"Get Out of Anxiety"
In the era of information explosion, it seems that the mobile phone is like a "close friend". This week, I repeatedly talked about "so tired", "so annoying", "too anxious", "why something happened again", "I'm almost manic"... Under the influence of such language, the reading software promoted me a book "Get Out of Anxiety". This book is actually very short, only 29,000 words, and I finished reading it soon, but when I read the title in the middle, I was thinking: Isn't this me? The phone is really monitored! Suddenly I felt the horror of the information age that people enjoyed the speed while losing privacy.
Back to the above, the title of this article is "Sunday Anxiety: It's not yet Monday, but I'm starting to be anxious." According to a survey on Weibo , of the 24,000 netizens, 80% of them will feel particularly anxious on Sunday nights. Depression, depression, chest tightness, , loss of appetite, headache and discomfort, fear of Monday's arrival... Some people even started to experience these "symptoms" since Sunday afternoon. On Sunday, I opened my eyes, lay on the bed, and began to think about what I would do tomorrow and how to implement class management? How to summarize the class meeting? If the students do not implement it, what should I do to target different students? How to make them take the initiative in learning tasks? How do I adjust after I make Teacher Ren angry? Some trivial student conflicts will happen to them... like a big mess of yarn, which cannot be pulled or sorted out, and repeatedly ask yourself why my job is so bad?
This is my repeated cycle of "Sunday Anxiety Disorder". Anxiety can be understood as people’s fear when facing the unknown. When we are unsure of what is about to happen ahead, we will feel out of control and safety is threatened. Our bodies will involuntarily mobilize resources to make ourselves nervous to deal with this unknown danger.
Why is it so anxious? Here are a few reasons 1. A job that you are not interested in will make you not want to work at any time. 2. A job that you are not competent can also make you delay with all your means. It is best to have a legitimate reason not to devote yourself to the work. 3. The boring, complicated, trivial and busy work reminds you of the hard experience starting Monday, and I fear that I will never come on Monday. 4. When I think of my current job, I feel that going to work is a waste of time. And you are still a young person who has a vision for the future. You should not only be anxious on Sundays, but also be anxious every day.
On the contrary: 1. You will want to devote yourself to work that is crazy and interested in, unless you need to rest if you are overdrawing. 2. You can handle the job well with just a little play, and it won’t make people anxious. 3. People who are diligent, serious, and steady in their careers will also be content with an ordinary and orderly job.
So, how to relieve my Sunday anxiety? ——Prepare the right medicine.
No interest in working: change jobs or change job methods and ideas. Incompetent: With a learning attitude, accumulate step by step, from incompetent learning to competence, or talk to the supervisor with an open heart. (Maybe the way I talk about here is to write it out and dump the garbage) Work hard: learn to endure and maintain an optimistic attitude, and improve work methods. Young people with longing: Young is capital, don’t waste this precious wealth, and worry about getting old every day.
In addition to the above most essential solutions, you can set some short-term goals for yourself. Once you complete the goals, you will gain a sense of accomplishment and relieve anxiety and anxiety. Making plans and summarizing is a good way to suggest! Make weekly plans at the beginning of each week, make weekend summary and next week's plan, and hint yourself: "I have completed this week's work on time. Although some of it has not achieved the goal, I have considered how to make adjustments. Well, I can spend a weekend with peace of mind and joy, and reward myself for the hard week."
Finally, I comforted myself with a sentence read on Weibo. Anyway, life is about rebuilding yourself in a collapse, and rebuilding yourself repeatedly in the process of rebuilding yourself, and torture yourself cycles over and over again. Hopefully this sentence can play a role in reconstruction.
"We must do our best, and at the same time, without any hope. No matter what we do, we must regard it as the most important thing in the world, but at the same time we know that it is irrelevant at all." (Chinese teacher and class teacher Fan Xinyue)
"So life is very similar to life"
What is the meaning of life? Some people like to eat three meals a day, it is ordinary. Some people like to pursue extraordinary things vigorously. In fact, life gives everyone different meanings of life. Every life becomes colorful only because of human beings. So, what kind of life is considered a meaningful life? The book "So Life Is Like Life" gives us the answer.
"So Life is Like Life" is a collection of Liang Shiqiu interesting prose, with content covering all the things of life. The author's spiritual world and life interest are fully demonstrated through five aspects: dealing with the world, being happy, them, chatting, and food.
1. About dealing with the world
In the chapter "Going with the world", Mr. Liang talked about the tragedy that he performed when he gave up his seat. For example, he gave up his seat to an old lady. After seeing it, the old lady acted as a vicious tiger and rushed over, and stretched out her arms to push him. He almost fell on someone else. Giving up seats is a good thing, but it often turns into some unpleasant things.
"Zhong" is particularly interesting. Chinese people are very taboo, saying that the two words "Zhong" and "Zhong" are homophones, which is inauspicious. But Mr. Liang said it was not taboo. Once a friend gave him a large wall clock, which did not send him the end. However, six or seven years later, the machine malfunctioned due to the humid air, and Mr. Liang sent the end to the end.
2. About Lehe
In this chapter, Mr. Liang talked about his addiction to reading newspapers and reading four or five newspapers every day. Sometimes a newspaper is absent and I feel unhappy. It was not until I did something in the newspaper office that I realized that the journalist would need to relax for several days during the year, so that I could put myself in my shoes and not be responsible. Reading newspapers often makes mistakes. Mr. Liang burned three vegetable pots in a year because of reading newspapers.
3. About them
Mr. Liang told the story of his friends in the chapter "They", including Xu Zhimo , Zhang Zizhong, Bing Xin , Mr. Daofan, Teacher Zhou, Mr. Wang Guohua, Mr. Shen Zonghan, Chen Hui, Huang Jiyu and others. Mr. Liang recalled the little things he had with these friends in the book, as if yesterday. He said: "It's not easy for each other to know that they are still alive these days." In the articles recalling, Mr. Liang misses them deeply. Yes, it is rare to have so many like-minded friends in life. They all say, "It is enough to have a confidant in life." It is even more enough that Mr. Liang has so many friends who are intimate.
4. About chatting
In "The Sorrow of Candidates", Mr. Liang tells his experience of taking the college entrance examination. As the saying goes, birth, old age, illness and death are the four major events in life. As for Mr. Liang, in addition to these four major events, taking the college entrance examination is also a big key. He said: "If my name is not on the list, I will be more than half a foot shorter in front of people from now on. I can only walk on the street, I can only speak humbly at home, and the food I eat can only go down from the backbone." On the day of the list, Mr. Liang climbed up and bought a newspaper. After he suddenly found his name in the ant-like figure, his heart fell like a stone and involuntarily burst out two lines of tears from his eyes.
5. The book about food taste
says: "A drink and peck, can it be decided before." The taste of food records the author's leisure and pleasure in his ordinary life. It shows the spiritual world and life interest of Liang Shiqiu, a generation of "lifers", and a generation of "lifers". Whether it is the curry chicken in high-end restaurants, or the pancakes, bacon, tofu, and fried croquettes that you usually eat, they are extremely interesting and delicious in the author's writing. You will find every food particularly delicious in Mr. Liang’s writing.
The book has a strong interest in life. Liang Shiqiu wrote like a god. He extracted interesting essays from life, and made people return to life while reading.
So, what is life? In fact, the meaning of life is life itself. Life is meaningful everywhere. Whether it is the ordinary or busy and bustling, it is the most meaning of life. (Art teacher Yu Zhikun)
" Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise "
"Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise" tells the story of the protagonist Fang Siqi being sexually assaulted by Chinese studies teacher Li Guohua. The author of this book, , Lin Yihan, also had similar experiences, and suffered from severe depression because of this incident and eventually committed suicide. Therefore, many readers think this is an autobiographical novel by Lin Yihan.
The core of the book is about the description of 13-year-old Fang Siqi being sexually assaulted by her teacher and eventually went crazy. From paradise to paradise lost to the final remnant paradise, it is interspersed with female characters of different personalities such as Liu Yiting and Yi Wen. The text is delicate and thought-provoking. After reading this book, I became more determined to support children's sex education. In modern society, even though the atmosphere is open, there will still be a phenomenon of fear of sex. Many people will equate sex with pornography. Our parents even keep silent about sex education, , and avoid it. In September last year, some parents were dissatisfied with the fact that teachers popularized their children's knowledge about pregnancy and sex, which was put on the hot search. This reminds me of this description in "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise" "'Our tutor seems to have everything, but there is no sex education.' Mom looked at her in surprise and replied: 'What sex education? Sex education is for those who need sex. Isn't the so-called education like this?' Siqi understood for a moment that she would not get help from her parents. In this story, parents will always be absent. They have skipped classes, but they think that they have not started school yet." Parents always feel that their children are still young and should not understand these, but those villains in society will not stop their evil deeds because their children are still young. It is precisely because of society’s taboos for sex that Li Guohua unscrupulously seduces one female student after another who is ignorant of the world.
book describes this as follows: "He found that society's sense of sexual taboos is too convenient. Rape a girl, the whole world thinks it is her own fault, and even she thinks it is her own fault. The guilt will drive her back to him again. The guilt is an ancient and pure sheep dog of blood. One by one, the little girls are calves that were forced to run before they learn to walk steadily." "He forced him into it, and I apologize for it." The little girl in "Su Yuan" said: "The uncle wants me to hold an umbrella for him. I originally wanted to walk away, but I still want to help him. I think I should hold an umbrella for the uncle who was in the rain. I just supported him, but people say it was my fault, and no one praised me. "We need to teach children to be kind, brave and tenacious, but at the same time, we need to teach children to understand the imperfections outside the world. We cannot attribute the lack of sex education to age because we are worried about children's premature maturity or early love. As written in "Silent Reading": "You can teach children to beware of strangers and be vigilant, but we cannot make them afraid of wearing floral skirts." They are still children, but they have endured the great malice in this world. The criminals will not stop because they are young. After all, they cannot explain the truth with the same pervert. Su Wang's birth at the end of the film "Su Yuan" adds hope for a new life to Su Yuan and brings more hope to her family. This may be the light that the director wants to leave to us in the desperate place. But Lin Yihan's life did not shine in her light. After she finished writing this book with tears, she finally chose to escape from this world that brought her huge harm.
Fang Siqi's tragedy deserves everyone's vigilance. It is no exaggeration to prevent sexual crimes and strengthen sexual education. It is crucial to let children learn how to protect themselves. After all, perverts never mind your children's young. (Teacher of Taoism and Fa, play tricks on Xilin)
Postscript: No matter how bad your life is, it does not prevent you from getting better and better. On the day when the hardships are over, the mountains, rivers, stars and moons will be used as gifts. Respect the present, treat yourself kindly, don’t remember the past, and don’t mention the future.
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