One of the very important reasons is that Western medicine is the leading psychological treatment now. Western medicine always only focuses on symptoms when treating diseases, believing that as long as the symptoms are controlled or eliminated, the disease will be cured. But in f

There are now more and more various mental illnesses. According to relevant survey statistics, the number of patients with various mental illnesses is over 100 million. Why are there so many mental illnesses? One of the very important reasons is that Western medicine is the leading psychological treatment now. Western medicine always only focuses on symptoms when treating diseases, believing that as long as the symptoms are controlled or eliminated, the disease will be cured. But in fact, this is self-deception at all, and if the root cause is not ignored, the symptoms cannot be eliminated. Only by solving the root cause will the symptoms naturally be eliminated. Just like a fire occurs, it is necessary to put out the fire, not to eliminate the smoke. Only when the fire is extinguished will the smoke disappear.

Since Western medicine always uses chemical drugs to inhibit or affect neurophysiological activities to achieve the purpose of controlling symptoms, and the root cause is not solved, the symptoms will not disappear, so it is to take medicine for a long time, and even be asked by psychiatrists to take medicine for life. Therefore, this practice cannot cure mental illness at all. The more accumulated it, the more patients there are, the more and more.

Since ancient times, our medicine has said that Heart disease still requires heart medicine. Ancient Chinese medicine itself had psychological treatment, such as Emotional and mutually beneficial Therapy, and we have always emphasized "dialectic treatment" and attached importance to the root of the disease. We will never treat headaches and pains like Western medicine. We will not fight anxiety and depression, but we need to diagnose and find the psychological root of anxiety and depression, and solve the root cause of the disease.

In my years of experience, through observations of a large number of patients with mental illnesses, I found that many psychological diseases are fundamentally related to inferiority. Inferiority is essentially because individuals have not learned to unconditionally accept and recognize , and the causes of inferiority are basically caused by the parenting methods of their original families. So, what practices do parents will lead to children's inferiority complex?

The first thing that is to be affected is to often deny and accuse children. This kind of behavior is very common. Most parents have this behavior, but it is just a matter of degree. Many parents always scold their children for not being able to do this or that, calling their children stupid and stupid, not as good as other people's children, or criticize them all kinds of times once their children make mistakes. Many parents have completely reached the level of violent language, belittled and even sarcastic and humiliated.

Because people have no consciousness or are immature in their childhood and lack the ability to judge their parents' evaluation, they often believe and agree with their parents' evaluation of themselves, and internalize this negative evaluation into self-evaluation, learn to deny themselves, and of course they do not learn to accept and recognize themselves.

The second common situation is that the child has high expectations and requirements, or the child is conditionally accepted and recognized, that is, if the child meets the parents' expectations and requirements, then parents will praise and reward the child in various ways. Once the child does not meet the parents' requirements, parents will be very angry and criticize, deny, accus and punish. For example, it is more common that parents treat their children based on their children's test scores. If the children do well in the exam, they will be recognized and affirmed by their parents. If they fail in the exam, they will be denied and criticized by various kinds of people. Over time, children will internalize this attitude of their parents as their attitude towards themselves, that is, they will be in line with their own attitude towards themselves, that is, they will be confident when they are done well in their own work. Once they fail the exam, do things well, and make mistakes, they will fall into self-denial and self-blame and guilt. Some serious cases will develop into a perfectionist personality, which is a little bad, a little mistake, and no failure can be accepted, and it is easy to be depressed.

The third situation is the unfairness of parents, such as favoring boys over girls, such as two or more children in the family, and their parents prefer them, then the ignored and unattended child will also be inferior. Because the child is young and does not understand why parents treat themselves like this, it is easy to think that it is because they are not good, so parents treat themselves like this, and thus develop into self-denial to form inferiority complex.There are also those children who are born abandoned, given up, and fostered. They will feel that they are not good and will often feel inferior.

The fourth situation is those children who have lived in praise and praise since childhood, which are the so-called "children from others". Because they have been living in praise since childhood, individuals will form a feeling: they are perfect, they are the best, and no one is as good as themselves, but in this world there are mountains outside the mountains and people outside the mountains. When such children encounter some difficulties, setbacks, failures and blows in the future, and when they find that there are many people better than themselves, they will not be able to accept this reality, fall into deep self-doubt and self-negation, and become inferior. There are also children who spoiled and grew up. Because they were replaced and overprotected since childhood, they often had poor abilities. It is often difficult for them to adapt to society when they go to society. No one spoiled them anymore, and they will suffer setbacks everywhere and lead to inferiority.

The fifth situation is actually quite common, but people generally do not believe it and it is difficult to understand it. It is the "gender expectation" in the fetus period. When the mother is pregnant, she hopes that the fetus in the abdomen is a boy or a girl, and there is a gender expectation. For example, some people like boys and some like girls, then the expectation of parents, especially mothers, can be felt by the fetus, and the fetus will have a sense of fear, and after birth, it will gradually show inferiority.

So, we say that parents must accept and recognize their children unconditionally from an early age, so that children can learn to accept and recognize themselves unconditionally, and be truly confident. Confident people have objective evaluation and attitude towards themselves, and they are very clear that they have both advantages and disadvantages, but they will not be arrogant and arrogant because of their own advantages or achievements, nor will they deny or underestimate themselves because of their shortcomings and failures. They do not base their recognition of themselves on external conditions. When making mistakes and doing things well, their first reaction is to reflect and correct, and continue to work hard to do things well, rather than fall into self-denial and self-blame guilt, and they will not escape reality, fall into a depressed or even suffer from depression.

Therefore, self-confidence is an important guarantee for a person's inner strength and an important condition for happiness in life. If you have formed inferiority since childhood, you can also learn to accept and re-establish self-confidence through psychological healing and psychological growth.