in the basement. Except when I could go upstairs to eat, I spent the rest of the time in the basement. I felt that there was no hope and I was under great pressure every day. Often want to commit suicide. "
Due to the overly harsh education, Yao Jiaxin was afraid of taking responsibility, so his first thought after hitting someone was how to reduce the trouble and not to be discovered by his family. After seeing that the victim was not dead, he paid 8 more dollars and ran away. Severe The premise must be to love your children and give them warm care.
2. Over-exaggeration of errors
Children are curious, and occasionally making mistakes may just be a try, which has no inevitable connection with whether they will fall into it in the future. However, if parents continue to emphasize the seriousness of the matter, sometimes It will stimulate children's rebellious psychology, and when they have the opportunity, they will have the idea of trying, which may lead to out-of-control
Early childhood is the best time for children to establish rules. Li Meijin of China People's Public Security University studies Criminal Psychology . The professor believes that setting rules for children should be before the age of 12, and the best time is before the age of 6, because children are still young and are easy to accept the parents' requests. The later they are, the harder it becomes. By the age of 21, they basically cannot be changed.
As the saying goes, :"No rules no standards. "If you don't abide by the rules, you can't be an adult. Real love is love with rules. It allows children to understand the boundaries and bottom lines of behavior and take responsibility for their own actions. If children follow the rules, they will have a shortcut to growth. In fact, Love and rules are the best family tradition.
