The weak are all in groups, and only tigers and wolves walk alone.
A truly powerful person is always constantly surpassing his former self and eventually becoming the object of admiration for others. And cowardly people will only succumb to the arrangement of fate and dare not take a step forward.
Gradually, those who work hard see the future and hope. People who are left to fate are becoming more and more depraved, and in the end, they often boast about themselves in order to maintain their so-called face.
Little do you know that the lower you fall to the lower level, the more you like to show off, especially these 4 things.
1: Show off your intelligence
The ancients said, " intelligence is wronged by intelligence ". Since ancient times, there have been more people who are wise but not wise. During the Three Kingdoms, Yang Xiu accurately guessed the intention of Cao Cao many times, showing off his intelligence, which eventually made Cao Cao angry, which caused his own disaster.
Fang Zhongyong At the age of seven, his father led him to show off everywhere, but he was not enterprising and became "into everyone" when he grew up.
In fact, there is nothing to show off about being "smart". Research has proved that ordinary people have similar IQs, and few are particularly smart and stupid.
Many people are thinkers, but they are just "giants of thought, dwarfs of action". "A thousand roads are at night, and selling tofu in the morning" is because I think too much but dare not do it, so I will achieve nothing in the end.
Many rural despicable men and urban poor talk about national affairs and international situations, and they are eloquent and look very smart and smart. So why not use this intelligence to change their own difficulties?
" hard work to promote the country and empty talk will ruin the country". Instead of talking big and make others feel very smart, it is better to learn Yugong , identify a goal, be calm, concentrate, and persevere until you achieve the final success. At that time, others naturally have to admit that your intelligence is really smart.
2: Show off your achievements
There are many people in life who can’t calm down when encountering bad things. They may be afraid of being joked when encountering bad things, and can still be silent in the circle of friends. How to show good things is the time to truly see through this person’s pattern.
Generally speaking, when a person faces his own achievements, he often has two completely different ways of doing it. The first is to keep silent and just do his own things well, and not show off to everyone.
The other is that you want to tell the whole world about your achievements. Of course, the circle of friends is the first place to be published, and at least you must let those who know you know your achievements.
The former is a person who can calm down. They have full confidence in their hearts and will not affect their lives because of external praise or criticism. Such people often have a longer vision and are easier to achieve. As the saying goes, "doing big things in silence", is about this type of person.
And the latter is, they have to shout out loud for one point of credit. They try their best to show off, fearing that others don’t know that their existence also has certain value. The more anxious they are to prove themselves, the more inferior they feel in their hearts.
There is a study in psychology that specifically points to people's inferiority complex.
Research shows that people's inner inferiority complex either lets go and ignores it. Over time, it will accumulate into diseases, mental illness, or physiological illness.
either needs to offset the inner self-disidentity through external identification, which is also a way of self-healing. So don’t always show off your achievements, because by accident, you will expose your inner inferiority.
: Show off your identity
We all say:
"Everyone is born equal, even if the ranks are different, it is just a different division of labor."
But some people always have an illusion, that is, they are high-level, they are senior executives, they are bosses, and they have thousands of employees, so they are superior to others.
Therefore, they always think about showing off their identities and having a sense of superiority to everyone.
People like
are actually typical villains who succeed, and they will often only be despised by others in the end, and even bring disaster to themselves.
Once read such a news, in the company A manager threw all the employees' documents on the ground and asked the employees to pick them up one by one.
This incident made many people angry, and everyone's views on this manager were all despised. In the end, the manager was also fired by the company.
The identity of a person is just that the work you are responsible for is different, and it is not a tool that surpasses others.
I like this sentence very much:
"Being above people, you must treat others as people, and under people, you must treat yourself as people in order to go further. ”
The relationship between people is mutual, and identity cannot be exchanged for respect. Only respect can be exchanged for respect.
The more people of a truly high level are in a higher position, the more humble and low-key they will become, and the more they will know how to respect.
Only those with low level will rely on their so-called identity to put on a high-level little Human face.
4: Show off your connections
Since ancient times, people have believed in a saying, "Rely on parents at home, rely on friends when going out, and the road is easy to walk with more friends." , yes, if you want to survive, you cannot live without interpersonal communication, many people hold on to it. The more friends you have, the wider your roads are.
The cruel reality is that no matter how many people you know, when you need them, you will really lend a helping hand when you need them.
There is a mother in the group of children's parents who often talk about it in the group, telling us the big truth, saying that people go to high places and water flows to low places, if you want to have a good job, you will be indispensable for interpersonal communication.
Every time she shows off her personal connections, this is an executive of a certain company, and that is the deputy director of the Education Bureau. In short, the people she knows are all powerful, and many parents envy her for her extensive connections.
One day, she asked for help in the group. Who knows someone from a police station? My husband was detained when he fought with someone. Who can help me? It won’t be in vain. I will give money. A mother with me is a very good person. Her husband is that group. The deputy director of the station has never been silly.
secretly said to me: "The level is too low. Why are you gone at critical moments when you show off your connections?"
Everyone is not stupid. When your value is not enough to support your connections, no one will truly help you. What is the essence of connections? It is a close-knit resource exchange.
You don’t have a skill and no ability. What do you use to exchange chips with others? No one is willing to become your real connection.
conclusion.
My circle has undoubtedly become a central network of social networking. We can see too many things from it, all the updates you posted, All of you are inadvertently revealing your heart.
There is a saying: The more you lack something in your heart, the more you want to show off your to others. This sentence is not unreasonable. People who lack material conditions in their lives have something that can reflect the quality of life, so hurry up and take a photo and post it to record it on your Moments;
People who are not confident in your heart will post it to every selfie in your Moments. It must have been carefully edited and will block the parts you are not satisfied with;
People who are insecure always like to share articles or songs that suit their mood in their circle of friends; people who are not paid attention to in life always like to post some deep texts that others cannot understand to get everyone's attention.
So, don't let your circle of friends expose your pattern.
Instead of deliberately designing and packaging every dynamic of yourself, it is better to show your life openly and truly. Only real things will make people feel comfortable and comfortable, and the more acceptable it is.
