people are social animals. No one likes to live alone and cannot stand loneliness. Loneliness is like a borer, which will constantly erode our spirit.
Because I like to be lively, I like to visit each other, which can add some fun to the fun-free life.
If a person is alone at home, he will easily think randomly and have negative emotions. By visiting each other, he can communicate with others, evade the boredom in his heart, share with each other’s recent events, and contact each other’s emotions.
Therefore, many people like to visit each other when they have nothing to do. But visiting each other is not without harm. When people reach middle age, go to these people's homes less to visit:
1. After people reach middle age, go to the elders less to visit each other
No matter how old we are, we will always treat us as children in the eyes of elders, and we are always inexorable to preach that.
When we were young, we were unable to refute, so we could only listen to the opinions of our elders silently. They were just concerned about our grades and health.
and so on, the elders start to worry about our emotional situation and career. After middle age, the elders will have more to say, asking about career, parents' situation, marital status, children...
Once they visit their elders' homes, they will keep listening to their elders' nagging. Although they are kind-hearted, they will always feel uncomfortable when they are asked by them. If their career and family are not going well, they will feel at a loss when they face their questions.
So when people reach middle age, they should visit their elders less often. They can visit them occasionally and care about their bodies, but don’t stay for too long, and don’t go too often.
2. After reaching middle age, visit friends less often, hoping to catch up with each other. After getting married and starting a business, friends have fewer opportunities to get along with each other and are busy with their own lives. Even if you have time to go out for a party, most of the topics of chat revolve around the family and children.
Especially after middle age, you should visit friends' houses less, because children are in a rebellious period after middle age. If you go to friends' houses and talk to friends about children, you may compare them. The children will feel uncomfortable and quarrel with their parents.
may also discuss career. If the other party’s career is not going well, you will feel that you are deliberately showing off.
33. After reaching middle age, you should visit your neighbors less
The so-called distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors. Chinese people pay great attention to neighbors, and they are careful to maintain their relationship with their neighbors and are eager to establish good neighbors. Often, our relationship with our neighbors is much better than that with distant relatives.
Neighbors visit each other, and most of the topics discussed are about family matters and used as chat after meals. However, this kind of chat always involves many people around them. Once heard by those who are interested, it will spread more and more outrageously, and sometimes conflicts are likely to arise.
Neighborhood relationship is not easy to establish and requires good protection for each other. Therefore, when middle-aged people are less likely to visit neighbors, this is more beneficial to maintaining neighborhood relationships.
4. After reaching middle age, visit relatives less often
The relationship between relatives is not established through daily interactions, but is condensed by blood relationships and will not disperse easily.
Since ancient times, there has been a saying that brothers have settled the accounts clearly. No matter how close relatives are, their families will focus on their own interests. Don’t like to bother relatives in small matters. Everyone who can help is willing to help and will do their best to help. But if you bother relatives whenever you have something to worry about, then in close relationships, relatives will also be bothered.
When relatives get together, they like to talk about people they know, so the person they discuss is often the other relatives they know.
If that relative knows that he has become the object of being talked about, he will feel offended. In order to avoid conflicts, when people reach middle age, they should avoid visiting relatives' homes.
For people who like fun, they will feel very happy when visiting each other and will be very enthusiastic. But for people who like quietness and do not like to interact with others, visiting each other will make them feel unnatural. They prefer to be alone, which is their comfort zone and they are unwilling to let others enter.
people should visit less after middle age. If you have free time and really don’t want to stay alone at home, you can travel and see the beautiful mountains and rivers of the motherland; cultivate your interests and hobbies, realize your childhood dreams; learn more knowledge and broaden your horizons... There are many things you can do, and you have the ability to realize them.
Compared to visiting each other, a group of friends agreed to have a party together, because we are completely our own without the constraints of family. On that day, we don’t have to worry about the trivial matters at home, and chat with our friends and speak freely. When visiting each other, you will always feel restrained and you are not as comfortable as outside.
