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The first half of our life is a process of going up the mountain. In order to walk smoothly, we will make friends on the road and spend our time thinking about these interpersonal relationships. I always feel that they will provide us with great help one day in the future.
is also because of this. We have spent a lot of time and energy, and even missed the people we should have cherished and the scenery we should have admired with our hearts.
This is the price that must be paid from childishness to maturity. After all, the detours that should be taken are sometimes indispensable.
But in the second half of our life, we started to go down the mountain. Compared to constantly picking up a lot of things, we should learn to let go and give up. Otherwise, the more we move forward, the heavier the pace will be.
Those who will only consume you, those interpersonal relationships that will only make you feel tired, it is wise to give up actively.
Especially after retirement, taking the initiative to break off diplomatic relations with three types of people is the greatest responsibility for yourself and the most correct decision to make before your later years.
The first type: only people who can use you
Some people's snobbery is something you can't imagine. When you have value, they will try every means to approach you and please you. Once you achieve your goal, they will immediately leave you.
people don’t have any sincerity towards you, and they only think about their own interests.
There is no need to practice ourselves, let ourselves become a stepping stone to help others succeed. Staying away from such people in time is the best protection for ourselves.
Before retirement, Lao Liu was the leader of the unit. In order to please him, the subordinates gave him gifts openly and secretly, but he refused all of them, which offended many people because of this.
But he didn't feel regretful, but instead blocked all these people after retirement.
He knew in his heart that it was difficult for these people to accomplish great things and were not the same as him. Since that is the case, why bother to take care of so many things? The smartest thing is to keep your circle clean.
The second type: people who will only consume you and make you feel extremely tired
People themselves are an energy library. Even if the people with strong energy are limited, their ability to withstand endless consumption is impossible, so you should know how to keep a distance for those who make you feel tired.
Otherwise, the more you get entangled with them, the more you feel physically and mentally exhausted, and you will gradually become less interested in life.
Mr. Wang was the technical director of a large enterprise before. Because he was doing well, there were always people who kept asking him to do things, especially his former relatives.
And he is also kind-hearted and helps with everything he can, but they don’t know how to be content. Instead, they make increasingly excessive demands, some of which have exceeded his tolerance.
These people and these things made him feel very annoyed and exhausted. Finally, he had a showdown with them when he was enduring it. He would not help anyone with any problems in the future. But who knew that those people said behind their backs that he was an ungrateful wolf and forgot all his past good things.
Human nature is indeed very realistic, Mr. Wang can see through it.
But it’s okay, if you no longer interact with them, your life will be purer.
The third type: people who only envy you but also look down on you
In addition to the above two types of people, there is another type of person who is best to know how to keep a distance and not get too close, that is, people who only envy you but look down on you from the bottom of their hearts.
They are not as good as you, they are not as much money as you earn, they are not as filial as your children, and of course they are not as good as you, but they are very disdainful of you in their hearts, and they always jealous of you and want to be you, while slandering you behind your back.
They think that the reason why you have achieved your current results is not based on your own efforts, but on some shameful and dirty means. But they just don't want to admit that they are incompetent.
So you can only frame you in this way to balance yourself. People like
have very small and sad. We don’t need to be as knowledgeable as him, because he can’t stand others’ life well, nor will he admit that others’ excellence. He will only follow you behind you and look up to you throughout his life.
wasting time on him is really not worth it.
is retired. If you see some people clearly, don’t continue to interact. If you see through certain things, don’t be upset. Learn to break off diplomatic relations, learn to give up, and learn to let go, and the rest of your life will be smoother and easier. Why not do it?
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