"All parents love their children." Almost all parents in the world cherish their children very much. If they want to give them the best things they have, they will do whatever they want even if they need to work ten times the hard work.
Most of the time, such love is very warm, but if it is excessive, such love will become a kind of constraint and make children more depressed, because parents always do things that their children do not accept in the name of love.
"In life, there are things that can be done, and there are things that cannot be done. You should do your best. This is called exercising your nature, and you should follow it with all your heart. This is called knowing your destiny." Therefore, even parents should not define their children's lives randomly based on their own wishes.
Especially when you are old and want to get closer to your children, you need to put yourself in your shoes and think about the problem from the perspective of your children. Don’t do your own thing and think that as long as you care in your heart, all methods are good. Even if you are with your children, you should avoid it.
people are old. If you want to get closer to your children, do the following three things less.
1: Don’t inquire about the privacy of your children
Parents are great and give everything to their children, but when they have the ability to live, it means that they already have their own life and need space. If they blindly bind them in the name of love, it will be more than worth the loss.
Especially when people are old and want to get closer to their children, don’t inquire about their children’s privacy.
Everyone has more or less privacy, which is something that even their own family doesn’t want to disclose. This space is understandable.
If you blindly inquire about your children's privacy, it will only distance you from the distance, make them be wary of you, and even no longer have the desire to share, which will be very unfavorable to your relationship.
Children are very wary of their privacy, and this is not a bad thing. You don’t have to inquire carefully. If you wait until your relationship is really close, you may be willing to open your heart.
So when they are unwilling, don’t understand it mandatory. Such behavior will only backfire and make your relationship very stiff. Therefore, in order to avoid unnecessary trouble, parents must also learn to master the measure.
2: It is not enough to interfere with the relationship of children
Poor parents in the world. Every couple hopes that their children can have a happy life, but no matter what, their path is chosen by themselves. If parents interfere excessively, the situation will be worsened.
Especially when parents are old and want to get close to their children, don’t interfere with their children’s feelings excessively. Everyone has standards for measuring things. If you use your own set to measure them, it will be very painful for your children.
After all, children's lives are theirs, you are just an important part of it, but not all of them. Children also have their own measurements of their relationship choices. If they need to change their choices because of you, no matter what the result is, your relationship will not improve.
Of course, many parents are worried that their children make mistakes in their relationship and meet bad people, but everyone comes to this world and wants to love as they please. No one can choose love completely according to other people's standards.
If you want to get close to your relationship, you can give your children care when they need it, give them solid support, and let them know that no matter what they encounter, they will have your firm company.
This method is more useful than any method, and children will be willing to listen to your ideas, because your support will completely move them, and your relationship will become closer.
So when parents deal with their relationship with their children, they must learn to be flexible and not always be self-centered. Only in this way can they improve efficiency and make each other more dependent on each other.
3: Don’t have too high expectations for your children
Parents are old and have walked a lot of roads, so naturally there are much more experience than their children. Therefore, if many parents want their children to avoid detours, they will not be able to help but give some advice. What’s more, because of the ups and downs of their lives, they will have too high expectations for their children.
I hope that my children can inherit the unfulfilled wishes, work hard, and achieve what parents expect, but many people cannot understand the hardships in it, and when parents are young, they must have a time to retreat.
Therefore, to reduce your expectations for your children, so that they can live bravely according to love, they need to become an accessory to anyone, and they do not need to put in ten times of their efforts to prove it. Children who grow up in such an atmosphere must be very positive and happy.
If you have high expectations for your children, it will put a lot of pressure on them, and it can even be said to cause physical and mental burdens. In severe cases, it will endanger their health and they will reject your existence.
If you want to get close to your children, you must reduce your sense of existence and do not command them from the perspective of God, so that they can live a different life and have independent space to fly.
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