Many mothers lose their temper with their children at every turn. In fact, I understand that it is too hard and tiring for you to take care of your children. From birth to now, you always have endless worries.
The child was naughty and talked to him, but he didn't listen with a playful smile. He asked him to eat and watch TV. He didn't do his homework and just played. What mother wouldn't be angry like this!
But you have noticed that the more you yell at your child, the more disobedient and naughty you are. This often makes your child more timid and lacks self-confidence, making him very insecure. The child feels that his world is dark, and his mind is filled with images of you and others.
Using momentum to make children surrender will not have any effect on children.
When we are angry, it must be because the child has made a mistake, but the child has already made a mistake. It is useless for us to be angry. When we lose our temper, we only use our own momentum to make children surrender. This is fear control. He rather than reason controls him.
This kind of yelling and scolding has no effect on the child. As the child grows up, he becomes more and more courageous, and in the end he becomes immune.
Speak well and learn to respect
If you want your child to be obedient, you can only speak softly. To make him trust you, you must speak civilly. Noisy and noisy will not gain the respect of others. When a child behaves incorrectly, we can squat down and say it carefully, so that both of us can hear it in close proximity.
I have been respected since childhood. When I grow up, I will naturally know how to respect myself and others, and I will naturally be respected by others. Only by speaking in a low voice can the child concentrate. High-decibel sounds are an obstacle to the child and can also cause emotional disturbance. The child cannot concentrate, so when you speak to the child in a low voice, his attention The strength will gradually improve.
When you are angry, silently say in your heart that it is your "biological" and "biological". You have to think about whether you speak calmly to your boss and friends. No matter how high-ranking an official you are, in a big job Leaders, only if they speak in a tone that is neither humble nor overbearing will others listen to them.
I know that it is difficult to change from a grumpy mother to a gentle and wise mother. Don’t set such harsh requirements on yourself. From now on, start by changing yourself. If you change, your children will also notice that their mother has changed. , I will also feel it, and encourage myself to make progress every day. Attacking your child will hurt your body. Protect yourself first, and then you can help your child.
Yelling at children causes harm to children.
I saw a report. A professor at Harvard University did an experiment. He found that if a child is scolded, yelled, or verbally violent by his parents for a long time, his brain develops differently from that of other children. This child's language expression ability and memory will be lower than ordinary children, so why the child becomes more and more stupid may have something to do with you yelling at him.
The second reason that makes children stupid is that when you are verbally violent, they will become nervous. When they are nervous, adrenaline will rise, the brain will be filled with blood, and the whole body will become stiff. In fact, his reaction was slower at that time and he looked more sluggish. Under long-term stress, his IQ development will definitely be affected.
Third, psychologically, if a mother always yells at her child and says why are you so stupid, it is easy for the child to form a self-fulfilling prophecy. Didn't you say I'm stupid? When I really can't think of a question, I really feel stupid. When I fall behind in exams, I feel like this because I am stupid.
So if you give a child a prophecy and tell him that you are stupid, one day he will realize this prophecy, and gradually the child will become really stupid psychologically. I really can't help yelling at my children.
We must look at the growth of our children rationally, and do not demand perfect standards from our children. Let’s raise children scientifically together!
