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Preface
In 2019, after a father transplanted his own daughter's bone marrow, he said to his ex-wife: "I have fulfilled my responsibility to be a father" , and then he cut off all contact and left quietly.
The ex-wife felt despair when she looked at the news. Her daughter's treatment was not over yet. She fell into despair for a moment in the face of the subsequent high medical expenses.
What is going on? Why does the biological father "abandon his wife and daughter"? What should this mother and daughter do?
1. My daughter is sick
In May 2018, Yang Yang was cleaning with his daughter Xiaoling at home. Just when Yang Yang was working hard for this, Xiaoling suddenly had discomfort symptoms in his body.
At first, Yang Yang thought that his daughter Xiaoling used this as an excuse to be lazy, so he asked his daughter to rest without thinking too much. He even joked with his daughter, "I know how to be lazy at a young age."
It was not until Xiaoling collapsed on the sofa, his face pale and his breathing was rapid that Yang Yang realized that his daughter's discomfort was not pretending. At this time, Xiaoling was blurred and the corners of his mouth were slightly bleeding.
As a school teacher, Yang Yang also has a certain sense of crisis handling. After realizing that his daughter’s situation was extraordinary, he immediately called the emergency number to request assistance.
local children's hospital doctors believed that Xiao Ling might suffer from an extremely rare disease, but they cannot be diagnosed in this small place and must be transferred to a large hospital.
Hearing the doctor's remarks, Yang Yang was very nervous and hurriedly transferred his daughter to a children's hospital in Beijing, hoping to get a more professional diagnosis and treatment.
After a series of detailed examinations by professional doctors, Xiao Ling was finally diagnosed with aplastic anemia , and on this basis, he was also accompanied by positive symptoms of the bloodthirsty gene LYST.
Yang Yang fell into confusion as he looked at the diagnosis. She didn't know what disease it was, nor did she know what the cause of it, but looking at the doctor's solemn face, she instinctively felt that this disease was never simple.
Doctor patiently explained to Yang Yang: " aplastic anemia , referred to as aplastic , is a bone marrow hematopoietic failure syndrome caused by various reasons, and bleeding is the most common disease.
Simplely put, it means that your daughter has serious defects in bone marrow hematopoiesis, which leads to anemia and bleeding. For treatment, bone marrow transplantation is required."
Doctor 0 A long paragraph of professional terms in the previous section made Yang Yang confused, but the term "bone marrow transplant" mentioned later made Yang Yang understand that his daughter's condition is probably very difficult!
Immediately afterwards, the doctor added : "Your daughter's current situation is still stable, but if you want to completely cure it, you must undergo a bone marrow transplant as soon as possible, and the cost is about 500,000 yuan."
daughter's condition is a big bad news. Now, coupled with this high treatment cost, for Yang Yang, who earns only a few thousand yuan a month, it is undoubtedly a star picking on the sky with bare hands.
She knelt in front of the doctor with tears in her eyes and asked sadly: "Doctor, is there no other way? How can I get the 500,000 fee?"
The doctor sighed and comforted Yang Yang and said: "As far as domestic technology is concerned, there is only one way to transplant this disease, and the bone marrow must be adapted."
Listening to the doctor's explanation, Yang Yang knew that there was no other way, so he underwent a bone marrow matching examination at the doctor's suggestion. As Xiao Ling's mother, her chance of adapting bone marrow is still very high.
But " leaks and rains all night long ", all indicators between Yang Yang and his daughter Xiaoling are not in line with each other. In other words, Yang Yang needs to find a new bone marrow transplant provider for his daughter.
Yang Yang walked out of the clinic with stiff body, his eyes were unconscious and he had no focus, and he didn't know what he was thinking. Then she slowly collapsed on the ground against the wall, crying loudly in the corridor.
No matter how expensive the surgical treatment is required, she doesn't know how to find the bone marrow that is suitable for her daughter just in the doctor's mouth.
00000 helpless, Yang Yang had to contact his ex-husband who had been away from for two years. After all, Xiao Ling is also his daughter, and Yang Yang also hopes to get his help.
So, what did Yang Yang’s ex-husband react when he heard that his daughter was sick?
2. Ex-husband shoulders are responsible
In fact, when contacting the ex-husband by phone, Yang Yang himself was a little confused because since he divorced his ex-husband two years ago, the two parties have almost no communication except for the issue of raising a child.
Therefore, Yang Yang was not sure what his ex-husband was about to his daughter's illness. Since the court ordered his daughter to raise him, his ex-husband had not seen his daughter for a long time.
When the phone was connected, the voice of his ex-husband appeared on the other end of the phone. Yang Yang felt a little relieved and told him about his daughter's condition, hoping to get his help.
Yang Yang was also prepared to be rejected in his heart. After all, his ex-husband now has a new family and is not restrained on the legal level. There is really no need to wading into this muddy water.
However, what surprised Yang Yang was that his ex-husband seemed very anxious after learning on the phone that his daughter was ill, and expressed his willingness to bear part of the treatment costs and was willing to undergo a bone marrow transplant. The situation of
made Yang Yang overjoyed. If he had the help of his ex-husband, there was hope that it would be possible for his daughter to be treated or subsequent bone marrow transplants.
Then, at the doctor's advice, Yang Yang transferred his daughter to a local hospital in Hebei for the most conservative drug treatment, and his ex-husband rushed to the hospital not long after.
The ex-husband looked at Xiao Ling with a haggard face and felt very distressed. He comforted his daughter and said, "Good daughter, Dad is here. I believe Dad, you will get better soon!"
Looking at the father who hasn't seen for a long time, Xiao Ling's mood also became very happy. The fatigue of running around in recent days has been wiped out, and his personality has gradually become cheerful.
In fact, a few years ago, this family was still very happy. The father was kind and harmonious, and his daughter Xiaoling was versatile. She was also the best among her peers. She was a happy family of three.
But as time goes by, the relationship between husband and wife becomes dull, and they start to quarrel frequently over trivial matters in life, and in the end the couple embarks on the road of divorce.
, under the influence of the family environment, Xiao Ling's personality has undergone tremendous changes. Xiao Ling, who was originally lively and cheerful, will never return, and replaced by a closed-minded person.
Yang Yang was also worried when he saw his daughter's change. He had taken certain measures, such as spending more time with his daughter, but he always treated the symptoms but not the root cause, with little effect.
Now, I feel so happy to see my daughter changing because of the family’s brief reunion. Even the doctor feels that Xiao Ling has become more cooperative with the treatment and has improved a lot of mental state.
Then Yang Yang and his ex-husband paid for the surgery for bone marrow transplant. Fortunately, the relatives and friends of both parties have greatly helped, and the 500,000 yuan required for the operation was finally collected.
Since the problem of surgical fee has been solved, the next step is the bone marrow transplantation. The doctor also compared the various indicators of ex-husband and Xiaoling, and the results showed that the two were successfully matched!
However, bone marrow transplantation will have a certain adverse impact on the physical functions of both parties, so Yang Yang is worried that his ex-husband will regret it.
And the ex-husband seemed to see Yang Yang's concerns and promised Yang Yang in front of Xiao Ling: "I will donate my bone marrow for my daughter. No matter what the consequences will be! I will not regret it!"
ex-husband's firm attitude warmed Yang Yang's heart, and the worries in his heart were completely relieved.
On October 19, 2018, with the hard work of doctors and many nursing staff, Xiaoling's bone marrow transplantation process was extremely smooth, and the operation was a perfect end.
Yang Yang, who was anxiously waiting outside the operating room, heard the news, and finally fell to the ground for so long, and he showed a rare expression of joy.
But just when everyone thought everything was thriving, an accident suddenly arose...
3. "Give up your wife and daughter"
Although the bone marrow transplant surgery has been successfully completed, this is just the most basic step in the entire treatment process. Xiao Ling also needs to undergo postoperative repair observation and chemotherapy.
This process is particularly critical. Not only does it require observation of whether Xiaoling will have a rejection reaction, but it also requires a series of chemotherapy. If there is a rejection reaction, the previous efforts will be in vain.
However, everyone knows the side effects of "chemotherapy". Although this treatment method will inhibit the spread of diseases in the human body, it will also have a negative impact on other healthy cells in the human body.
Dizziness, hair loss, , vomiting and other adverse reactions are all sequelae of chemotherapy. This is undoubtedly a huge pain and hardship again and again for Xiao Ling, who was only eleven years old at the time.
However, Xiao Ling did not give up because of these difficulties. She looked at her parents "reconciled" and felt so happy. So even if she suffers a lot, she will still enjoy it.
But chemotherapy is a long-term process. Although the "friendly relationship" of parents makes Xiaoling motivated by treatment, long-term chemotherapy makes her body very weak and even her legs are swollen.
So Xiaoling had to use her free time to draw. She knew that her parents had just met for a short time because of her illness, so she wanted to leave as much happiness as possible in the painting.
But the good times didn't last long. Just when Yang Yang thought the situation would continue so steadily, his ex-husband actually left without saying goodbye.
What's going on?
One day in February 2019, Yang Yang took advantage of the fact that his ex-husband was responsible for taking care of Xiao Ling's daily life in the hospital, so he took the time to return home to visit his elderly mother.
But who knew that just when Yang Yang was visiting his mother, his phone suddenly received news from his ex-husband. Yang Yang thought that Xiao Ling had something special in the hospital, so he hurriedly opened it to check.
"I don't know if I don't look at it, I was shocked when I saw it." This was actually a farewell letter from my ex-husband. He wrote in the text message: "For these days, I have done my best whether it is the cost of medicine or bone marrow.
As a father, this is everything I can do for my daughter. I think I have fulfilled my father's responsibilities. But I still need to support my new family and forgive me for saying goodbye."
Yang Yang felt as if he was struck by lightning after reading the message, and stood there at a loss. Then she hurriedly contacted her ex-husband through her mobile phone, but found that all the contact information had been blocked by her ex-husband.
Yang Yang contacted his friends again, but found that his ex-husband seemed to be intentionally evading. No matter how hard Yang Yang tried, he was unable to contact his ex-husband.
The sudden departure of his ex-husband also almost caused Yang Yang to collapse. Although Xiaoling had successfully undergone the operation, his condition has not yet stabilized. How could he be so cruel to leave his sick daughter?
, and Xiaoling's subsequent treatment still requires high medical expenses. The ex-husband left at this time, which undoubtedly adds to the insult to the injury for Yang Yang, who is now in debt, and the future is confused.
As time goes by, Xiao Ling also realized his father's departure, and his mood inevitably became depressed. He also became resistant to treatment, and his physical condition plummeted.
After a long time, not only did his personality become withdrawn again, but his body also had a series of complications. As a mother, Yang Yang saw it in his eyes and was anxious in his heart.
But she was already in debt at this time and was unable to support the subsequent high medical expenses. What should the mother and daughter do?
ending
As the saying goes, everyone is getting high in firewood. Seeing that Xiao Ling's health is getting worse day by day, his attitude towards treatment is still so negative, Yang Yang finally chose to ask the media for help because of helplessness.
After learning about the situation through the media, the general public and caring people spontaneously raised donations for Xiaoling, donating clothes and food, and some people even went to encourage Xiaoling in person.
. Under the spontaneous publicity of the general public, more and more people also participated in it. Not long after, the first batch of donations were raised, which finally alleviated Xiaoling's treatment expenses.
The glory of human nature is fully displayed at this moment, allowing Yang Yang and Xiao Ling to see the beauty of society and are full of new hope for a better life in the future.
We believe that with the help of many caring people, Xiao Ling will one day overcome the disease and welcome his own beautiful tomorrow!
According to the media's behavior about Yang Yang's ex-husband, it has also triggered a series of discussions online, and netizens have mixed opinions about his ex-husband's behavior for a while.
Some people think that what the ex-husband does is a kindness and righteousness, and he still needs to shoulder new family responsibilities. We should not judge other people's behavior from the commanding heights of morality.
Some people also sneer at the behavior of their ex-husband, believing that even if he wants to withdraw, he should not take such a method, and should not put his ex-wife and daughter in such a dangerous situation.
However, even if netizens discuss it, this incident has happened irreversible. Now we can only hope that Xiao Ling can recover as soon as possible and welcome a bright future healthy and healthy way!
