Guangxi son wrote hieroglyphs and flew up, and his father roared in anger. Psychologists believe that the father's anger went through six steps.
0 Six programs have passed in our minds before the emotional outbreak. As long as we detect any link in time, we can change our final behavior.
1. We only know that we have emotional behaviors, such as being angry, cursing, and being unhappy because of emotions. This is called emotional behaviors .
2. Before emotional behavior , something triggering event must have occurred, such as: "I just made you angry and scold me." This is called triggering event .
3. If not the same event will induce the same behavior. This is related to your inner mood at that time. For example, the same sentence "You can do this matter." Your understanding of this sentence depends on whether you are happy or unhappy at that time. This is called inner emotions. If you treat your inner emotions as an explosive pack, then the inducing event is the lighter that ignites the explosive pack.
4. In the face of different environments or groups, we will have a preconceived subjective evaluation of . Under the same inner emotions, if the same sentence is said to you by someone you respect in your heart, and it is said to you by someone you usually hate, your interpretation will be completely different. For example, when you are unhappy, if someone with a good relationship with you advises you for a few words, you may be comforted; but when you are usually very annoying and disgusting, come to comfort you when you are sad, you will think it is fake and makes you angry. is a subjective evaluation of .
5. Why do you have different evaluations of different people and are angry with the people you hate? Because your current needs are not met. In fact, the so-called emotionality is that we want to use this behavior to meet our current needs. Usually, you should be careful to know what you really need in your heart. This will make it easier for you to achieve your goals.
6. However, few of us will seriously understand our inner needs. For example, your monthly salary is 10,000, but today your colleagues have increased their money, and each person has increased to 20,000, but you are still 10,000, and you are very angry. From a mathematical point of view, you have not changed, and the investment is still 10,000 yuan. Why are you angry? Do you think you have less money, or because of money, or because your contribution is greater than others, but you have not increased money, etc. In fact, you will feel that this is not a matter of money, but that you are worried that others will look down on you and feel that you are insulted. If you often can't figure it out, this is your mind mode , and this is part of your personality.
Such six environments, from 6 to 1, produce our final emotional behavior. I don’t know the true face of Mount Lu because I am in this mountain. If you often follow the above six steps to understand your emotional behavior, with such habits, our ability to control our emotions will become more and more ideal.
We often want others to change their behavior, which is impossible. We must start from ourselves and understand our emotions through self-judgment, discover the process of emotions, change ourselves in this direction, and drive others. This is the most appropriate method.
#The man was so angry that he was roaring by the hieroglyphs written by his son#
