Smiling depression: I just look happy
Emotional stress
When it comes to depression, most people think of looking very pessimistic and depressed.
However, in life, there is a group of people who act carefree, optimistic and cheerful in front of outsiders, and are the happy fruits around everyone.
But in fact, they are very pessimistic and depressed in their hearts. They silently suffer anxiety, fatigue and despair every day, lose interest in everything, and even have suicidal tendencies. You can hardly relate depression to them.
In front of outsiders, they always wear a smiling mask; only they themselves know that underneath the mask is a face of pain and depression.
What is smile depression?
Smiling with depression, you just look happy, but the invisible scars are often deeper and more painful!
Smiling depression also belongs to depression, but depressed patients hide their real symptoms and show others with a "smile".
Different from typical depression, patients with "smiling depression" do not slump in bed every day and lose the ability to interact with others. On the contrary, they may have better social skills than ordinary people.
Just as I saw this sentence on Weibo: The collapse of modern people is a silent collapse. The same is true for
smiling depression. It is a more hidden and more dangerous form of depression than ordinary depression.
If sadness is not seen, energy will not flow.
In order to maintain their own image in the minds of others and conform to social expectations, they do not want others to see their bad side. They use smiles as a mask to cover up everything, forcing themselves to smile and deliberately concealing their true inner emotions. Smile shows people your sunny, positive and optimistic side.
As they pursue advantages, avoid disadvantages, and be right more and more rationally, they will realize that they are only "loved" to meet the requirements of others.
Emotions are blocked by so-called rationality. When you are sad, the more you ask yourself to be happy, the more the sadness is blocked and the more obvious the feeling becomes.
The sadness in people's hearts cannot be resolved. The more you use happiness to fill sadness, the more sadness will rebound strongly after the happiness leaves.
Gradually, the negative emotions that have been suppressed for a long time but cannot be vented continue to accumulate, becoming the last straw for them.
Why does smile depression occur? There may be several reasons:
Reason 1: Feeling depressed is shameful
For patients with smiling depression, it is shameful to express their weakness to others, so when sadness strikes, they often feel like a mute and find it difficult to express express your true emotions.
They will have such a feeling-only a happy self can be liked by others; and a depressed self is bad and cannot be accepted by everyone.
In order to look normal, they simply suppressed their sadness and showed their smiles to everyone, but fell into the abyss of despair inside.
Reason 2: I am liked only if I am friendly
Many patients with smiling depression are very friendly people. In terms of relationship model, there is often a part of "pleasing" others - it is difficult to say no to others, because Worry that rejection will hurt the other person.
In addition, they dare not express their negative emotions in front of others because they are worried that expressing anger will hurt others, destroy relationships, and cause others to stop loving them; they are afraid that expressing their true needs will Become a "trouble" and cause trouble to others.
They feel that only by being kind to yourself can you be liked by others; only by hiding your negative emotions and true needs with a smile can you be worthy of being loved.
But in fact, their "friendliness" severely suppresses their own needs and emotions. In trying to please others with a smile, the symptoms will only become more and more serious.
Reason 3: They have expressed negative emotions but were not accepted
There are also some patients with smiling depression who have expressed their true emotions, but what they received was indifference and incomprehension -
"Why are you always unhappy?"
"Such a small thing is worth feeling sad about?"
"Can you not be so negative?"
This makes them feel that no one cares about them. Instead of exposing their weaknesses and getting hurt, it is better to wrap up the true self, at least it will be safe. of.
And smiling is just a way to protect yourself.
If you find that your family and friends are suffering from depression, please stay with them and provide them with a safe environment -
If they are unwilling to express what they are thinking, do not force them to talk;
If they are willing to talk, listen without judgment and treat them with respect;
provide them with a supportive relationship and actively encourage them to seek professional help.
If you are a smiling depressed person, I hope you can understand that you can be sad, but hiding and avoiding your emotions will not solve the problem.
Doctors recommend
If possible, be brave enough to seek professional psychological help. You will find that even if you are depressed, sad, and sad, you can still be seen, respected, and cared for.
