The best tool for communication,
is the smile that fills your face.
Author: Insight Leylah
I have seen such a profound picture. The title is: Before speaking, please make sure your brain is connected.
Many times, we are like the person in the picture, without thinking before speaking, and letting our words blurt out.
The consequence is often that it embarrasses others and also damages one's own face.
As a sentence in "Key Dialogue":
"Most of the things that affect life, if you study them carefully, you will find that they are all caused by poor communication."
Learning communication skills and practicing speaking skills is an indispensable practice for everyone.
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- 4 pause for three seconds before opening, leaving time to think.
Have you noticed that many quarrels and misunderstandings in life are caused by the quick mouth.
is obviously kind, but because he can't express himself, he makes people complain.
clearly has no malicious intentions, but he offended people because he spoke without thinking.
Entrepreneur Li Xiaolai When he was young, he worked in New Oriental .
At that time, the principal of New Oriental, Beijing heard that Li Xiaolai was very knowledgeable about corpus , so he asked him to talk to see if he could build a corpus for the school.
had a very happy chat all the way, and finally the principal asked, "See, Xiaolai, what kind of support do you need?"
Li Xiaolai said without hesitation: "Actually, this matter doesn't cost much money, it's mainly time-consuming and labor-intensive, so I hope this is not a matter of disappearing if the principal changes..." Just as the
was finished, the principal's face changed on the spot.
Li Xiaolai also regretted it very much.
In fact, what he wanted to express was: "This is a slow work, you have to continue to do it..."
But, he said too quickly and too urgently. The originally lively atmosphere instantly became cold, and the matter of building a corpus for the school was naturally left alone.
In our daily life, we will actually be like Li Xiaolai. The more excited we are, the easier it is to say some inappropriate words.
The result is that what you say is like a running horse. If you want to turn back, you will have no room for maneuver.
Gold Microphone Winner Yin Yamin once said: The best way to speak is to stop for three seconds before opening.
The pause is left to give yourself some silence time to effectively sort out the logic and avoid the scene from falling into an awkward situation.
Really smart people will think first and then speak.
Say something slowly, stop for three seconds when encountering things, and you won’t lose your sense of responsibility.
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- 33 Change your position when communicating and take care of the other party’s feelings.
Writer Akio Yamamoto wrote this sentence in "Communication with the Position":
People who can think from the Position with the Position with the Position can win the other party's favor and communicate smoother.
If you only care about your own feelings and ignore the situation of others, a relationship will go further and further.
About thirty years ago, Song Dandan and Ni Ping became good friends because of the Spring Festival Gala. When Song Dandan arranged the program " Lazy Blind Dating ", Ni Ping also planned and gave her some advice.
It can be said that in each other's hearts, each other is very important.
But it was such a profound friendship that was paused for 20 years because of a sentence.
At that time, at a dinner party, Song Dandan saw Ni Ping coming, held her hand affectionately, and said to everyone:
"Ni Ping and I are particularly good friends."
Unexpectedly, Ni Ping said with a smile: "Do I know you? Who is good friends with you?"
At that time, Song Dandan had just divorced, and her career and life were at a low point.
This sentence is undoubtedly like a basin of cold water, pouring through Song Dandan's heart.
After that, Song Dandan ignored Ni Ping and gradually broke off contact between the two.
It was not until last year that Song Dandan and Ni Ping met on a variety show that they couldn't help but tell the knot that had been wronged for many years.
After hearing this, Ni Ping said guiltily:
She was in high spirits at that time, but she didn't expect that a joke that was heartless became a thorn in Song Dandan's heart.
People live for a lifetime, and everyone will have their own self-esteem and pride.
Really smart people understand that when talking, first understand other people's emotions and positions, and take into account other people's feelings.
The so-called high emotional intelligence is nothing more than being kind-hearted and putting one's heart in mind.
Take care of the other person's dignity when encountering things and pay more attention to other people's feelings when speaking, is the greatest wisdom in life.
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Zhihu blogger @Yihu Jianghu is engaged in the entertainment industry and will come into contact with various big stars and famous directors on weekdays. Among all the celebrities of
, he said that his favorite is Jackie Chan .
Because no matter when, Jackie Chan will smile when speaking, giving people an inexplicable sense of intimacy.
It is not difficult to find that people who are always used to frowning in life will also feel a low pressure when they speak, giving people a feeling of depression.
. People who speak with a smile look peaceful and cheerful, and every word will give people a feeling of spring breeze.
In "The Weakness of Human Nature", Carnegie told such a story.
There is a broker of New York Stock Exchange named Steinhard.
He has a successful career and looks very glorious to outsiders.
But his colleagues are very distant from him, and his wife and him are not cold or warm.
, he has always been unable to understand the whole story - why is so unpleasant?
Until one morning, he combed his hair in front of the mirror and saw his tightly tight face in the mirror.
He suddenly realized that everyone was alienating him because of his serious expression.
So he forced himself to change.
When he had breakfast, he greeted his wife with a smile; on the way to the office, he smiled and said good morning to his colleagues.
The magical thing is that when he began to get used to smiling to everyone, his life began to change drastically.
Not only is his wife closer to him, but even his colleagues are willing to take the initiative to talk to him and chat.
There is an old saying in China: is better than words.
In this era full of cold eyes and indifference, a smile can bring each other closer together and change others' views on themselves.
Smiling before speaking is a kindness and care for others, and a demonstration and proof of yourself.
The best tool for communication is the smile that fills your face.
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- communication Don't forget to listen and let each other feel comfortable.
A child asked the master: Why are the Buddha statues in the temples with big ears but their mouths are very small?
Master replied: Because Buddhists understand, listening is more important than expression.
In life, we always think that being able to talk means talking endlessly and eloquently.
In fact, the most important thing in a successful communication is not what you said, but what others say.
During the Civil War, US President Lincoln had a headache every day for "whether to liberate black slaves".
The existing black slave system has lagged behind the times;
liberates black slaves, and vested interests will come out to scold him.
After thinking about it, he had to find his old friend, hoping that the other party could give some advice.
Two people stayed in White House for a long time. At the end of the conversation, Lincoln had already opened up his mind and came up with a solution to the matter.
So someone asked his friend: What good ideas did you give Lincoln?
friend said, actually I didn’t mention any opinions, he was always talking, I was listening, that’s all.
Yes, the US president thinks that the problem is extremely difficult, how can others solve it in just a few words?
What Lincoln needs is just a person who is good at listening and can help him sort out his ideas and relieve stress.
This is how people communicate.
Sometimes, the most important thing for a successful conversation is not to just prove yourself, but to try to let others express their opinions and ideas.
Because when you give others more time and opportunity to express themselves, it is also easier to get close to and get close to each other.
Only by knowing how to listen can we make each other feel comfortable.
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The famous talk show debater Huang Zhizhong has always been famous for his ability to speak.
In the book "Speak well", he once said this:
"Talk is for people to listen to. Speaking well is a knowledge about people."
People who can talk can be as good as fish in water and have good luck no matter where they go.
click likes . I hope you can practice the way of speaking well, have a smooth future, and the rest of your life will be smooth.
