If a person wants to turn over from the bottom, he must have these 3 cognitions. When you can truly understand and persist in practicing, it is the beginning of your counterattack in your life.
The first is to learn to give up.
When many of us mention success today, we will say that the reason why a person succeeds is because he had enough persistence at the beginning. It was because he once had the perseverance that ordinary people did not have, so that he did this. Therefore, only persistence is more conducive to success.
This seems to be true, but truly powerful people understand that in addition to persistence, there is also a very important wisdom called giving up.
Many people say that you should focus on doing things, but few people know that the premise of concentration is to know how to give up, give up useless social interaction, give up time-consuming activities, give up the idea of please others, give up the idea of integrating into an unsociable group. When you put aside many unnecessary things, you can essentially focus enough on the most important things.
Where do many people’s pain and worries come from? It’s because they don’t know how to give up. They want this and that. They always want both fish and bear’s paw, but the reality is bound to be impossible, so they start to suffer and worry and feel powerless.
We must understand that each of us has great limitations. We cannot get everything. There must be gains and losses. Only when there are losses can we gain. So what we need to do is learn to delete and give up some less important things and things that are not very beneficial, so that we can truly focus all our energy on the real right things.
Life has never been without worries, never smooth sailing, it’s just that some people have wasted their lives on trivial matters and live a very twisted life, while some people always stare at higher and farther peaks, so they will not be affected by the mud under their feet.
The second one is not controlled by emotions.
Really powerful people are people who can break out of their emotional influence. Napoleon said it well: People who can control their emotions are greater than generals who can win the ideal city.
Ordinary people always lose their rationality when facing some things and fall into emotions, either panic, anxiety, or pain, and then immediately do some behaviors that they regret very much afterwards.
Really powerful people are often calm. They have a kind of calmness in themselves and are more stable in their face of everything. They can first try to see the problem clearly, and then make the best efforts in this situation to make things better and minimize the losses.
So we often say that we can see if a person has enough ability, whether he is strong or not, just use one thing to stimulate him. If he gets angry and gets angry easily, then we can actually understand that this person is an incompetent person. Because he had no other way to deal with it except getting angry, he could only hide his incompetence by losing his temper and disguise himself as a paper tiger.
includes Buffett . One of his secrets to successful investment is to never bring his emotions to work. He said that as an investor, emotional out-of-control behavior is very irrational and the consequences will be extremely serious. Only by maintaining rational and stable emotions in trading can you get the results you want.
So many people always ask what the difference is between the strong and the weak. A very big difference is whether it can be coordinated with your emotions.
Weak people are always deeply influenced when facing emotions, and they are easily trapped in emotions, unable to see the direction, the situation clearly, and make wrong decisions. However, the strong are often not so eager for quick success and instant benefits when facing something. Instead, they can face it calmly and make the wisest choices. When they receive glory, they will not be complacent, but will not show their own feelings.
When you can look at many things outside of emotions and treat emotions as an object, you will essentially truly have the sovereignty of your life.
The third one is not to be obsessed with perfection.
Why it is difficult for many people to accomplish something is because they are too persistent in perfection. Before doing something, they may have set a lot of goals and made a lot of plans. I always want to prepare everything to be perfect and then start doing it, but a lot of time passes by.
A true masters understand that the only thing that remains unchanged in life is that it is constantly changing. A person cannot be prepared to be absolutely perfect. So when an idea flashes in his mind and wants to do something by himself, he must start doing it first.
Thinking is the question, doing is the answer. If you blindly think about it, what you are building is just a castle in the sky.
Those who have achieved success will never be ready to set out. They will learn and do things while doing things, constantly summarize and reflect, learn and do things while doing, and finally achieve results.
And there is an essential logic here, which is why many people must prepare things perfectly before they are willing to start. In fact, looking at it from a deeper perspective, they are unwilling to accept failure and do not allow themselves to make mistakes.
is in their cognition. They may think that once I fail and fail, it means that I am a particularly incompetent person, but this is not the case at all. No matter who they do something, they have the possibility of making mistakes, just like when you walk, no matter how skilled you are, you have the possibility of falling.
Our failures and mistakes at this time actually do not have such a big impact, and it is not enough to define our entire life. And the reason we take it too seriously is because our eyes are too narrow-minded. If we look at our entire life, what happened at this time is just a small slice of this long period of life, and it is not worth mentioning at all.
So after seeing this truth clearly, you can have greater courage to start doing something. Only when you dare to start, you can reach the other side of success.
I hope you can understand it early.
