Su Shi said: "Looking at the side, there are ridges and peaks, and the heights are different from near to far."
Between people, the scenery is naturally different at different locations, and what they see and think about is naturally different.
People in different positions cannot understand each other, and people at different levels cannot explain each other.
Therefore, the positions are different and there is no need to explain; the levels are different and there is no need to force the integration.
Youdao means "to argue without arguing". The highest state of life is not to argue!
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is in a different situation, which may not explain
Zhuangzi once said: "A child is not a fish, and you know that a fish is not a joy."
You are not me, how do you know the sadness and joy in my heart? In the vast world, among all living beings, everyone's joys and sorrows are incompatible, and more Know your warmth and coldness.
In ancient times, a sudden heavy snowfall in Chang'an City added a different kind of charm to the beautiful city. Seeing this beautiful scenery, a poet became inspired by poetry and blurted out: "Snowflakes are as big as mats, and they blow down Xuanyuan Terrace. ."
A promoted official happened to pass by and said with emotion: "It's the royal auspiciousness."
The merchant selling cotton-padded clothes next to him saw this and said happily: "It's snowing so hard that it won't matter if it snows for another three years?"
At this time, a beggar trembled and cursed: "Fuck your mother's bullshit!"
You A beggar's honey is his arsenic. What is beautiful in the eyes of others is a disaster in the eyes of a beggar.
Everyone is in a different position, and it is difficult to understand the other person's thoughts. In different situations, it is even harder to understand the other person's feelings.
Don't easily judge who is right or wrong. If you look at a problem from your own perspective, you will never be able to see it clearly. Only by knowing how to think from others' perspective can you solve the problem better.
Youdao is "Those who love go out love to return, and those who go out are blessed to come back." Although we cannot empathize with others, we can be tolerant and understanding.
Life is always an echo. Only by giving love can you receive love. Only by giving touch can you receive warmth.
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has different levels and may not be explainable.
It is said in the "Tao Te Ching": "When the superiors hear the Tao, they persuade them to do it; when the sergeants hear the Tao, they live or die; when the corporal hears the Tao, they laugh."
The biggest difference between people is , not identity and status, but differences in cognitive levels.
There is such a story:
A scholar who went to Beijing to take the exam had a quarrel with an old farmer. The two could not argue until they went to court.
After the county magistrate heard about the reason for the quarrel, he severely beat the scholar twenty times.
The scholar was very wronged and said aggrievedly: "Obviously three-seven is twenty-one. He had to say three-seven-fifteen. How could I be wrong?"
The county magistrate muttered: "You are right, you are wrong. He is a talented person who spends his time and energy arguing with an illiterate old farmer."
As the saying goes: "It is better to argue with people who like you than to argue with fools."
There are differences between people. Some people's cognitive level cannot be changed. If you just argue blindly, you will be like a chicken. Talk to the duck.
Instead of wasting time arguing, it is better to work hard to improve yourself. When you experience more, you will find that the best way to argue is not to argue.
As the saying goes: good people don’t argue, and bad debaters don’t argue. Really smart people never argue with others.
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Be yourself, no need to change others
A philosopher once said: "Not all fish live in the same ocean.”
Everyone comes from different places, has different circles and different habits. If the circles are different, don’t force them to blend in. If your habits are different, don’t force them to change.
Once upon a time, a man bought A very beautiful blue and white porcelain , I couldn't put it down and looked at it every day. One day, a friend came to his house as a guest. This old antique has no taste at all. "
After his friend left, the more he looked at the vase, the more dissatisfied he became. He felt that everything was not good, so he threw the blue and white porcelain into pieces in a rage.
At this time, a collector friend came to visit him and saw fragments of blue and white porcelain all over the floor. Sighing repeatedly: "This is a treasure, what a pity! ”
Everyone has different understandings and opinions about the same thing. The only thing we can do is to be ourselves and take care of our own hearts.
Don’t cater to others in order to gain their understanding and recognition. People have wronged themselves.
Others' opinions cannot be changed, and other people's thoughts are even more difficult to control. Rather than thinking about pleasing others, it is better to please yourself, and instead of thinking about changing others, it is better to change yourself.
Be yourself. There is no need to explain anything. People who understand you will understand. No matter how hard you explain it, it will be in vain.
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You only have one life. Don't live in other people's mouths, let alone in other people's eyes. Do your own thing well, walk your own path, and live your own wonderful life. This is the best way to live your life!
