Xianyue Hospital Psychological Crisis Intervention Hotline Team. (Data picture)
text/Reporter Chu Yan
Correspondent Chen Lu
Photo/Shi Xianyue Hospital Provide
September 10 is World Suicide Prevention Day. Every suicide is devastating and has a profound impact on those around you. By raising awareness and encouraging insiders to take action, suicides can be reduced.
Xiamen Xianyue Hospital Psychological Crisis Intervention Hotline 0592-5395159 Since early 2009, it has provided free consultation services for 24 hours a day, and has answered more than 100,000 calls so far. The department won excellent results in the national psychological crisis intervention hotline evaluation, and was awarded the honorary title of "Humanities and Love Department" by Chinese Medical Association and other , and was awarded the "Fujian Youth May Fourth Medal Collective". Experts at
Xianyue Hospital said that everyone can become a key role in preventing suicide. As a member of society, as a child, parents, friends, colleagues or neighbors, through actions, you can help those in the darkest moments of your life and resolve the suicide crisis.
Troubles of young helpers: family relationships and interpersonal relationships are tense, and learning pressure is high
In psychological crisis intervention, people who are about to commit suicide or have strong intentions to commit suicide are listed as high-risk groups. Xiamen Xianyue Hospital Psychological Crisis Intervention Hotline and Consultation Room Intermediate Psychological Therapist Chen Bingbing introduced that in recent years, the connection volume of this hotline has always remained high. Those who seek help come from all over the country, and sometimes they will encounter overseas consultants who speak English. . The corresponding high-risk calls have also increased significantly, and young people aged 15-29 are the key groups.
She believes that the increase in calls may be related to the following factors: First, the country vigorously promotes psychological crisis intervention, and coupled with the developed Internet information, more people can easily search for suicide intervention channels; Second, due to factors such as the epidemic, there are The number of people who need psychological crisis intervention has indeed increased; thirdly, hotline communication is relatively hidden, and people are more willing to choose this kind of intervention method.
In recent years, the number of calls from students has continued to rise, and the main things that have troubled them are "three mountains": one is family relationships, such as frequent conflicts with parents, discord between brothers and sisters, etc.; the other is interpersonal relationships, Teenagers are in a stage where there is a strong need for interpersonal relationships. When they encounter difficulties and setbacks such as campus bullying , they often bear great mental pressure; third, learning pressure, especially when the exam comes, they are prone to falling into tension and anxiety and unable to extricate themselves. . When students encounter psychological crises, they sometimes have clear suicidal thoughts. They may not commit suicide. When their inner depression cannot be relieved, they may choose to relieve the current pain such as self-harm and self-harm. Young people in their twenties and thirties are also a high-incidence group for suicides. Emotional disputes and work pressure are the two main causes of their suicides.
A noteworthy phenomenon is that family conflicts caused by the second child are affecting many teenagers. Chen Bingbing once received a call for help from a junior high school girl. The girl always feels that her parents are very aggressive to her and always denies her ideas, but she is very fond of her younger brother who is over three years old. "Before giving birth to my younger brother, my parents' attitude towards me was not like this. Why is the difference in attitude towards me and my younger brother is so big now!" The girl cried on the phone. One day, she wanted to tell her mother something, and her mother seemed to be impatient. During the meal, my mother served the meal for my younger brother, but the bowl in front of her was empty. Just over this little thing, she had a big fight with her mother. Because she couldn't stand the atmosphere at home, she often locked herself in the room and didn't want to talk to her parents. Her parents blamed her for not locking the door, thinking that she must be playing with something else while she was not studying hard. "I feel the pressure is very high, and my grades have also declined. Sometimes I feel that living like this is boring, so it's better to die!"
Chen Bingbing listened to her story patiently, and did not rush to give advice, but was hurt by her because she was ignored by her family. She expressed her understanding of her mood, expressed her affirmation of her efforts to repair relationships and improve her grades, and guided her to realize that "I am not a bad child". When the girl's mood stabilizes, she will provide guidance slowly."Youths are the age when they love to think about who I am, the meaning of my life. Sometimes when they are in multiple conflicts, a small thing can trigger suicide thoughts. Timely and professional psychological counseling can help resolve psychological crises."
The sorrow of middle-aged and elderly people seeking help: Children with high economic pressure are worried about marriage and love education issues
Psychological crisis intervention hotline statistics show that in recent years, the number of people who are unable to think about it due to economic pressure has increased, mainly middle-aged people. A man was heavily in debt due to gambling and online loans, and did not dare to tell his family and friends. He struggled for a long time and finally could not bear the huge psychological pressure, so he called the hotline. In the communication with him, Chen Bingbing evaluated his mental state and suicide risk in real time, and discussed with him patiently, and could try to explore which internal and external resources can better face and solve problems and guide him to lock in a small one first. Objective, solve a problem that can be solved under existing conditions. For example, in view of the situation where he has been unable to sleep for several consecutive days, we will discuss how to solve the problem of insomnia, help him improve his physical and mental state, and better cope with stress.
In addition to economic pressure, children's education and marriage are also a major problem that plagues middle-aged and elderly people. Some people say that raising children is "too good" now, and they are worried that their children will lose at the starting line if they have poor grades. There are also many people who have been worried about their children's marriage and love problems for a long time, such as worrying about not finding a partner, not getting married, and not having children.
Chen Bingbing (right) went deep into the community to participate in the public welfare publicity activities for Suicide Prevention Day.
[Expert tips]
Multi-party collaboration
Learning self-help people
Chen Bingbing discovered an interesting phenomenon during the years of hotline connection: Nowadays, more and more people know a little psychological knowledge, and they are in their daily work and life because of some I felt deeply bored with unpleasant experiences, so I obtained psychology-related knowledge through various channels and tried to intervene myself.
Chen Bingbing said that in the past, a patient went to the hospital to consult her, covering her face for fear of being seen. In recent years, people have gradually begun to look at their psychological problems with a normal mind and actively seek solutions to problems. This is the era of progress.
As a professional psychotherapist, Chen Bingbing has rich experience in how to prevent suicide. She believes that preventing suicide is inseparable from multi-party collaboration. If you fall into the quagmire of negative emotions, or realize that someone around you has a tendency to commit suicide, you can start by saving yourself and helping others from the following aspects:
●Learn to listen and accept, and don’t rush to do so. The most common sentence for the caller of
is "People around them do not recognize me in their state and do not understand me", which leads to them gradually being reluctant to talk to the people around them. When facing a person with suicidal intention, don’t always deny him or express your understanding of his behavior and thoughts. When he is in an environment where he is caring and understanding, he will be more willing to express his inner pain. And confiding itself helps to vent emotions.
●Learn to share, participate in experience exchange
Everyone has experienced emotional pain and psychological difficulties at a certain stage, and each person has different ways of dealing with it. Through sharing and communication, we will realize that it is not just that we have suffered these pains, and suicide is not the only solution. If we try the methods that others have used, we may find hope.
●Don’t be afraid to talk about suicide
When we notice that people around us are not in a good mood or have some strange actions, such as suddenly starting to search for suicide methods, don’t choose to remain silent because we are worried that talking about suicide will increase the chances of others committing suicide. At this time, you might as well stop and ask more, "Are you okay? Do you have any idea of committing suicide?" Give him a chance to express his troubles. In fact, having suicidal thoughts when encountering mental trauma is a normal manifestation, and there is no need to not talk about them because of taboos.
Some children say "I don't want to live anymore", and parents will excitedly ask "How can you have such thoughts", which will give children a psychological hint: it is shameful to have suicide thoughts.The correct way is to be empathetic and communicate sincerely with the other party, without worrying about not being professional enough. As long as you are willing to listen to him equally, through emotional connections, there is hope that helping him avoid turning suicide thoughts into actions.
●Disencing confidentiality suicide thoughts
Some teenagers will enlighten their friends and choose to keep them confidentiality for their friends. This kind of behavior seems righteous, but it is not worth encouraging. In this case, it is often more effective if a team (such as family, friends, doctors, etc.) comes to help.
Source: Xiamen Daily
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