Many mothers complain that as their children grow older, they talk less and less to their families. Sometimes an adult asks "How is your day?" The answer is often "okay, pretty good", and there is no more text. The child looks quite obedient on the surface, but in fact he has his own little nine in his heart, and he just doesn't tell his parents.
The problems caused by this will suddenly break out when the child is adolescent, and it is too late for people to want to change it. Therefore, when the child is young, we have to learn to chat with the child.
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When many parents chat with their children, they often end up preaching.
For example:
Let’s see, you can talk about everything until you learn, but the children would often share the boring words with you at the end.
Actually, parents’ kind of purposeful chat is just a kind of unilateral indoctrination, telling children to study hard. This way often does not require parents to spend too much time thinking and organizing. Language is the easiest and most convenient. But the effect achieved by this way of chatting is minimal.
When parents pick up the children all the way to school today, ask the children to report
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Condition. Asking this way every day seems to have formed a pattern, and if things go on like this, the child’s answer will begin to be patterned: "Well, yes, it’s okay, pretty good..." With such a coping response, parents won’t get any effective information. . If the parents kept asking, the child would have been so annoyed that he could not help but lose his temper, let alone a good chat.
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For example:
Child: "Mom,I want to tell you something. "(The child initiates a chat signal)
Mother: "Said. "(Somewhat impatient)
Child: "Mom, I want to buy a pair of sneakers. "
Mother: "What to buy? Don’t you have so many shoes?
child: "Just buy me a pair." "
Mother: "Don't buy it, hurry up and do your homework!"
child: "Huh! I won't do homework if you don't buy it! "
This not only killed the day, but also aroused conflicts between the child and the parent. Why bother? If the mother can ask the child for the reason when the child makes a request: _p3br
Mom: "Why do you want to buy sneakers all of a sudden?"
Child: "Because our school is going to hold a sports meeting, I want to participate in the competition.
Mom: "Then what competition are you going to participate in?"
child: "I want to participate...and you know what mom, today the teacher praised me for running fast, suggesting that I join the school track and field team..."
look,If you can calm down and accept your child’s communication signals, there is so much more that your child can tell you...So, if you happen to be busy when your child is talking to you, then you’d rather let the child wait rather than rush to deal with it. child. It is important to protect children's willingness to communicate!
not to chat and chat, chat also pay attention to methods
▊ learn to listen
Listening does not mean that parents just sit there with their mouths closed and just listen. The best listening is to have interaction. Even if you have a positive look, children will be interested in talking with you.
▊ squat down
More disgusted. To squat down means that the parents squat down and chat with their children head-up; it also means that the parents lower their posture.Don't treat children as children, and communicate with children on an equal footing in thought. In this way, children will feel respected and will have the desire to chat.
▊ Pick a good time
If you want to chat with your child anytime and anywhere, it’s not like being able to focus on chat anytime and anywhere. Thinking about it in another way, no one wants to be disturbed, so the result must be perfunctory. So, try to chat when everyone is calm and there is nothing important. If parents really have important things to talk to their children, let the children stop the things at hand and talk seriously.
When parents encounter problems, they can ask the opinions of their children who are also family members; they can also often share your "secrets" with their children, which will make the children closer to you...
In short, when communicating with children, forget that you are the parent and don't treat the child as a child!
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