The ancients said: "Cultivate oneself and make it clear to the heart. When you are involved in the world, be cautious in your words first."
In interpersonal communication, many troubles and right and wrong are caused by improper speech.
In life, you must control your mouth and don’t say the following 5 words casually.
#1
Don’t say that you belittle others, but you say that you are raising yourself
In real life, some people are accustomed to elevating themselves by belittle others, and do not consider the other person’s feelings at all.
People like this have a sense of superiority when speaking and always try to show off themselves.
But the actual situation is, The more a person raises himself and shows off himself, the more difficult it is to get respect and recognition from others , and his image is more likely to be damaged.
So, those who are truly highly emotionally wise will never speak like this. They are often humble and low-key, and are used to raising others rather than themselves.
people like to be praised. If you are not good at proclaiming people, but you must at least not step on people. This is the most basic requirement.
#2
Don’t say sarcastic words
People should respect each other so that the relationship can be harmonious for a long time.
If you always hide ridicule and contempt inside and out, and constantly attack the other party, it is actually very sad.
You can't speak without saying anything just because you have known each other for a long time and have deep friendship. even if you criticize the other person in a joke tone, find a sense of existence and happiness in the other person, it is not advisable.
You must have empathy in life. After all, no one likes to listen to sarcastic words.
Speak less is education, be able to speak, and be cultivating.
#3
Don’t say the smug words
" Caigen Tan " says: "An eagle stands like sleeping, and a tiger walks like a disease. It is his means to seize and devour people. Therefore, a gentleman must be smart and not show off, and only then can he have the power to shoulder the great responsibilities."
Talent never needs to be too much demonstrated through his mouth, and his tongue is as singular as a sequel, but superficial skill.
Those arrogant and arrogant people will never be able to support their ambitions. So you can only talk big with others to hide your ignorance and incompetence.
History The Battle of Maling is precisely because of Pang Juan 's arrogance that he fell into Sun Bin 's strategy of "increasing troops and reducing stoves", which led to a complete failure of his army and he ended up committing suicide.
Born as a human being, you must have self-knowledge, not be complacent, and not belittle yourself.
See yourself clearly, be humble and deal with the world in a low-key manner. This is the most decent attitude to deal with people.
Zeng Guofan said: "Humility and tolerance are precious appearances."
Humility is precipitation, wisdom, and the most advanced cultivation of a person.
#4
Don’t complain
Complaint can be said to be the most useless thing in the world and does not help solve the problem.
keep complaining that it cannot bring good mood, but instead makes people fall into a vortex of negative energy.
No one wants to keep listening to complaints and absorb negative energy every day.
Instead of spending time complaining, it is better to think about the reasons for failure, the way to solve the problem, and think about how to do better next time, which is the most meaningful.
#5
Don’t say how to speak out verbally
Some people talk and chat with people, like to speak out verbally, and always want to gain the upper hand in words, defeat others, and don’t give in the slightest.
But sometimes, right or wrong and winning or losing are not the most important. On the contrary, the more you compete for winning or losing, the more you lose in the end.
We can look at the families around us who often quarrel and are messy. There is always one party who only wants to distinguish right from wrong and the superiority.
Many relationship breakdowns often start like this.
So, what is really smart for those with with high emotional intelligence is that they know how to judge the situation, are more rational, and will not be led by emotions, know what situations should be fought for right or wrong, and when not to care about it.
Source | Uncle Ha’s workplace micro-classroom, Jingbo Chinese Studies, White Orchid Michelia, Chinese Studies Journal, People’s Forum Network
pictures from the Internet
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