Everyone has their own way of looking at and solving problems, which may be related to their home environment, learning environment, and education. In life, we often find that some children are very careful and patient to solve problems when they encounter problems, and are willing to communicate with others. However, some children choose to use violence to resolve conflicts.
Brother gave Erbao a full moon wine, and our whole family went to the banquet. After dinner, we went to see Erbao. But who knows, big brother Jia Dabao is not allowing us to touch him while holding his younger brother. A relative teased him and said that not only did he want to touch him, he also took his brother away. This made Dabao angry. He raised his fist and hit the opponent. Fortunately, his father stopped him in time. On the way home, my mother said with emotion: "If this child is not well educated, it will really depend on his parents to become violent in the future."
The child has a violent tendency because of many reasons
Violent tendency It is terrible for any of us, , especially in the family, if there is violence, it is undoubtedly a "time bomb" in the family, threatens the health and emotions of the family at any time. Some children have signs of violent tendencies at a young age. The reasons for this need to be analyzed from many aspects.
First, children don’t know how to express their emotions correctly
Each of us grew up at the stage of a child,Have experienced ignorance and ignorance, Today’s children are who we once were. Therefore, it is impossible to imagine why children tend to be violent. One of the important reasons for is that children do not know how to express their emotions correctly.
Every child grows up to a certain age to have self-awareness, awareness of property rights, and awareness of self-protection. If at this time someone else does something that makes the child feel in crisis, he will take certain actions to defend his rights. But as far as we adults are concerned, we usually choose a peaceful way to solve problems when we encounter them. But children are different. Their thinking is very simple and they will only do their best to solve problems.
Second, parental spoiling
There are also some children who are well-suited and worry-free since they are born. Some children grow up in the palms of their parents even if they don't have particularly good financial conditions. When parents have the best things, they will give them to their children as soon as possible. No matter what the child asks, these parents will unconditionally satisfy the child.
As a parent, it is logical to love and care for children. But we all know that parents’ love for their children should have a certain limit. has a good saying: "Things must be counterproductive." If the affection exceeds that of seeing too much, it will become spoiling, and spoiling will go against the original intention of the parents and lead the child to a path that cannot see clearly.
Third, influenced by the way parents’ education
I remember a classmate who had a bad temper. always likes to fight and conflict with classmates in class. His parents are always invited to school by the teacher. Once this classmate had a fight with someone else, was angrily taken home by his father when he was found out. Some classmates, out of curiosity, went outside his house to find out, to see how his father would educate him.
It didn’t take long for the classmate’s home to hear beating and crying, and the children who were listening outside were scared away. Only then did we know that his father is also violent, and the way to educate children is to beat and scold. There are many children who have had this childhood and past, and their parents are also violent. Over time, it has a certain impact on the children's psychology , which makes the children also appear violent, all because of the influence of their parents.
Parents need to know that children have obvious violent tendencies, and they must learn to distinguish them
On the one hand, they are grumpy and always get into trouble. The method is to observe the children's temper and personality. Most violent children are very grumpy. always refutes at home, and moms and dads are always troublesome when they are outside. Moreover, once these children have conflicts with others, they will not take the correct method to solve them, nor will they ask their parents for help. will only solve the problem through violence.
On the other hand,Like to abuse small animals
There are also some children, , they seem to be very good at disguising. In front of outsiders, they always look good and obedient, but in fact, their hearts are very dark and distorted. Darkness and distortion are manifested in the abuse of small animals. In our impression, children usually have a good impression of small animals.
But children with violent tendencies are different. In front of outsiders, they may pretend to be like small animals, , but if there is no one around, they will expose their true thoughts and treat small animals. Carrying out torture and torture, uses this to satisfy their perverted psychology.
As parents, they should pay attention to their children’s growth and keep them away from violent tendencies
First of all, teach children to "talk"
Li Meijin Professor once said: "People who tend to be violent, never grow up Good at communication." That is to say, children with violent tendencies, will often not "talk", and will not communicate with others. When you have any thoughts and bad emotions, you usually hold them back. They always imprison themselves, and is also because of this, so that their inner thoughts are not known to others, and they will also be annoyed and depressed because of this.
Over time, there will be violent tendencies. Therefore, if parents want their children to stay away from the threat of violent tendencies, they should teach their children to speak and cultivate their character from an early age. makes them optimistic and cheerful. Children communicate and understand their interests and hobbies,Their bad emotions and worries, solved them in time.
Secondly, to help children digest bad emotions correctly
As we all know, the most direct reason for 's tendency to violence is to have bad emotions. Because of anger and anger, ’s depressed heart has nowhere to vent, is why children use violence to express their thoughts and vent their emotions. In this case, parents should pay more attention to their children’s mood.
If you find that your child is irritable or in a low mood, should communicate with the child in a timely manner, and help the child see the problem correctly and digest bad emotions correctly. Let the child become the leader of emotions instead of being Emotional dominance. At the same time, parents should also pay attention to their own educational methods and methods. should not be violent in front of their children, and guide them to correct values.
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Actually, every child of is innocent and cute at birth, and there is no difference between good and bad. However, the reason why some children have bad problems and violent tendencies in the process of growing up are caused by many reasons. can also be said to be affected by bad factors. Once mom and dad find out that the child is showing bad behavior, don’t beat or scold him.You should choose the right way to help your children and keep them away from the threat of violent tendencies.
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