Love and marriage certainly have a happy and happy side, but it is inevitable that there will be headaches. Many people have troubles that are difficult to explain and unclear. In life, there are many behaviors that can be explained by psychological knowledge, and the same is true for love and marriage. Although gender relations cannot be handled completely in a scientific way, understanding more gender psychology will always be of some help to emotional life.
1, suspension bridge effect —Under stimulating conditions, it is easier for us to fall in love with each other
There is a phenomenon in psychology called "suspension bridge effect", which refers to the sudden increase in heartbeat when a person crosses the suspension bridge with fear. If he happens to meet another person at this time, he will mistakenly understand the rapid heartbeat caused by this situation as a physiological reaction that makes the other person move, and thus feel that he is in love with the other person. This is the feeling of love.
We can use the "suspension bridge effect" to make the other party fall in love with us and fall in love with us. For example: two people go on a roller coaster, watch exciting movies, go to bungee jumping, go to haunted houses, etc. Through external stimulation, people can enter a state of emotion, allowing each other to secrete more love dopamine due to accidental events, and think that they have fallen in love with each other deeply.
2, proximal effect ——The last impression is very important
proximal effect was first proposed by psychologist A. Luchens, based on experiments, said that when multiple stimuli appear, the formation of our impression mainly depends on the stimuli that appears later. That is, during the interaction process, our latest understanding of others will occupy a dominant position, covering up the evaluation of others formed in the past, so it is also called the "novel effect".
proximal effect emphasizes that one person’s impression of another person is greatly affected by the latest contact. For example, if you break up in love, the other party will definitely choose to separate because you have a bad impression of you. Then, it is best not to be entangled at this time, otherwise it will only aggravate his bad impression of you. You should try to change his last impression of you little by little.
3, Law of decreasing happiness ——The curse of "Seven Years Itch"
There is a phenomenon in psychology called "The law of decreasing happiness", which means that people get from an item under specific circumstances will decrease as the number of items increases. It is under the influence of this law that the longer you love each other and the deeper you get along, the less and dissatisfied your psychological expectations for your partner. It is not difficult to understand why the " seven-year itch " phenomenon occurs.
We must understand the rules. On the one hand, we must keep a sense of crisis and work hard for our love. On the other hand, we must also realize that many times when you feel unhappy, it may not be that you are really unhappy. On the contrary, it is precisely because you have been happy that the "Law of Decreasing Happiness" has slowly reduced your perception of happiness. We must cherish the current happiness.
4, sinking cost effect —The more you invest, the less you are reluctant to let go
sinking cost effect refers to costs that have been paid and cannot be recycled, such as time, money, energy, etc. When people decide whether to do something, they must not only see whether it is good for them, but also their investment in it. Therefore, some people would rather waste time than watch boring movies; some people obviously invested in loss-making businesses or stocks than give up cutting their losses, because they have invested too much and the cost of sunk is too high and it is difficult to give up.
If you want a person to be unable to live without you, then try to make him spend more time on you, whether it is money, time or love he invests, because once he invests these unrecyclable costs, he will become calculating and unwilling to give up.
5, 4 Pygmalion effect ——Good partners are all praised
Pygmalion effect refers to the expectations or predictions formed by people based on their perception of a certain situation, which will make the situation have an effect of adapting to this expectation or prediction. That is, people's emotions, ideas and behaviors will be subconsciously affected by others to varying degrees.
It is a psychological revelation that your praise, praise and wishes will become a psychological hint, allowing the expected one to do what you expect with the help of invisible power. This is a subtle force, and effectively exerts its positive role, so that the partner can become what you expect.
6, endowment effect ——Human loss disgust
endowment effect refers to the fact that once an individual owns an item, his evaluation of the value of the item will be greatly increased compared to before he owns it. This phenomenon can be explained by the "loss aversion" theory in behavioral finance. When people face the same amount of gains and losses, they believe that losses are even more unbearable. This shows that humans are born with a deep-rooted disgust with loss.
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