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; there are no rules and irregularities. In the family, rules can never be lacking; loving children and setting rules is never a single choice. A home must have warmth and rules. Love children and set the rules, both are indispensable.
There is a good saying: freedom with rules is lively, freedom without rules is arrogant. When children are ignorant and ignorant, there is no concept of right and wrong, only the points of likes and dislikes. If the parents obey blindly, he will only think it is right. Only by establishing rules from an early age and guiding education in an appropriate way can children know how to love themselves and their families, and then understand what can be done and what cannot be done. This is far more effective than being beaten, scolded, and disciplined hard after the child gets into trouble.
have seen such a story. The son asked: "If I make the pillow feathers fly in the sky, would you still love me?" Mom said: "I will always love you, but you have to pack up the feathers." The son asked: "If I paint with paint Sprinkle it on my sister, do you still love me?" Mom said: "I will always love you, but you are responsible for washing my sister." In the story, the mother tirelessly assured the child that "I will always love you", and at the same time Don't forget to emphasize: Children, you have to be responsible for your actions, and you have to bear the consequences of your actions.
The child has made a mistake, and the parents cannot help the child escape.Instead, children should learn to take responsibility. Let the children have the honesty and courage to face mistakes, this is the meaning of setting the rules.
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set rules, not unilateral compulsion. A rule is not a requirement imposed on a person, but a principle that everyone in the family must abide by.
When parents set the rules, if they do not count themselves in, but set the rules for their children while breaking the rules themselves, it will only make the children disgusted. So, don't make a one-way request to your child. That is not a rule, but an order.
There are rules in the family, and parents should follow them. Especially when it comes to the way you treat your children, you can't do whatever you want. For example, you must try your best to do what you have promised. This is not only a matter of prestige, but also an example of abiding by the rules in the heart of the child.
The parents’ every move will be deeply imprinted in the heart of the child; the family environment will eventually be reflected in the child’s long future life. Parents grow up with their children and jointly create a good family environment is the panacea for cultivating outstanding children.
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set the rules,It is also the beginning of self-cultivation. Only a family with rules can nurture children who know how to be grateful.
Many parents are eager to give the best things in the world to their children, but in fact, the best things often do not need to be deliberately searched for because it is always around. It is high-quality company, firm eyes and deep love.
The love of parents for their children is instinct and instinct. But children who grow up under the doting of their parents grow up only the body, not the mind. Instead of continuously satisfying the child materially, it is better to enrich the child spiritually. There is a very vivid analogy: "Raising a child is like flying a kite. It must fly high, but it must also keep a line." The rule is that line. The child can go to the vast world by himself, and the meaning of the rules is to allow him to keep his heart and not lose his way in the complicated society.
The purpose of establishing the rules is not to imprison or restrict, but to educate; is not to cultivate an obedient, independent child, but a good personality. In a well-regulated family, couples are harmonious, their growing up is orderly, fathers and sons are related, and the family style is self-regulated.
Love and rules are the best tutoring for a family.
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