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After babies reach 1 year old, they will have many strange exploratory behaviors. Our CiCi is 1 year and 2 months old and can walk. Ever since she could walk, wherever she could go, she would touch, knock, turn over and throw away everything she saw. It was also from this time on that the biggest task in taking care of her was to "do! Hygiene! Hygiene!"
I am a mother with obsessive-compulsive disorder. Every time she makes a mess at home, I will tidy up the house while she is sleeping. , so the biggest workload every day at the age of 1-2 is hygiene. When
later took CiCi to play in her hometown, her mother-in-law thought she was too "destructive" and even labeled her a "trouble maker." He also told me: Children must be well disciplined in the future, otherwise they will be "disliked" when they grow up.
There are still many parents who equate the exploratory behavior of 1-2-year-old babies with "love to cause destruction" and use rough language to stop it. In fact, these weird exploratory behaviors of babies are not only a sign of good development, but also a manifestation of the development of IQ. Parents must not stop them violently to avoid being counterproductive.
1-2 The baby's first exploratory behavior: touching whatever he sees
toys, cabinets, durians, snacks, dirty shoes and clothes, stones, animals, sockets... There is nothing that the baby sees and doesn't want to touch. Why do babies want to touch everything they see? This is because babies like to feel the texture, temperature, softness and hardness of different objects with their hands, which is an important process for the development of their exploration and cognitive abilities.
If parents blindly stop their babies from touching whatever they see and touch, it is easy for them to lose this "opportunity to explore and learn", but it does not mean they should ignore it completely. After all, babies do not yet have the ability to identify dangers. So what we have to do in is to provide a safe environment as much as possible, allowing them to explore while limiting dangerous exploration.
The baby touches whatever it sees. How to do it?
① Place dangerous items out of your baby’s reach, such as rice cookers, socket strips, knives and other items that may cause harm. And parents need to seriously tell their babies, "Don't touch this thing", warn and stop them multiple times, and repeat patiently until the baby remembers it.
②Teach your baby how to touch items safely, such as touching fragile items such as vases. If there is no adult supervision, it is best not to let the baby reach these things to avoid hurting himself.
③ Increase the baby's exploration opportunities and build a safe family exploration environment for the baby, allowing the baby to touch and feel as he wants, satisfying the baby's thirst for knowledge and having many benefits for IQ development.
1-2 Baby’s second exploratory behavior: knocking whatever he sees
In the early stages of the development of exploration ability, the baby has a strong perception of various sounds. Wherever a sound is made, the baby will turn his head to find the source of the sound. . And I am keen on making rhythmic sounds with my hands, which is very interesting and fun. Just like many parents don't understand why babies knock on the TV with their hands. It seems to be a "destructive" behavior, but it is actually a kind of sound exploration.
Faced with this kind of knocking on whatever you see, parents should give certain restrictions and guidance on the basis of respecting the baby's development. Just like the behavior of knocking on the TV, parents must pay attention to it to avoid accidents or unnecessary losses.
The baby knocks whatever he sees. What should he do specifically?
① It is forbidden for babies to knock dangerous or fragile things, such as TVs, vases, quilts, etc. As soon as the parents saw it, they immediately stopped him seriously and found him a relatively safe alternative, such as a plastic vase. However, parents should not reprimand or get angry, so as not to aggravate the baby's curiosity about dangerous attempts.
②Teach your baby not to knock things in public. This is social etiquette. When babies knock inappropriate objects in public, parents should stop them promptly and patiently explain the reasons so as not to affect others. If the baby doesn't cooperate, you can use appropriate diversion methods to get him to stop tapping.
③ Guide the baby to knock on appropriate items. If you find that the baby loves knocking and listens to the knocking sound, you can provide the baby with something to knock on. For example, toy drums, hammers, etc. Just avoid playing such games at night.
1-2 The baby's third exploratory behavior: pouring things
The mother just managed to pack the toys into the toy box. When the baby saw it, he took them all out or poured them out directly, even the trash can. Sometimes they even imitate their mother and pack the toys themselves.
Whether the baby is pouring or loading things, this is also a learning opportunity for them. From a series of exploratory behaviors of loading and dumping things, they will perceive changes in physical objects, improve finger dexterity, and gain spatial awareness.
Baby pours things, how to do it?
① Ensure safety and put away knives, glass products, detergents and other items that may cause harm to the baby. While ensuring safety, give your baby more opportunities to pour things. It is best to diversify the items so that he can enjoy the fun.
②Since the baby can fall, we have to teach her to "pretend". Take the toy out with your baby, and then demonstrate how to put the toy back together. In the early stages of practice, the baby may like to pour but not to pretend, so parents should not be too demanding. Just as many as they can fit in. Don't ask for too much, so as not to dampen their enthusiasm for pretending.
1-2 Baby's fourth exploratory behavior: throwing things
Some babies may throw things before they are 1 year old. After 1 year old, they will reach the "peak period" of throwing things, and they may even be able to pick them up and throw them away. Why do they do this? First, the baby enjoys the sound they hear when throwing things; second, the baby realizes a sense of control over the "hand"; third, the feeling of throwing things makes them feel fun.
Faced with this situation, how should we parents guide us?
① Provide safe and comfortable toys, allowing babies to throw things as much as they want. However, it is best to let the baby throw it on the floor mat, and it is best to guide the baby to throw it somewhere easy to clean up, so as to avoid the trouble of parents picking it up.
② Encourage the baby to throw things to the agreed place. The mother can give the baby a demonstration and teach the baby to throw things into the toy storage box, put the building blocks in the box, etc.
③ Play the "picking up" game with your baby, such as competing with him, "Let's compete together to see who can pick up the ball into the box first?" Through the game, arouse the baby's interest in picking up things and cultivate the child's self-care ability. .
1-2 Baby’s fifth exploratory behavior: playing with dirty things
Picking up garbage on the ground, digging through trash cans, touching around on the ground, and playing with things that parents think are dirty. Although they understand the baby's behavior, for hygiene reasons, parents need to use some methods to dispel their baby's interest in playing with dirty things. How to guide
specifically?
① Appropriately limit the baby's contact with dirty things. If the baby has just touched dirty things with his hands, he should be taken to absorb them immediately and tell him "cannot touch, there are bacteria".
② Babies don’t like to play with dirty things, but they like to experience various wonderful sensations through the touch of pinching, touching, and holding. We can provide the baby with some alternatives, such as clean packaging bags, similar toys, etc.
③Tell the baby what things are dirty and take this opportunity to teach the baby some life experiences, such as throwing garbage into the trash can, rags are used to wipe the table, and you cannot wash your face, etc. If your baby has a habit of throwing away garbage by himself, don’t stop him!
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