1. Not dependant or please anyone
Su Tian is my good friend and a shining independent woman.
In the past few days, people's positioning of independent women is probably the kind of professional strong woman who wears high heels, wears exquisite makeup, and is not married and infertile. But unfortunately, Su Tian is not like this.
She is indeed a workplace woman who wears high heels and wears exquisite makeup every day in the workplace. But at the same time, her marriage is also very happy, with a very cute son and a husband who loves her.
In her, it is hard to think about how to balance family and career, because she handled them well.
She and her husband also have very reasonable arrangements for the family division of labor. In her words, both of them are willing to understand each other but will not interfere with each other. At the same time, they also have to teach their children to face some things themselves. After all, women must first become themselves, and then they will be their wife and mother.
Don’t attach your own destiny to others, even if it’s the closest person. Trying to handle what you are good at is the sense of security that truly belongs to you and is not taken away by anyone.
2. Don’t compare with anyone
Many people’s anxiety comes from comparison, and the more you compare, the more anxious you become.
I have always disliked making comparisons, and even hate others for comparing me with others, but I often get caught up in comparisons, which makes people feel very troubled.
But Yu Er, a blogger I know, did a good job.
She said that it is very unobjective to compare from a single dimension. For example, if I earn 10,000 yuan a month, and others are 15,000 yuan, I will compete with others who are richer and more profitable. This is very unimportant and will make myself very anxious.
So she never compares with others. As long as she gives up doing the comparison, she will not be entangled, tight, or internally smeared.
Only by breaking away from those unnecessary comparisons, blocking external prejudice, and focusing on your own life, can you gain true peace and relaxation in your heart.
3. Be firm in yourself
It is easy to be yourself, but it is difficult to do it. It can be said that few people can be themselves unswervingly.
It has been two years since I quit writing naked. My biggest feeling during this period is: girls, we must firmly choose a path that suits us and be ourselves firmly.
When I first started to choose this path, many people around me didn’t understand it, thinking that making money by writing is simply a fantasy. Some people also say that the self-media has declined and ordinary people have no chance.
Indeed, if you want to join the self-media just because you don’t insist on writing, you will definitely be eliminated. But if you insist on writing something every day and outputting some content every day, even if you don’t make money in the process in the end, you will grow.
Writing is a process of constantly thinking about yourself.
I enjoyed this process very much and would always stick to it. Especially when you see that any person who has achieved something, most of them insist on being their own.
They are not afraid of worldly vision, are not afraid of others' evaluations, and bravely choose to be themselves. Girls like
are really cool.
4. Always believe in yourself
I once saw a blogger write this sentence:
"I think the best explanation for the word youth is that you are not afraid of everything and start over again at the age of thirty. You can return to campus at the age of forty, and you can elegantly wear the floral skirt you used to when you were young."
A girl, strong and relaxed, gentle and fearless, what we pursue throughout our life is roughly like this. Facing the unknown, you have the courage, strength, keep believing, and keep loving.
Whenever I see those girls who live bravely, I can't help but want to applaud them. Those corners that are reluctant to leave have turned into the power of girls, break free from the shackles, and always believe in yourself.
Two days ago, the actor Reiza won the Feitian Award and best actress rushing to the hot search. When I saw her choked up and saying thank you words, I couldn't help but cheer her outside the screen Palm.
So many years have passed, and everyone has finally seen her efforts and energy. This is God’s greatest reward for brave girls.
Those enthusiastic, brave and excellent female images have really given me a lot of encouragement.
Do not rely on anyone, do not compare with others, embrace their original self, everything we want will eventually come to the wind.
So, I wish all girls never lose confidence, keep their love, and be firm in themselves.
