Some children want to throw something on the ground when they see it. Whether it is expensive or cheap, they will throw it away without hesitation. However, poor parental education will aggravate this behavior. A common phenomenon is that some parents scold and scold, and some parents ignore it. Just be happy.
The former parent’s idea is not wrong, but when facing the child throwing things, the parents’ different solutions will have different effects. When the child was young, he didn't know whether to throw something was right or wrong in his cognition. Some parents are indiscriminate and do not give their children a chance to recognize them. They use the method of beating and scolding when the child throws something for the first time, hoping to let the child remember this thing in this way Is not right.
As everyone knows, a kind of dissatisfaction has formed in the heart of the child. Even if he stopped throwing things, he didn't understand why his parents scolded him, let alone what he had done wrong , so this kind of throwing behavior would happen unintentionally. So in the face of children throwing things, what is the correct way for parents to do? Today's article mainly introduces how to help parents solve the problem of children throwing things.
The main reason for children throwing things is their parents
Parents did not set a good example
As the saying goes, parents are the best teachers for their children, so their behavior will greatly affect their behavior. The behavior of the child. Parents usually don't cherish things, take things with care, and are willing to throw things to vent when quarreling. These behaviors will be engraved in children's minds, children will naturally be affected by things, and children will not cherish things over time. Will imitate their parents,I think it's right to throw things.
There is a problem with the communication between the parents
The parents did not tell the child to throw something right or wrong, so in the child’s confused perception, this matter may be considered right Things are a small thing. Parents did not give reason to their children, and did not have a sincere communication. If the children throw things, they will use their own violent methods to solve them. Use scolding to scare the child, so as to achieve the desired effect. But at this time, the budding of rebellion in the child's heart has appeared.
Family environmental impact
Some parents, regardless of their children’s feelings, make a lot of noise in front of their children, or even throw valuables in front of their children, which will stimulate their children’s desire to imitate , Causing children to throw things like their parents. When parents discovered that their children were throwing things, they did not stop them in time, nor did they reflect on their behavior in time. The next time they made a big noise, they still regarded throwing things as a way to vent their emotions.
From a child's perspective, why throw things?
Strong curiosity
Children may feel that different things can make different sounds when they fall on the floor. Then he will have a kind of curiosity about this phenomenon. No one tells him what to do , in the eyes of the baby, he is scolded by his parents only when he is curious. When a child encounters something new, he wants to try it out. Parents don’t understand the child’s curiosity, they just think it’s wrong for the child to do so, and they will solve the problem in their own way.
thinks it is a way of entertainment
Some children don’t know whether to throw something right or wrong,Use throwing things as a way to entertain yourself. Recognize that this kind of thing will produce different effects and discover the different attributes of new things. Parents don’t know how to treat it in the right way, causing children to like this entertainment more and more, and a habit will form over time.
I feel neglected and want to attract the attention of people around me
Parents are busy at work for their children. It is inevitable that parents will not be at home every day, sometimes they will work overtime, or even travel for several days without going home. When they go home, they will rest and sleep to ease their exhaustion. children will feel that their parents do not value him very much, lack of companionship, and love, so they will throw things away and want to be valued by their parents.
Unhappy, vent their emotions
Parents often abuse their children and cause great dissatisfaction in their children's hearts, so they will vent their anger by throwing things. Parents are very harsh on their children, and they are not allowed to touch any objects, so the children will have a . Curious and angry psychology, so children will use the way of throwing things to vent their dissatisfaction.
When children throw things, parents should communicate and understand as soon as possible.
First of all, parents should give correct communication and guidance. Parents think about why their children throw things and ask themselves if they have done their responsibilities. Whether to accompany the child well, when facing the child’s behavior, parents should give a correct guide, tell the child what is right and what is wrong, and tell the child that he loves him very much. When communicating with the child, Transform those tedious principles into simple sentences to integrate into the chat with the child.
Secondly, relieve the child's psychological burden and understand the child's negative emotions. Everyone has negative emotions, let alone a child, but everyone has a different way of dealing with negative emotions. The child’s choice may be to throw things. Parents must understand the correct way to resolve them, actively guide their children, and let Children use another healthy way to vent their emotions, such as asking them about their wishes in time, and communicating with them more often.
Finally, care about children and value children. Parents' active care for their children will have a positive effect on the children. Faced with the meticulous care and careful company of their parents, children will definitely love their parents. In this loving and warm atmosphere, children will not vent their emotions by throwing things away. Parents should listen more to their children and establish a proper friendship with their children.
【Message from the author】
Children must have their own reasons for throwing things, and parents should not urge their children to correct this problem. Parents should carry out correct psychological dredging and guidance to their children. Let children have a correct perception of things. Be sure not to educate children by beating and scolding, and do not put children under any psychological pressure. Parents should spend more time with their children and teach them to solve problems in a healthy and positive way. Respect the children's own thoughts and wishes. Parents should keep calm when things happen, create a warm atmosphere for the children, give them more love, and be gentle with the children to reason, believing that the children's habit of throwing things will be corrected.
Today’s topic: Does your child like to throw things?
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