Have you ever said or heard these words?
Parents are all for your good.
Can we still harm you?
It’s okay to hate me now, you will thank me in the future.
From small to large, these few sentences appear frequently. When I was a child, I often heard my parents say that when I became a parent, I would subconsciously pop up in my mind.
The mother in the following story often said these few words, She dedicated her life to her children, but she also lost her own child.
Xiaowei is a junior high school student. Because his parents divorced, he lives with his mother.
On an ordinary Wednesday, Xiao Wei overslept and missed the school bus.You can only go to school by bus. During the break, he and his friends planned the graduation trip enthusiastically.
But Xiaowei felt that something was wrong, and vaguely felt that it seemed like he had experienced it this Wednesday.
The next day and the third day, Xiaowei repeats "Wednesday" every day. He seems to be under the curse of time, and there is only one person spinning around this day.
He started to panic...
It turned out that Xiaowei went on a graduation trip with his friends. After the mother found out, the two had a big quarrel, Xiaowei did not repent, and the mother and son fell into a cold war.
When my mother went out to smoke alone, she happened to find an advertisement with very attractive content. Parents can be friends with their children. Mother's filial piety is no longer a dream.
Mother bought this "product" without hesitation- remote control. It allows the son to go back in time and completely control his son's life.
After Xiaowei confirmed Wednesday’s abnormality, his mother said earnestly: "I have given you 3 opportunities.If you don't correct it, your life will stay on the same day. "
Unless Xiaowei takes the real transcript home, he will repeat this day forever, and there will never be tomorrow.
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Let me down"
This is the most often said by Xiaowei. But this is not what he thinks in his heart, but he was forced to help.
imgimg span5 Holding the magical remote control, my mother was confident and started to get worse. At first she wanted to correct Xiaowei’s report card error, but her mother became increasingly dissatisfied and wanted Xiaowei to be the perfect child in her mind.
from eating to dressing, mother has to intervene, Xiaowei eats dishes that she doesn't like, wears clothes that her mother finds suitable, and don't even think about graduation trips, even if the teacher comes to the house to intercede, mother firmly disagrees.
There is only one sentence: "Mom is good for you."
Xiaowei has a bad gradeHis mother asked him to go to remedial classes 10 times, 15 times, or even 20 times. If Xiaowei can't learn it once, then repeat it until he understands it and his grades rise.
The conflict broke out when Xiaowei was secretly dating.
Xiaowei met Xiaolan in the library. Xiaolan, a lively and free, enlightened parent, made ripples in Xiaowei's stagnant life. The two studied together and went to New York together.
The relationship was soon discovered by his mother, but of course it was not allowed. Xiaowei was asked to swear to sever relationship with Xiaolan and never meet.
Xiaowei tried to resist, knelt down to beg his mother, and promised "I will be admitted to a good university and will not let you down", but it didn't work.
There is still only one sentence, "It doesn’t matter if you hate me now, you will thank me in the future." Before I met my girlfriend Xiaolan, everything that happened before the two children ceased to exist. The girlfriend is no longer a girlfriend, and doesn't know him at all.
Xiaowei completely broke down, His life has been completely negated, and what he experienced completely disappeared the moment his mother pressed the remote control.
He tried to commit suicide, but how could his mother let him do what he wanted? Drowning, cutting his wrists, or jumping off the building were useless, because his mother would use the remote control to turn back time to resurrect him.
he asked helplessly, "How many times do you want me to die again?" The mother's control can only live, and live the way her mother wants him to be.
Does mother love him? certainly!
When I divorced my father, didn't mention any conditions. I only wanted my son.
her son has become her only sustenance and her only meaning of existence.
In such a strong and heavy love,How long can the son last?
"This is not your remote control, this is mine"
I studied, got admitted to a good university, got a good job, and talked about a stable girlfriend. It seemed that everything was on the right track...
But her mother was still not satisfied. She arranged for Xiaowei to go on a blind date. Want Xiaowei to marry her perfect wife.
The girl on the blind date is in the same situation as Xiaowei and is already engaged in the United States. Because her parents were dissatisfied, both parents hit it off and decided to put the two children together.
But this girl is more brave and more willing to pursue her own happiness. She told Xiaowei: "Life is our own, and we should be responsible for what it looks like."
I have to say that this touched Xiaowei. He wanted to be responsible for his life and could no longer accept his life being held by his mother. So, he had a bold idea of -stealing his mother’s remote control,Take control of your life again.
Xiaowei returned home while his mother was traveling, opened the safe, and took out the remote control.
The moment he got the remote control, he felt a bit at a loss and things were going too smoothly. Why hadn't I thought about being brave and taking control of my life before?
When I went out with the remote control, I ran into my mother who came back in a hurry. Xiaowei finally shouted out what he always wanted to say,
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Xiaowei is like a little elephant imprisoned by chains, and the remote control is like a chain that binds him since childhood.He plucked up the courage to break free this time, but his mother's words scared him again. He could only obediently hold the remote control towards his mother, but was hit by a speeding car...
The story is open. The ending. At the end of the picture, Xiaowei finally returned to the day when he met Xiaolan. That may be Xiaowei's biggest obsession, and it was the beginning of a completely different life for him.
The movie is exaggerated out of plot needs, but the reality it maps is closely connected with each of us. Every parent holds an invisible remote control in his hand to control the child's life.
control their interests, hobby classes should be elegant, piano, painting, horse riding, but forgot to ask children what they really like; At a high level, scientists, doctors, and lawyers forgot to tell their children to be a takeaway or waiter, and it’s not ashamed; Work hard to cultivate a child who is "satisfied with himself".
It is undeniable that every parent loves their children, and the original intention is for their children to live better, but often too much effort can lead to the opposite effect.
children are independent individuals,It is not an accessory to the parents. Parents play a more guiding role in the growth of their children, rather than choosing every path they want to take on their behalf.
After all, life is a long way. We cannot stay with them forever. Only by letting them grow up from their parents can they go further and better.
Finally, I will share with you a poem by Gibran -"Your Child, Actually Not Your Child". After reading it, I hope to have new inspiration.
Your child is not actually your child.
is the birth of their own children.
They came to this world through you,
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What you can give them is your love,
is not what you think,
because they have their own ideas.
You may house their bodies,
but not their souls,
because their souls belong to tomorrow,
part of your dream Unreachable tomorrow.
You can do your best to become like them,
but don’t let them become like you, because _1span will not stay in the life, and will not retreat p1p .
You are the bow, and the children are the arrows shot from you.
The archer looked at the target on the road to the future,
He tried his best to pull you away, _1span3span
gladness,
in the hands of the archer bend it,
because he loves the arrow that flies,
love very Stable bow.
(Please follow Hong En's mother)
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