I am 16 years old this year and I am in the first year of high school.
Let’s talk about my inferiority complex first: 1. In terms of growth experience, even if my grades are among the best than my peers, they are often belittled and inexplicably looked down upon.
When my father was young, he often said that I was useless because I loved to cry. My mother worked outside. After coming back, because she didn’t care about my sister’s growth experience, she also belittled me with her father. For a while, I loved playing games, which led to my suspected play games when I was studying.
The teacher gave me an unfair opportunity, and the primary school teacher beat and scolded me every day, and my father felt it was good.
2. Even though I was always said to be useless, I was still very confident in the first to fourth grades because I was very beautiful, but one day, my twin sister attributed all the past to me regardless of her mistakes. My mother and grandma were helping her with unknown situation. After that, I was depressed. 's inferiority became stronger and stronger, and she rose to her appearance anxiety. When I was in the third year of junior high school, I realized whether it was my problem.
But my inferiority complex seems to be unable to be removed.
2. Social ability, because of my inferiority complex, I have a kind of flattery personality. No matter how much I give, no one will help me. Because my tongue is a bit big and my speech is unclear, my reflective arc is long, and I often miss the tongue, but my logical thinking is very fast, and the two sentences are often combined together.
I can’t recognize
Low, let’s take a look at your statement:
I am 16 years old and in my first year of high school.
1. When my father was young, he often said that I was useless because I loved to cry. My mother worked outside and didn’t care about the growth of my sister and I. lacked the care of my mother during the growth process. The incorrect way of raising raising people - suppression and belittlement.
2. There was a time when I loved playing games, which led to my suspected that I was playing games when I was studying. lacks communication and is not trusted.
3. The school teacher beats and scolds me every day in an inappropriate way, but my father thinks it’s good. falls into an unsupported emotional state.
4. I am very beautiful, so I was confident before the fourth grade. During the interaction with the twin sister, my mother and grandmother were helping her with unknown situation. After that, I was depressed and felt more and more inferiority complex, and I rose to my appearance anxiety. I realized that it was my problem in the third year of junior high school. but has a profound impact on .
2. Social ability ,
1. I have a kind of flattering personality. No matter how much I give, no one will help me.
2. Because my tongue is a bit big, my speech is unclear, my reflection arc length is long, and I often miss the tongue.
3. I can't recognize
0. The following reply:
1 Psychological platform has a reading of " Inferiority and Beyond ". You can listen first. Of course, you can also buy it to read it.
If it comes from the perspective of past trauma repair:
First of all, don’t panic and feel inferior, in fact everyone has it. When you see your inferiority complex, you can choose the way to deal with it
Secondly, past growth experiences will indeed have a lot of impact on the development of children's personality.
The father's suppression of him is education, which has indeed affected us, but if we only achieve such an attribution, "I am now, it's all my fault for my father."
The absence of a mother during her growth process will indeed make people lose a lot of warm support. But if you just do this attribution : "What I am now is unrelated to my mother."
school teachers and other members of the family have indeed had many impacts on us...
The past has happened. Objectively speaking, you cannot change your parents, you cannot change the facts of the past, and you cannot grow up again (this part, of course, you can do some emotional cultivation and forgiveness under the settings of psychological counseling. You can also heal your inner child in the heart, which needs to be carried out in the consultation state.It requires physical relaxation and psychological acceptance, as well as mental concentration and concentration, and a matching counselor is the same as relaxation and concentration, spend the same time)
From the perspective of developing individual resources, you need to ask yourself in depth:
I was like that in the past. I don't like it, so,
What do I want myself to be like?
What can I do without changing my parents’ state?
Where can I find people who support and help me?
When will I feel inferior and when will I be confident? What factors are there when I am confident? Can I expand these factors so that I can feel more confident?
…and more, you can do it. You can do these
by yourself, and of course, the consultant can also help you in this regard. Consultation of
system will help you very well. It seems that it costs some money, but the teachers are professional and worth the price.
Blessings
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