Foreword
In modern society, which type of people are the most anxious?
The author of the book "Cognitive Awakening" believes that adults in their thirties have the highest level of anxiety.
People at this age are anxious because they are at the three junctures in their lives:
1 is the responsibility barrier, there are old and the younger;
2 is the professional barrier, the front wave has not retreated, the back wave is chasing;
3 is relatively close, with money on the left and power on the right.
Many of us have reached the age of 30, and suddenly discovered that family responsibilities have become greater, professional careers have begun to be lost, and some of our friends have begun to embark on the road to success. At this time, I woke up suddenly, and I didn’t want to be anxious...
01
my story
4 when I can’t help it. Isn't this the me who I was talking about before?
In 2014, I was 29 years old. Before that, my life had always been messing around every day, playing games after get off work until late at night. The year of standing? Let alone stand up, I don't even know what I want to do. At that time, I only knew one thing-this kind of life was not what I wanted. I couldn't find the meaning of my existence and wanted to escape...
But the two-year-old son's "Dad" woke me up!
I thought, when the child grows up, will I think I am a bad father? If so, can I accept it?
Of course not!
At that time,I don't know, what kind of person do you want to be? But, I know, I must change!
So, I started to blindly try and learn randomly. I have been a micro business, Taobao, a community, and even direct sales are eager to try...
The more anxious, the more eager to find success. When the effect is not visible in the short term, I will immediately give up, change projects, change industries , But eventually made myself more anxious.
This feeling is very uncomfortable. At that time, I seemed to be struggling desperately in the swamp. The more I struggled, the deeper I was trapped in it............
Now looking back, the reason is that anxiety made me fall into a scarcity of success. The state has caused my mental bandwidth to drop drastically.
02 What is the mental bandwidth?
Mental bandwidth refers to the capacity of the mind.
Just like network bandwidth, network bandwidth supports the upload and download of our various programs. The mental bandwidth supports people's cognition, mobility and self-control.
Once the mental bandwidth is squeezed, it is easy for people to lose their judgment and make unwise choices, just like I did before.
Negative emotions will squeeze our mental bandwidth, in addition to anxiety, there are also depression, anger, etc.; as well as the pressure caused by stressful events, such as 's unfinished plan, we will do tomorrow The speech and so on.
03 How to increase our mental bandwidth?
Since negative emotions reduce our mental bandwidth,Let us do things with enthusiasm for three minutes and urgent needs; what can we do about this?
thinks in two directions:
First, it reduces or even eliminates our negative emotions.
But life is unsatisfactory, it is very common, even if you are cautious, you can't guarantee that you won't have negative emotions. Is it helpless? The good news is that there is a second direction we can think about, which is to increase our mental bandwidth.
Second, increase our mental bandwidth. There are 5 suggestions in the book:
1. Keep environmental awareness and choose wisely
The "environment" mentioned here actually includes ourselves, and awareness is the starting point for all changes
2. Keep Goal awareness, less is more
In the process of communicating with thousands of our students, I found that the problem with many people is that there are too many goals. For example, within a year, I want to learn new knowledge, make a lot of money, and I want to educate my children well, and by the way, I can train my husband well. In fact, less is more. Focus on your emotional goals and achieve the most important thing.
3. Stay aware of desires and examine decisions
In many cases, wanting nothing equals not getting anything
4. Stay aware of emotions and make careful decisions
After a lot of losses, I have a principle: Don’t make important decisions when your mood fluctuates a lot.
Generally, I will give myself at least 24 hours of buffer period.
5. Stay aware of your leisure time and set your own limits
We are humans,Not a machine, a certain amount of free time is a valuable resource for us to fight against stress and unexpected events. If you have been tight and busy like a spinning top every day, without stopping for a moment, then it is very likely that you should have responded to the sentence: running too fast, but forgetting why you started?
In summary, 5 techniques protect your mental bandwidth-environmental awareness, goal awareness, desire awareness, emotion awareness, leisure awareness.
04 Summary
Today we shared 3 points:
1 is mainly due to our enthusiasm for three minutes. Pressure
2 The so-called mental bandwidth is the capacity of the mind, just like the bandwidth of our network.
3 5 tips to protect your mental bandwidth-environmental awareness, goal awareness, desire awareness, emotional awareness, leisure awareness
So far, you have completed the "cognitive awakening" Sharing of this book:
1 Learning ability: How to improve the underlying ability of adults
2 Mobility: How to get rid of three-minute enthusiasm and focus on doing important things
3 Emotional power: How to deal with the anxiety that bothers us Emotions
It is still the same sentence. It is not enough to just listen to me. If you want to awaken and self-growth, I still suggest you to take a look at the original book.
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