has read a few very philosophical words.
When you are in a high place, don’t underestimate people in the low place. When you reach a certain age and want to go downhill, you will meet them. When you are in a low place, don’t hate people in the high place. When you rise, they are your partners. When you are not on the same channel as you, don’t offend people. It’s difficult to help you, but it’s easy to push you down.
can be seen from this. There is no special situation, so no one should offend him.
We cannot predict what will happen tomorrow, but we can leave one more way for ourselves to form a life pattern of "the east is not bright, the west is bright".
No matter what field you are in, connections are indispensable. Many people are worried about this.
Today, I will explain with you the common saying "multiple friends and multiple roads" and how to implement it. The method is very simple, just give others face.
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"Support" the person who is high above, and everyone lifts people up.
Many people are used to hate the rich and the officials, thinking that they are walking upwards by themselves, which is very hateful.
High people are not what we think of as "low quality, high money, good luck, and background". Most of them work hard on their own and start a little lower than yours.
People with vision will push experts with ideals and good character to continue moving forward. In this way, I will have a "big tree".
No matter how powerful a person is, he will have shortcomings and someone needs to give him a push.
Zhang Zhidong in the Qing Dynasty. At the age of 26, he joined the Hanlin Academy as an official, but he was not very famous and was not promoted quickly.
After Opium War , Qing faced many difficulties. Zhang Zhidong proposed a lot of defense and foreign policies, and was appreciated by Cixi .
Zhang Zhidong understands that after being appreciated, you still have to take some connections to go further. He found the boss of Rishengchang Piaohao and asked to borrow 100,000 taels of silver, but was rejected.
was at a loss, and the boss of celebrating votes generously donated to him.
Later, Zhang Zhidong served as the Governor of Guangdong and Guangxi, and worked together to develop rapidly in the Guangdong and Guangxi areas.
Everyone expects someone to pull it off, but if you don’t support others, why do you get a “pull”? If you try your best to destroy people from high places and treat you as an enemy, how can you turn your back?
In the workplace, many bosses have a capable assistant around them. The boss took a step forward, and the assistant followed.
In the business world, there is a consultant around the rich. The rich make money, and the staff members enjoy the happiness.
Many experts were the staff assistant from the beginning. Once you see this clearly, you will understand why you give face to experts. Never say people who are "not polite".
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"Looking high" people below you, people help others.
The ancient landlord had a wife and a concubine around him. The concubine is at home and has no status and has to be bound by her wife, which depends on the expression of the person.
Some slaves are even more difficult to endure. They have very little income and a lot of work.
In the new era, landlords are gone, but there are many people in the "service industry". They regard customers as God and try hard to lower their identities.
In the workplace, we will also distinguish interpersonal relationships according to the size of our position. Subordinates must accept the arrangements of their superiors and be responsible to their superiors.
Some people think that they have finally reached a high level and ignore low-level people. They simply don't know that "levels are dynamic". Today's subordinates may be tomorrow's big boss; waiters can also become celebrities.
When a low-level person can counter you, it may be too late to curry favor with him. The correct way is to be overestimated by the other party from the beginning, and even take the initiative to go out and pull it.
Lu Yun was born to love laughing and was considered to be "a smirking habit".
Once, Lu Yun accompanied his brother Lu Ji to visit the minister Zhang Hua .
Lu Yun took the initiative to stand outside the door, afraid that he would not be able to help laughing and causing a misunderstanding.Zhang Hua said, "It's nothing, I like people who love to laugh."
As soon as the two met, Lu Yun laughed irritably. Because Zhang Hua's beard was wrapped with ribbons.
Zhang Hua also laughed, leaving behind the allusion of "Who is afraid of the dragon and laughs so fast, the beauty of the moustache ends up like Jin Sikong" .
What’s more valuable is that Lu Yun is also a person who is willing to help others. For example, weeks after being regarded as a bully, he changed his past and became a general under his recommendation.
People are in high places, and the most taboo is to "be arrogant". You have reached the peak and your eyes keep looking at the sky, and you can't see the road clearly and it's easy to turn it down. Only by looking down can you walk steadily.
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"Treat" people of similar levels, people are there.
has a word called "humility".
When you meet people of the same level, don’t always take the first place, but give others the chance to stand out. Maybe doing this will cause you to lose, but you must know more about "gains and losses".
A group of people walked onto the narrow path and said, "You ask first." This is the politeness you deserve, and it is also a courtesy to the other party.
In the stairwell, when you meet classmates or colleagues, you can stop and give them more space; in the community, give way to your neighbors and don’t quarrel with them.
Any group has a cooperative relationship and will also reflect the jungle rule . Everyone at the same level wants to go to a higher level, and you are no exception, but you should not be too artificial, and you should not deliberately oppress others.
When you sit down, you are in the last seat and let others take the seat. For example, during the Three Kingdoms period, Zhang Fei and Zhang Fei invited Liu Bei and Guan Yu to have dinner for the first time, and he took the initiative to give way; after he competed with Guan Yu, he said, "I won't know each other if I don't fight," and did not hold any revenge at all.
Take a step back, the sea will be broad and the sky will be wide; retreat turns out to be forward. The two words left by our ancestors have enlightened us.
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Master Nebula said: "With a normal mind, you will not be too greedy when you have gains; if you lose something, you will not be too troubled; if you have glory, you will be regarded as everyone's achievements; if you are slandered, you will feel that you have learned. If you can deal with the world with a normal mind, where isn't there any spring breeze in life?"
The principle of giving face to others seems unfathomable and difficult to do, but it is actually very simple. As long as you treat yourself and others as ordinary people, you can do it.
High places are not high places, low places are not low places, opponents are not opponents, grades are not scores, failure is not failure... Everything is an experience of life.
gives the whole world a good-looking face, a clear heart, and everything goes well.
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