Painter Chen Danqing Once said:
"You don't need to keep telling people what kind of person I am, because people will only be willing to see what they want to see. I even think it's good to hide your true self behind these misunderstandings."
Speaking is a person's instinct, but learning to shut up is a skill.
Sometimes it is often a kind of wisdom to not explain, argue, or correct others.
Powerful people do not need to explain themselves
Murakami Haruki said: "Things that cannot be understood without explanation are not understood even if they are explained."
In life, there are always times when others are misunderstood. Out of instinctive reactions, most people will choose to explain immediately and clarify the facts.
But there are also some people who choose to do their own things silently without saying a word. Even if they are not understood, they remain indifferent.
Once someone said: "The mountain does not speak of its height and reaches the sky, and the sea does not speak of its depth to embrace all rivers."
The mountain does not explain its height, but still reaches the sky; the sea does not explain its depth, but still accommodates all rivers.
In fact, people who are truly wise understand that taking action is the best explanation to block the public.
1 It takes energy to explain to people who don’t believe you. It is both pale and meaningless, and it will even become darker and darker. It is better to seek a quiet and block all unscrupulous information.
Powerful people do not need to argue with others
Yang Tianzhen mentioned his experience when participating in the recording of " Strange Talk ".
Because she gave up her glamorous career as an agent, she became a large-size women's clothing blogger. At that time, some people were sarcastic, saying that she could not make it in the circle of agents.
Some people also questioned that she was forced to change careers because she was outspoken and offended some people. At that time, Yang Tianzhen did not take these statements seriously, but instead carefully selected products and broadcast live.
She said: "People care about other people's opinions either because they are too idle or they are weak inside. When you have more important things to do, you won't care about these evaluations."
In fact, we don't have to expect to be like-minded with everyone, nor do we have to force everything to be consistent with one word.
Since you know that you cannot communicate, stay silent, and don’t cause trouble. Let’s say things to those who understand, and the truth to those who understand;
The true strong people will not live in entanglement with others, just do their best.
Powerful people do not need to correct others
In psychology, there is a word called "Selective Attention" .
It refers to our limited thinking and we often pay attention to what we want to pay attention to or what is beneficial to ourselves. We subconsciously think that we are right, and then involuntarily want to correct others.
Many times, it is difficult to manage yourself well, but you always like to spend time and energy to manage others. Blindly correcting others, perhaps something big may hit others in your words.
Wang Xiaobo wrote in "The Silent Most":
One of the main reasons why I choose silence: from words, you rarely learn human nature, but from silence, you can. If you want to learn more, you must continue to say nothing.
Stay silent and do not pay too much attention to others, so that you can often better observe and think.
You should know that when a person learns to shut up at the right time, he will also learn to mature and learn the most important principles of dealing with people and things.
Understanding silence is a kind of wisdom and a state of mind. May you become stronger and stronger in silence and become your best self.
