text/Xiao Xiao Jiang Zuo Mei Niang
Goddess Audrey Hepburn once said:
"If you want beautiful lips, you must say kind words; if you want cute eyes, you must see the benefits of others; if you want a slim figure, you must share your food with hungry people."
Measure a person's value is never about how much wealth he has, but about what kind of cultivation he has.
If you are an executive of the company, would you take your anger on others because you were in a bad mood? If you become a deliveryman due to financial difficulties, will you feel inferior when you knock on the door? If you were the boss and now on the verge of bankruptcy, would you be emotionally broken?
Different life situations are a life test, and the details can best reflect a person's cultivation.
Good cultivation is the kindness that a person hides in his heart. Good cultivation will eventually achieve a person's height.
So how can a person achieve the best cultivation?
01. Being in a high place and being humble is
Wang Yangming once said:
"Being proud is a great enemy of man. Thousands of sins and all evils come from pride."
deeply agrees.
If a person is arrogant and arrogant and shows his sharpness, his achievements will eventually be a flash in the pan and the road of life will be difficult to go far; and even if a person is in a high position and knows how to restrain his sharpness, he will naturally be able to keep his position firmly and continue his offspring.
When Emperor Wu of Han was reigned, the cruel official Zhang Tang was very popular with the emperor. After his death, he left behind a son, Zhang Anshi . In order to protect him, the emperor repeatedly used him. Not only did he not be arrogant, he was cautious everywhere and acted cautiously.
When discussing national policies with the emperor, after the matter is decided, he will use the excuse to avoid it for a while and wait until everything is calm before coming out, for fear that his colleagues will know that he came up with the idea.
Later, General Huo Guang died. Many people recommended him to the emperor, and the emperor was also ready to reuse him. He repeatedly ruled for various reasons, but did not get the emperor's consent, and finally became the general in a helpless manner. Even if he became a high-ranking official, he had no airs at all and his style of acting was more low-key.
Someone used this to report to the emperor, angrily accusing him of his life as being too simple, treating his subordinates too kindly, and lacking prestige. Unexpectedly, the emperor severely criticized this person, but highly praised Zhang Anshi's integrity and respect for the wise and humble, and expressed that he would definitely use this person in the future.
In the days that followed, Zhang Anshi became even more frugal. The clothes he wore were sewn by his wife, and he also let the servant farm. His living expenses were really far from his identity.
He also refused to let his family be an official in the court, especially in important positions. If he really couldn't give up, he would hand over his salary. He also made future generations always remember not to be proud and complacent, but to do things in a low-key manner.
is his modest, cautious, low-key and introverted style, and ultimately achieve a happy ending in the complex officialdom.
Humility is a means of making a living, and it is also a rare cultivation. People with such cultivation can still think about the rivers and seas and rivers, and will walk steadily and go far.
Humility is the most stable capital for a person to settle down.
02. In a low point, he was indifferent to
Hong Kong actor Tony Leung , because he was attracted by director Li Hanxiang , he starred in his first drama in his life, " Leaving the Political Under the Curtain ". Since then, he became a hit and became the youngest actor in Hong Kong.
However, life is always full of too many uncertainties. Once, he went to Beijing to film the drama " Burning the Old Summer Palace ". Under the pressure of external situation, he was unfortunately banned after filming the drama. The gap in his heart can be imagined.
Although he is a generation of actors, in order to live, he had to set up a street stall at the Causeway Bay Night Market. He was very calm about this. Like all vendors, he shouted loudly and completely forgot about his identity as a movie star.
One day, a citizen passed by his stall and accidentally recognized him, but he did not have any inferiority complex. Instead, he admitted openly: Yes, I am that star.
is in a low point, he is open and honest, and does not feel anything wrong. Even though he has been like this, he has not seen him feel any discomfort after a long time.
Fortunately, he later unblocked and did not play any big name. Instead, he took on every scene seriously. In the end, he was lucky to be favored by the French director and starred in the movie " Lover ", becoming a hit and heading internationally. More than 0 years later, Tony Leung was invited to participate in an interview program hosted by Lu Yu . In the program, Lu Yu once asked Tony Leung, if he had any other relaxing jobs besides setting up a street stall at that time?
He smiled and said, "That's not much that I earned in a street stall." He said it realistically, without any inferiority or a sense of embarrassment, and he showed more calmness and calmness from his expression.
Faced with the trough, many people were depressed, desperate and depressed, and never recovered from it and lost the courage to face life. But Tony Leung did not.
In fact, in his heart, whether it is setting up a street stall or acting, it is a way of life. As long as it is for life, no job is cheap.
People who can think like this are actually very well-educated.
Because in their opinion, the trough is, in other words: the time is not yet ripe, and when the time is not yet ripe, we do not need to underestimate ourselves, we just need to lie dormant and wait.
Therefore, they willingly experience the baptism of wind and rain, the tempering of suffering, and the sublimation of precipitation in this long dormant and waiting. Then one day, the turning point will be dark and bright, and they will surely reach the peak of their lives.
When the trough is low, the clouds are calm and the wind is light, and you can see the vast sky after despair.
03. Facing gains and losses, the optimistic
star Zhong Hanliang , he has a dream of being an actor. When he grew up, he worked hard to film in order to realize his dream.
He kept trying different roles and constantly challenging himself. Finally, he won the recognition of many viewers with the TV series " Shanghai King ", "Four Famous Shops", "Insider", etc., and also accumulated a certain reputation for himself.
His acting skills naturally won the favor of directors. His perfect appearance made the directors of the TV series " Meteor Garden " and "Scarlet Heart" that were popular in China take the initiative to find him.
But for other reasons, he missed all these opportunities. Although he had regrets in his heart, he did not complain at all. Instead, he smiled slightly and faced the unknown tomorrow with a calm attitude.
Later, he filmed the TV series " Tianya Mingyue Dao ", playing the protagonist Fu Hongxue. He is sunny and handsome, perfectly interpreting Fu Hongxue's role in the play. His noble acting skills have won the recognition of more and more audiences, and he finally became popular with this role.
has become a person who is on the cloud, without the pride of pampering all over the world. He said in a low-key manner:
"Actually, many things are really not something you can control. I am just doing the work that I can choose and control within my range. I am happy and want to do, and I am very satisfied." After
became famous, some media visited him and asked him if he regretted it because he missed becoming the male lead of "Meteor Garden" and "Scarlet Heart".
He always answers media interviews casually:
"Although others choose well, the results of your choice may not be necessarily bad. So we don't waste time. In the future, we should say that we didn't take that path at that time, it's better to spend time thinking about how I should go ahead better."
Facing gains and losses, he was relaxed and casual. This casual attitude has made him a broad-minded, optimistic and open-minded person.
Writer Sanmao once said:
"I believe that what God does not give me, no matter how tightly I hold my fingers, I will still miss it. No matter how I fail, I will have it."
Yes, there are numbers of prosperity and withering, and gains and losses are difficult to measure. As time passes, prosperity and bleakness are all scenery. We don’t need to cry for missing the moon, because if you cry, you will miss the stars.
So, instead of being intoxicated in complacency and depressed in frustration, it is better to look at life with an ornamental heart and chew on suffering with an optimistic heart. Then, all gains and losses will become scenery and charm.
Life is ups and downs, and things are hard to predict. Sometimes we must learn to accept our fate. As long as you do your best to do every step you have taken and be ashamed of your heart, and leave the rest to fate.
As the saying goes, "Only when there are gains and losses is life." For the rest of your life, just right your mindset, abandon negativeness and impetuousness, and have an optimistic heart, so that you can move forward easily and calmly.
04. Mei Niang says
Ikeda Dasaku once said:
"The cultivation of temperament is not for others, but for the enhancement of one's ability to live."
The good cultivation is: maintain an optimistic attitude, and even if you are in a high place, you can be humble; when encountering lows, you can still be indifferent; when facing gains and losses, you can also smile optimistically.
This kind of cultivation is the quality of temperament that emanates from the inside to the outside, the heroic flow of trickles into the sea, and the demeanor that I can stand still without moving if it blows wind and rain.
It allows us to spend those darkest moments in a sigh when facing the storms of life.
for more than one life, I hope you and I can have this good cultivation and become a quality that will benefit you throughout your life.
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