Some time ago, there was a friend Xiao Z next to the editor who complained to him about his emotional bottleneck.
"I thought he was the right person, but it doesn't seem to be anymore."
I’m destined to get married late, so don’t worry."
"The master I found after breaking up last year also said that I’m not suitable for early marriage, oh... but I really don’t want to go around. Turned."
Seeing this, the editor couldn't help interrupting Xiao Z and told her euphemistically that might not be the real solution to the problem.
The editor can’t help questioning in his heart: late marriage? How late is the late marriage? In addition to talking about late marriage, the fortune-teller said what should be done to deal with late marriage? What's more, the practice of avoiding the solution of the problem and only talking about the problem itself has made it difficult for the editor to accept.
So, when numerologists say the word "late marriage", what message does convey? Does the fortune-teller really have a certain "chance"? And what are the psychological characteristics of contemporary married men and women in fortune-telling? What is the connection between metaphysics and psychology?
Today I will talk briefly about my views on the above issues.(The following content does not involve profound metaphysical knowledge, please feel free to read it)
"I think that's what I said is my marriage" 1 "span0" 1 "span0" The description of is not uncommon in fortune-telling rhetoric.
The above is the result of Baidu .
It can be found that many people will continue to discuss the topic of fortune-telling repeatedly after fortune-telling, and there is a lot of confusion about the "late marriage" of fortune-telling masters, so they will ask questions and seek help on the Internet.
But another way of thinking, if the master has clearly told the helper during the fortune-telling process why he may be late to marry and how to deal with it, why are so many people struggling with late marriage, and even feel full Where is your heart?
In fact, on the other hand, there are many people who were told by the fortune teller to get married later, broke this prediction with actual results.
I don’t understand the mechanism of horoscope numerology.Nor has it examined how credible fortune-telling really is.
But you can try from the psychological characteristics of help seekers and numerologists in the fortune-telling behavior to do some analysis.
First of all, the editor emphasizes a premise here: The editor uses psychological knowledge to try to analyze fortune-telling behavior, but it does not mean that metaphysics and psychology are academically related.
In essence, psychology is a modern science, and although metaphysics has a long historical foundation, it lacks scientificity.
From the perspective of the helper.
has so many audiences One of the reasons why they chose to go to Eastern metaphysics when they were in trouble is that they themselves are willing to believe.
This phenomenon is called Barnum effect in psychology.
Barnum effect is also known as Fowler effect , astronomical effect is a kind of Fowler proved by psychologists in 1948. Psychological phenomenon.
The Barnum effect refers to people often think that is a general and general personality description that reveals its own characteristics very accurately. It should be used as ordinary, ambiguous, and extensive. When using adjectives to describe a person, people tend to accept these descriptions easily and think that what is said in the description is themselves.
The license plate number that hides your lucky number, the WeChat avatar that your lover ran into with you, the person you like on the constellation that matches you very well, and "The fortune teller does not say that I".........
These all reflect the role of "subjective verification" . If we want to believe in one thing, we can always gather all kinds of evidence to support ourselves in some irrelevant things.
In our minds, "self" occupies most of the space. Behind these "self-deception" individuals is strong_strong_34strong 's unique emphasis on oneself , everything about "me" is very important.
In addition, most of the help seekers are at a low stage in their lives. tends to be fragile and insecure. is vulnerable to fortune-telling in the process of fortune-telling, which makes it easy to be subconsciously hinted by the fortune-teller. 's acceptance of psychological cues can meet the psychological dependence needs of the seeker to a certain extent.
Is it unified or vague?
So, from the perspective of a numerologist?
Take an example.
I once had a colleague who turned to online fortune-telling services because of a divorce crisis with her husband.
After paying a lot of money, she quickly made a voice connection with a master with a strong local accent.
"I didn't tell him the situation of myself and my family at the beginning. I just reported the birth date of my husband and me, and the master thought I had a baby. The process is explained."
"The master said that my husband and I will not be able to leave this time because there will be a second child between us." _p5span
I never thought about having a second child, but the fortune teller my mother helped me find also said that I would have a second child. I believe it now." , But after listening to my colleagues’ description of the entire fortune-telling process, I realized that this fortune-teller is absolutely top-notch at the level of .
And my colleague 's true mentality of unwillingness to leave marriage was also "deadly" pinched.
An excellent numerologist must be an "old mage" who is good at observing words and expressions. , some experienced numerologists have the ability to observe and infer even comparable to that of the detective Sherlock Holmes.
For them, the process of fortune-telling is actually a process of first observing words and colors, arguing, and then conducting "psychological counseling."
is not so much "psychological counseling" as it is spiritual comfort, and as mentioned above, it is more of the psychological comfort that the help seeker needs when he is stuck in the quagmire.
Here, the editor still sighs:
No matter how old a person is, this kind of prediction can be derived from the fate of a person in the East. The ability to combine horoscopes with marriage, a major event in life that has left countless boys and girls incomprehensible and even troubled from ancient times to the present, and makes people tirelessly rush to it. It is also the wisdom of China for five thousand years!
The problem behind the problem-returning to self-awareness is the right solution _pan12emp
Of good words.This is going back to the little Z classmate.
After Xiao Z’s speech was interrupted mercilessly by the editor, Xiao Z continued to talk about ta’s numerologist’s heartfelt words.
Little Z, at any rate, has the faith to find a way to explore intimacy and tirelessly ask for help.
The answer given by the numerologist he met this time made the editor feel ashamed of the unwarranted question at the beginning.
carefully savoring these words, it makes people feel like walking on the road full of glass slag, cruel and precise hit the key.
Indeed, Xiao Z has also realized that although there are many emotional experiences, in fact, in every relationship, it is easy to focus on the other half. And ta Caring very little about my feelings and experiences.
Although Xiao Z wants to pursue high-quality intimacy, it is easy to devote himself or herself to after the relationship begins.
As the astrologer said, this reflects the problems of Xiao Z’s self-cognition blur and confusion in his feelings.
This is the problem behind the problem of "late marriage".
So, it’s not less than that, but the time has not come. I want to say to those friends who have been "late marriage" here:
does not mean that you are said to be "late marriage" Your marriage is not good, and perhaps your current awareness of yourself is not enough for you to meet a good enough partner.
Only if returns its attention to itself, re-examines its own cognitive ability and level, and judges its possible misunderstandings in the face of marriage and love can make us Avoid repeating some previous detours or falling into deeper pits.
It is true that returning the problem to itself, you may fall into some kind of helplessness and confusion, or even huge fear.
Actually,When people face a fortune teller, they may be partially questioned or even afraid of being seen through.
For example, some people who go for help deliberately hide their important information from the fortune teller, and even want the fortune teller to use the eight characters to figure out the major events that have happened.
This kind of concealment may be hidden behind people's fear of further self-exploration.
However, fear alone cannot solve the problem. The real solution is to face the problem.
If you have the courage to admit the problem, you have actually taken a big step on the road to self-awareness.
There are countless possibilities on the following road, and almost all of those possibilities are hidden in your exploration and understanding of yourself.
Finally, the editor would like to ask everyone: Have you ever been "married late"? How did you deal with this? Please share in the comments ~
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Author: Luo Nanxi Nancy
Edit: Sydney
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