Last time I drank tea, someone said that I think modern young people are generally pretentious. Like our parents' generation, they were not only poor when they were childhood, but also treated rudely by their parents. They lived a much worse life than the current young people. Why didn’t anyone have any psychological problems?
I smiled slightly.
No? Why doesn’t
not?
Life is getting better now, everyone may have mental illness, let alone how could their parents’ generation be absent?
Their generation not only had many people with mental illnesses, but also might have mental disorders.
However, the public knows little about these things, and they have not used professional institution doctors to diagnose and treat them.
Finally, the symptoms they poured out, were all endured by the weakest in the family.
So I just don’t look sick, my life is normal, and whoever is suffering at home knows.
The most painful and affected are usually their children, that is, our generation of young people.
They were tortured and all came to the consultation room.
You need to judge whether there is any abnormality between parents. Here are some glimpses.
The first is that the desire to talk is extremely strong.
If you see an elder and talk about it endlessly when you see anyone, and the content is very much complaining, then you must be vigilant. She complains every day that her life is hard, her children are not good, her life is bad, and everything is difficult to go smoothly...
At this moment, whoever listens to it and whoever sympathizes with it is their psychological counselor.
After all, listening can heal 50%.
In fact, nagging is also a kind of compulsive repetition, and the bad content of nagging is also a kind of hypnosis and hint. Children of people like
are prone to being nagged and mentally abused, and their lives follow the script of their parents' miserable life.
Second, persecuted paranoia
Always think of people at the worst, always think of things at the worst, and cannot take on things. If you have a little bit of things, you will be the heaven and the earth, and you will be extremely depressed. Sometimes I would call my son and daughter one after another. It was amazing and something big happened. Come out quickly and take care of it.
or in front of children, they may show extreme depression and boredom.
At this time, the children came forward to help them solve the problem. OK, now the children are psychological counselors. In families like
, often have a lot of pressure on children to become parents.
Third, aggressive
Speech is very ugly, and everything you say is very good. You will find that these families are all inherited from the ancestral spirits, and chatting often makes you unable to continue.
They are sharp, harsh, and usually sarcastic.
Society is garbage, others are garbage, no one has any advantages, but it is best for everyone to see.
has a bad temper and especially likes to scold people, others, and children.
is gone, he finished scolding and was relieved, and the disease was transferred to others.
Aggression is also a kind of protection for oneself. If the attack is out, most of the people will heal.
Fourth, control crazy
Especially loves to interfere in other people's lives and arrange their lives.
likes to interfere with children's preferences, studies, futures, marriages, and even finances.
Children do not accept it. They will beat, scold, intimidate when they are young, and cry and threaten ZS when they are old.
likes to deprive children of their autonomy and ability to resist.
There is another way to control it, which is to create a sense of guilt.
For example, to bless more money, or give your children material things, and give them more unnecessary care and companionship (especially when children want to be independent), but be careful, these are all conditional.
The condition is that children must obey themselves unconditionally in everything.
Once the child does not obey his or her arrangements, he will secretly indicate that the child has no conscience or does not know how to be grateful to his or her parents.
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Children will inherit this trauma through projective identification with their elders.
then pass it to your small family and then pass it to your children.
So I really appreciate young people who can come to the clinic to consciously block this generational inheritance and create a better future for the next generation.
