Richard Munger said that people with hammers look like nails.
In life, unpleasant things happen often. Our brains are like a hammer, treating every trouble as a nail. Once the hammer is smashed, the nail will be surrendered. We have no other way except to make the final decision.
However, not all problems are nails to surrender. Once they exceed our brain's cognitive range, these "nails" that look like nails will become sharp blades, cutting our hearts little by little, and turning the originally beautiful life into painful and depressing.
do you often feel this way?
A negative comment from someone else, a contemptuous look, and an irrespectful action will make you feel stuffy in your chest and unable to calm down for a long time?
When you encounter something depressed, you will keep complaining about the injustice of life and meeting bad people?
is often caught in the idea that "troubled people" want to harm "I", suspicious?
If you have no resistance to these negative comments, you will involuntarily remember whatever others say, and even always indulge in the "difference to being murdered", you will find it difficult to find a better self, not see the shining points in yourself, and your life will be in trouble.
Japanese psychologist, Tezo Kato recently wrote a new book called "Emotional Insensitivity". The author said that you always care about other people's expressions and thoughts, and often fall into anxiety and worrying about gains and losses, thinking about everything and being too sensitive is an important reason.
Emotionally sensitive people live a very twisted life. Just like Lin Daiyu , if you are too sensitive, if you are restless a little wind, you can stage a sad scene in your heart. Such people are easily depressed and unsuccessful for life. The only way to solve the problem is to ask the emotional allergy to disappear and cultivate emotional insensitivity. Insensitivity is a powerful force that will make you overcome all obstacles and return in triumphs in amidst all kinds of grievances, discomforts, and unwillingness in life...
The author deeply analyzed the psychological characteristics and reasons of sensitive people. For us who are deeply trapped in negative emotions, he proposed the magic weapon to get rid of emotional sensitivity in 4. When you see the warm tips of "Emotional Desensitization Capsules", your depression will immediately disappear.
For example:
In any relationship, you are "cherishing" to me, and I will give you "worth it". Whether it is friendship or love, it is meaningful to go to two directions.
If you hate the other person, just stay away from him, there is no need to get entangled.
Get rid of dependence and find your own happiness.
Your reaction to pain may be far more than the pain itself, and it will make your inner uneasy amplify your pain.
Be the little sun of the people around you, and spread positive energy outward.
Live real and live yourself, and don’t have to over- empathize with .
This book is a self-help guide to teach you how to control emotions, heal your mood, and reshape yourself.
If you often fall into negative emotions and live in pain, you might as well read this book. A happy life requires insensitivity, no entanglement, no force, and no twisting.
While savoring the setbacks and pains, we move forward firmly in our own direction.
