Spring, summer, autumn and winter, all year round, year after year, day after day, for me, being able to see the sun rising from the east every morning is the source of happiness. I always have a beautiful and curious mood, and I will make new discoveries every day. On the way to

Spring, summer, autumn and winter, all year round, year after year, day after day, for me, being able to see the sun rising from the east every morning is the source of happiness. I always have a beautiful and curious mood, and I will make new discoveries every day. On the way to and from work, I will still encounter such and such encounters. Every time I am on the river, I am delighted by everything in front of me.

When I saw a young mother bending her waist and carrying BB up the stairs step by step; when I saw BB facing the rising sun, pointing her little finger to a small insect on a plant leaf in the river, and asking the grandmother behind her what it was; when I saw the next On a weekend morning when it rained heavily, my mother sent her daughter out for tutoring. She met the 80-year-old aunt on the road several times and chatted with her for a walk all the way home. I learned that she goes out for a walk every morning and evening, and insists on studying for 4 hours a day after returning home. At that time, I saw that 80-year-old man wearing a peaked cap many times, sitting in an automatic wheelchair and walking along the river just to breathe fresh air and clear his mind and eyesight. Every time he passed by, it was fate in life.

Even though there are countless beautiful encounters, whether it is windy or rainy, or cold winter or hot, whether it is flowers, plants, trees, or the elderly and children, time and time again I stop or turn around or look back because of them, and I am attracted by them again and again. Touching, they allow me to appreciate the change of seasons and the resurrection of all things. They give me the great power of peace of mind, allowing me to see the lovely bloom of life, the hard work of life to expand, and the infinite possibilities of life.

A few days ago, I was chatting with a mother who is about the same age as me. Her son is about two years younger than my precious daughter. He is in adolescence and encounters some problems and wants to play games. In fact, this is almost what adolescent children are doing now. There are situations.

Me: My dear, long time no see. How are you doing? Her: It’s not good. My child said he didn’t do well in the high school entrance examination. Although the results haven’t come out yet, I’m very worried. Me: Dear, why are you worried? She: I’m afraid that he won’t go to high school. When filling in your application, refer to the scores of the first and second models given by the school, and choose a better high school. But he said he didn't do well in the actual high school entrance examination, and I was worried. Me: If you don’t get into the high school you want, there are other high schools. Even if there are no other general high schools, there are other schools to look for, as long as the child wants to go to school.

Me: The worst-case scenario, if you don’t go to high school, have you discussed it with your child? A child's failure in a test means nothing. Don't be discouraged. Even if you don't go to high school, there are still many possibilities and choices. It's not a big deal. Me: Dear, instead of worrying about anxiety (which does not solve any problem) and making yourself and your family unhappy, why not relax a little and just do what you have to do? We haven’t experienced any setbacks yet, and whose life is it? It's been smooth sailing, right? Her: [tears] Thank you, dear. Me: Dear, I understand your feelings very well. I used to hope that my child would be excellent from the beginning, but when I think about it, when I was her age, I was not as good as her in many aspects, so why should I be so anxious? Well, the three views are correct, teach her slowly, and I believe she will get better and better. We all need time to grow and progress, don't we? Me: We tell our children all day long not to compare with others, but to do their best to be themselves, but when it comes to our children getting into school, doesn’t it just show that we adults have a heart for comparison? This will not let children Do you feel contradictory?

She: Thank you. Me: Relaxing and getting along with your children is more conducive to sincere communication. Otherwise, you are worried that your children will blame themselves. He will also be sad or regret not working hard if he did not do well in the exam. Know how to not work hard. If you study hard, you will get good grades. If a child says this, it means he is starting to grow up. Parents just take this opportunity to find a good atmosphere, go out to eat and drink together, and talk about the future. In the future, they need to study hard and deal with their own study and life. . Her: [hug] My child has many problems: he is lazy, irresponsible, and does not keep his words. Me: It’s normal and I’m not afraid of it. There are many bad things, so just come up little by little. Aren’t many problems accumulated little by little? Now let’s help him remove them little by little. Don’t be anxious. You have plenty of time. You are the ones that many people have. Many adults have this problem, let alone children. The children are only in their teens. We must not give up. If we give up, the children themselves will have even less confidence.

Her: Oh, thank you.Me: Dear, you are too polite. There is a lot of room for children in the future, and there are many possibilities. Don’t put labels on them. How parents treat their children determines what kind of children they will become.

She: Thank you, thank you very much [hug] [heart] [flowers]

The high school entrance examination and college entrance examination in June have passed. Dear you, do you have such a problem?