First of all, you must understand that the essence of anxiety and depression is fear . If you want to eliminate anxiety and depression, you must eliminate fear. This is the only way to avoid it!
Since it is caused by fear, then we must find the reason for fear! Most people's fears often come from the following aspects:
1, native family : The negative factors brought by the growing environment and caregivers when they were young, leading to behavioral and cognitive deficiencies.
2. Major blow: has suffered some kind of major setback or blow, causing a psychological shadow.
3. Mismatch between needs and abilities: pursues too much, but does not have enough ability to satisfy it, leading to increasing frustration.
4. Over-obsession: is obsessed with certain things and does not know how to give up. It always feels that it must meet certain expectations in order to feel at ease.
5. Mental control: has been mentally controlled by others for a long time, including suppression, denial, binding, dependence, and disapproval, leading to low self-esteem and loss of self-awareness.
6. Mental illness: is caused by diseases, including but not limited to phobia, autism, , etc.
So what causes fear? The answer is: "No security."
It can be said that all anxiety and depression are caused by not having enough sense of security for a long time!
And I am sorry to tell you that this sense of security does not come from the insecurity from the outside world, but from the inability to satisfy your own sense of security in your own heart!
People who are insecure are because they have not received enough love and have a serious lack of attention to "feelings" . Their hearts are weak, closed, and powerless, and they always expect to get all kinds of satisfaction, attention, and recognition from the outside world... …And I can’t satisfy myself, I can’t love myself, I can’t be satisfied with myself.
So what methods can effectively improve your own sense of security? Please follow me. I will publish several comprehensive articles on improving your sense of security in the future.
