The truth of interest is:
No matter how much you like it at the beginning, when you need to study and research in depth, frustration and boredom will appear and increase.
This is what we call "three minutes of popularity".
At the beginning, you were only exposed to this matter for the first time and would feel fresh, but when you start to understand, encounter skills or encounter challenges, your freshness will gradually disappear and you will fall into anxiety.
But shallow interest cannot bring long-term fun and pleasure.
We need to find what we really love.
1. After the heat fades for three minutes, stick to it.
If you are willing to try something, it must be something you want to learn or useful to you.
may have a certain interest at the beginning, but as you gradually deepen, the difficulty increases, you will gradually become disgusted and even want to give up.
Just like when I learned English before, I was interested in it at the beginning, but later I learned not only after listening and reading. When faced with a large number of words and grammar, I started to get into trouble, but later I gradually became a little bit bad.
Of course, this is something I have to learn. I have to persist even if I don’t persist. Later, I went to middle school and after learning more, I found that the grammar is actually very interesting.
We gave up after three minutes of popularity because we failed to withstand the anxiety and boredom that led to higher levels of fun.
So, if you persist in everything, if you still feel boring after persisting, then you can give up.
2. Try you have a certain foundation and you will be interested in things.
Take me as an example. I have more willingness to do things I have come into contact with and understand.
If I ask me to do something that I don’t know at all or even know nothing about, then I will be very annoyed at the beginning and may not be interested in it.
Love is based on mastery. There is no interest and love in the world that can be experienced without any effort.
Those e-sports players, stars and celebrities, first of all, we all know that they loved them at the beginning and later made achievements, but they first know and are proficient.
So, if you want to find true love, the premise is that you must "know" first; after you know it, then stick to it for a while, and you will understand whether it is suitable for you.
3. Bet attention on the event itself. There is a way to find your love on the hot list, that is, ask yourself two questions:
, do you need to get recognition from others when doing this?
Second, do you need others to allow this?
If your answers are "no need", then this thing is something you can love in your life.
"Recognition" and "permit" come from the outside world, which means that a thing that truly "loves" is not about external evaluations, not about utilitarianism, but only focuses on the fun brought by the things themselves.
Even if you want to try more in life, don’t try everything.
The so-called "love can last for the long time" find your true love, and can give your heart a place to be stable over the long years.
