In the world of adults, there is no longer the simplicity and happiness of being young and frivolous, and there is only the sadness that cannot be said.
When we grew up, we lost the motivation and persistence of our youth and replaced it with thick disguise .
Even if you are not happy, you dare not tell your parents, be afraid that your parents will worry, and you dare not tell your friends. You don’t know which friend is sincere. If you are not a true friend, you will only laugh at yourself in your heart.
Therefore, the depression and sadness, sadness and grievance, dissatisfaction and resentment of adults can only be hidden in their hearts and digested by themselves.
Adults have these 5 major sadness. Let’s see which one you are experiencing. If none of them are, then you are very lucky.
1. Lack of money
0% of the troubles in life are because of lack of money. Because of lack of money, elderly parents still have to work because you can't afford them; because of lack of money, you dare not put marriage on the agenda with your partner; because of lack of money, newlyweds dare not have children.
So you often do work that requires overtime and stay up late, hoping to get two salary when working one day, but You will find that you can’t live your ideal life by relying on working alone .
And those bloggers who don’t have to go out early and come back late can work from home, but their salary is several times that of your work, so I advise you to come and write and make money.
I am a good example. I can take care of my children at home, and it will not delay money. I will not be a housewife with a palm upward position. This job brings me great satisfaction and makes me confident.
2. Lonely
In this information age, we can obtain a large amount of external information every day, but we are very lonely inside, because when we grow up, has experienced more misunderstandings and neglects, and people become more and more silent .
Because you are afraid that you will be misunderstood again if you say the wrong thing, and you are worried that no one will care about what you say, and you will feel lost.
So you start to get used to doing everything alone, going to work, getting off work, cooking, and eating alone. Occasionally, a friend sends messages to ask about your current situation, and you just simply reply to the two words "It's okay".
In fact, the world of adults is to get used to loneliness. Loneliness is not necessarily bad. When you are alone, you can have more time to think, or you can have more time to read and improve yourself .
It is precisely because of this loneliness that you slowly become stronger and become a better person.
3.
. I don’t know if you have noticed it. As we grow up non-stop, it is the process of separation from many people.
Old classmates who have not seen each other in many years, some of the old people who have passed away can say goodbye, but those old people who have passed away can never meet again.
It was also after my grandparents passed away that they really will grow old and die, and I will never see them again, so goodbye can only be in a dream.
Once I saw a particularly heart-wrenching sentence in Weibo : Friends who haven't contacted me for a long time, I don't know what reason to care about your life, and I don't know what excuses to let you listen to my story.
I miss the days I used to, even though I know that life always moves forward, maybe I haven't contacted you for a long time, don't think I'm indifferent, don't think I'm bored with the old, I'm just afraid that as soon as I open my mouth, I will become sad and polite.
Yes, my friend who used to be my best friend for the rest of his life has not seen him for many years.
So slowly you will find that growth is a process of gradually losing and getting used to losing.
4.快
In the past, we always posted on Moments to share our lives everywhere, and friends are the same. We can often understand the recent situation of our friends through Moments.
But I don’t know when it changed. We are used to posting groups to see it, or simply visible to ourselves. The circle of friends has also been set to be visible for three days.
Because many people changed their life into a silent mode . Some are actively working hard to make money, while others grit their teeth and persevere. Life is full of things. When we grow up, we will never be as innocent as we were when we were young. We have learned to know the cold and warmth.
No matter how much grievance is, we will not cry like children, but quietly stay away from the crowd, digest all the bad emotions alone, and then return to the crowd.
5. Love but not get
Do you still remember the person who once made a promise to be together for the rest of his life?
Sometimes I would also imagine if I had married and had children with that person, would life be different, and whether the food, rice, oil and salt would consume all our love and romance.
However, in the world of adults, they are often unable to love. They may be separated from that person under the pressure of reality, and may be separated because of the different directions of life of the two. In short, the one who stays by their side for the rest of their lives is most likely not the person they love the most.
is also because of love, so I often miss that person in my heart, but I dare not tell the people around me that this longing buried in the deepest part of my heart will be infinitely magnified at night, and live as if nothing happened during the day, and hide this love deeply in my heart forever.
But no matter how sad it is, life must continue to pass. There is no word easy for adults in the world. Everyone’s life direction and trajectory are different, so they cannot empathize.
No one can empathize with it, so you must learn to digest the sadness yourself and bear all the joys, so as to endure all the joys, sorrows, and sorrows.
either you survive life or life defeats you. Adults don’t necessarily need to empathize with it. Only when they are strong can they be fearless of all the storms.
or above, encourage them together.
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