As human growth, fear always accompanies us, from teenagers to old age, there will be things that make us afraid. Children's fear is a problem that we should pay attention to and is also a matter that many parents are worried about.
"Mom, I dare not sleep alone, I am afraid of the dark." "Mom, I don't like going to kindergarten, I am afraid of the teacher." "Mom, I am afraid of puppies." During the growth of a child, children always say such words. In fact, this is because children have fear, but parents often ignore their children's words, and even ignore some strange actions and reflections on things, believing that this is a normal phenomenon.
Fear emotions will change differently in each age group, and their existence may not be a bad thing. It will have a great effect on the growth of children. However, if children have excessive fear, it will be detrimental to the physical and mental health of children.
The book "Children's Fear Psychology: Understanding Children's Fear Emotions from Graffiti" proposes that children's fear is divided into categories. Only when parents understand their children's fears to varying degrees can they better help children reduce the adverse effects of fears on their children. Language is not the only tool in communicating with children. With simple words and rich illustrations, this book guides parents and educators how to understand their real needs and inner world from children’s graffiti and paintings, and gives ways to help children overcome these fears.
This book is co-written by Evi Crotti and Alberto Magni of Italy, who is a psychologist and educator, and Alberto Magni is a surgeon and psychotherapist.
Let us discover the children's fear from their children's graffiti, thereby helping them overcome their fear and be a brave, optimistic and confident child.
- Interpret the child's fear from graffiti and painting
Xiao Min found that her son didn't like to talk recently and was always dazed alone. He was no longer interested in what he liked to do in the past. Moreover, when adults talked to him, he always ignored him, or looked at the other person with a confused face. Moreover, my son's paintings are different from before. He always holds the pen tightly with his hands, and the beginning of the painting is different from before.
Xiao Min was very angry about her son's behavior, and she also scolded the child several times for this, but there was no effect at all. Xiao Min is a little anxious now and doesn't know what to do.
In fact, what Xiao Min didn't know was that this was a signal her son sent to her, and the child was afraid. In the book, the author writes that children convey a lot of information when they doodle and paint. For example: If a child has fear and cannot express it in words, his pen holding posture will be very nervous; if the child is not confident, the lines of the painting will be hesitant, and we need to give them more comfort and encouragement. If the child is sensitive, the strength of their writing will be particularly weak; if they repeatedly paint during the painting process, it means that the child has no confidence in himself.
2. From graffiti and painting, understand the most common fear emotions in children
In the book, the author organizes separate tags for 34 common fear emotions in children, including the causes of fear emotions, age, psychological types, behavioral manifestations, evolution, practical suggestions, graffiti and painting content.
For example, when a child is afraid of high altitude, the roots of his paintings of the big tree will be firmly rooted in the soil, and there are flying birds and butterflies in the painting. This may be because the child has had a creative experience, such as being raised or thrown into the air by an adult. This often occurs in early childhood. At this time, children will experience anxiety, and mainly in the county, asthma attacks or suffocation. What parents need to do is to gradually adapt to the feeling of being at a high altitude.
3. What should parents do in the face of children's fears
Parents are the children's first teachers and the person who has the greatest impact on their children.When facing children's fear, parents should give children a good family atmosphere. In the book, the author gives parents 12 suggestions for practices. For example: Give your child enough sense of security so that he can feel that he is loved and needed. In the education of his child, do not threaten, intimidate or punish the child, stay calm, and do not be angry because of his instinctively.
The wish of every parent to grow up healthily and happily. If you want your child to have a happy childhood, it is recommended that you read the book "Children's Fear Psychology: Understanding Children's Fear Emotions from Graffiti", discover the emotions they want to express from children's drawings, find solutions, and give children a happy childhood.
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